I am currently reading this book and it gets me really confused. Some of the examples of love bombing you list in the first pages apply very much to what I did with “my” narc. Of course, I had been previously hurt (who hasn’t?!) and my first instincts were to keep my head cool but after a short while I gave in and replied to the excessive emailing with the same amount, I even sent music lyrics, told him (first!) he was my soulmate and that I had never met anyone like him before. I also was the first one mentioning the word “love”. If we follow the textbook, what I did could easily fit into the narcissistic traits, but I meant with my heart and soul every word and gesture.
What if I love bombed him as well?
You didn’t You were not creating an illusion and you were responding to what he fabricated. He was the architect not you. What you did was demonstrate that his manipulation was working.
Thank you. I wish I had found your books sooner. They would have kept me from totally embarassing myself.
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No, neurocolls, it’s not a hypnotic induction, in the contrary. We are constantly in some kind of trance, a slap in the face would have interrupted your current state. It’s also a shock, a mini-traumatization and probably anchored the words. As a whole with the chaos – harmony – shock – harmony sequence it’s a nice little trauma bonding. No hypnosis, but violent change of the state you were in.
I read the book.
I started thinking about the backhand slap. The Archie slap; had to go to youtube to watch it. No, that was not exactly the technique I was thinking about although the slap is the same.
The slap I was thinking about was:
My (narc) wife had a three day affair with a thirty year younger man. Somehow chaos turned into mini golden period. Luxury hotel, in the room preparing to go to fine dinner. Everything happy. Dinner the night before was wonderful. Small talk about preparations… Now without warning comes the Archie slap, directly followed by subtle: “his was longer”, then some more talk about “normal things”, then silence. Shock.
Stupid as I am I had earlier hacked her FB and had seen that there was nothing impressive with that other persons dick as of silly photo attachments, but that fact of memory was blocked out for many months and myself older than 50 was worrying about own penis size for the first time since about early teen.
Thanks for your answer, but does that mean that you believe/conclude that it actually is an example of rapid induction hypnosis?
Also thanks for writing and publishing your books. I have read five of them now and I am learning.
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Thank you for reading Neurocolls. I was referring to her instinctive method of manipulation. I will have to read more about rapid induction hypnosis to comment further.
I am currently reading this book and it gets me really confused. Some of the examples of love bombing you list in the first pages apply very much to what I did with “my” narc. Of course, I had been previously hurt (who hasn’t?!) and my first instincts were to keep my head cool but after a short while I gave in and replied to the excessive emailing with the same amount, I even sent music lyrics, told him (first!) he was my soulmate and that I had never met anyone like him before. I also was the first one mentioning the word “love”. If we follow the textbook, what I did could easily fit into the narcissistic traits, but I meant with my heart and soul every word and gesture.
What if I love bombed him as well?
You didn’t You were not creating an illusion and you were responding to what he fabricated. He was the architect not you. What you did was demonstrate that his manipulation was working.
Thank you. I wish I had found your books sooner. They would have kept me from totally embarassing myself.
You are welcome, thank you for reading.
No, neurocolls, it’s not a hypnotic induction, in the contrary. We are constantly in some kind of trance, a slap in the face would have interrupted your current state. It’s also a shock, a mini-traumatization and probably anchored the words. As a whole with the chaos – harmony – shock – harmony sequence it’s a nice little trauma bonding. No hypnosis, but violent change of the state you were in.
I read the book.
I started thinking about the backhand slap. The Archie slap; had to go to youtube to watch it. No, that was not exactly the technique I was thinking about although the slap is the same.
The slap I was thinking about was:
My (narc) wife had a three day affair with a thirty year younger man. Somehow chaos turned into mini golden period. Luxury hotel, in the room preparing to go to fine dinner. Everything happy. Dinner the night before was wonderful. Small talk about preparations… Now without warning comes the Archie slap, directly followed by subtle: “his was longer”, then some more talk about “normal things”, then silence. Shock.
Stupid as I am I had earlier hacked her FB and had seen that there was nothing impressive with that other persons dick as of silly photo attachments, but that fact of memory was blocked out for many months and myself older than 50 was worrying about own penis size for the first time since about early teen.
As I read about the slap as intimidation I had a vague remembering of rapid induction hypnosis.
http://www.mindpowernews.com/HypnoticHandshake.htm
Look for Milton Erickson in:
http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/trump-talks-to-the-crowd-using-anchors-and-hypnosis/
How can my wife instinctively know about this technique?
Or am I just on confirmation bias?
It is because it is an effective mechanism associated with our kind.
Thanks for your answer, but does that mean that you believe/conclude that it actually is an example of rapid induction hypnosis?
Also thanks for writing and publishing your books. I have read five of them now and I am learning.
Thank you for reading Neurocolls. I was referring to her instinctive method of manipulation. I will have to read more about rapid induction hypnosis to comment further.
HG, you slap people?
If required.