The Narcissistic Truths – No. 163
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Yes, I have learned a lot. I forgive him, but I still share my story to help others. The Narcissist was a major con artist, and had everyone believing his lies. He will never change because he sees nothing wrong in his cruel nature. He plays everyone, and pretends to be a martyr helping Victims of Narcissists in Facebook support groups, of all things. His web is so tightly spun that I am sure he has even deceived himself. This is why everyone believes him; he believes his own lies. He loves to be coddled.
What a magnificent meme! 🙂
“Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers.” (Charles William Eliot)
Well said, Sarabella!
I could totally see this on a mouse mat/phone cover/t-shirt. I keep being drawn to it. You should branch out on the merchandising HG!
I approve.
I can see us all with our HG anti-narc t-shirts on – like an army! All the narcs out there would be like – No! avoid that one – she’s been HG’d No fuel there!
We could use it to capture narcs and then we could feed them to you – maybe the fuel won’t be as good but there would be lots of it.
You need a logo…..
Flickatina, at first thought I think, “that’s a great idea”, but then reality struck and I realized that the Narcs will just go and do the same thing and they’ll still end up winning in the end because they’ll make us think they’re one of us. With that said though, I really do like your idea 😁👍
Well if you are going to bring reality into it…….😂😂
You already have a logo – I got a bit carried away and over exited then. I’d fast forwarded to a multi billion pound global enterprise.
Maria:
I found that the knowledge, as each piece fell into place, did lead to very destructive reactions on my part. But. They were necessary. Absolutely necessary. I will never regret now how much I wanted to and needed to slash and burn everything that kept me connected to the narc. Once I got how set up I was by him, he needed to be destroyed at all costs. He never once had my well being in his consideration and so I had absorbed so much poison on so many levels. But that poison has been finally neutralized. Sometimes, drastic measures are needed because the tendrils were laid so manipulatively, that pretty much everything has to go. Clear cutting was the only way. Even if it did make me looks like him. he is gone now and he will stay gone. He is too cowardly to ever raise up to my level. He can’t even if he wanted to.
I will always forgive myself from now on, especially grasping from HG’s blog how truly set up I was. It may have been easy for him to do (to con, fraud, scam, abuse, lie to me) but in the end, all he is is a computer program that runs. It runs and executes against anyone who should come near him. Even my being targeted was nothing special. It said nothing about me. He is constantly running that program and it was only my misfortune that I got caught. I could have been anyone, really. He set me up to feel special, but I never was.
So I ran my own virus program and executed it on him. Where I was concerned, his hard drive was destroyed. He won’t ever be back. All his pathetic resources will go into one thing alone, making sure his program is back to running order and then he will continue on his way, running it over and over against further victims.
Sarabella thank you
yes. It feels just that: a computer program..
i have to yet find the right anti- virus program to eliminate it from my life..
it is like a super- virus that has embedded itself in everyting..
Sarabella,
Can you expand on what specifically you did (aside for your personal self such as the getting rid of their insidious gifts) to your narc that you think will keep him away? Thank you.
He always hated me, he only pretended to care. And I insulted him (denigrations are only allowed one way, afterall) so much that he doesn’t care anymore. It was all a joke to him so he moved on once I got that he was only dangling me over the cliff for fun, not because he couldn’t decide or had commitment issues or was dealing with intimacy fears. Or, to quote what he told me once, even predators know when to retreat. Nice, huh?
I am in dangerous waters now, because the understanding, to me, its an unstoppable flood with no boundaries to keep its overflowing.
Now i feel the tantilising, challenging charming effect.
Like the Narc, I feel now that knowledge has forcibly open me a gorge of emotions carring me into an ocean of destructive thoughts.. like a Tsunami on its way..
Maria tsunami has been a very domentant factor in my dreams lately overtaking and consuming me.
Sorry I just found it interesting to your reference of a tsunami and the fact this meme contains a large amount of water
Yes Twilight
when i saw the picture and the water being contained by a bid drum of books signifying knowledge.. what evoked in me is what i wrote..
I am totally overwhelmed by this reaveled knowledge..
it is effecting me totally in an opposite way.
HG many are tapping into you from your reservoir knowledge, and drinking deeply.
Strange imagery yet amazing, I can not imagine any other then you for this job.
You Go Boy! Sell them books!
💙
There are two different kinds of awareness. The first kind is rational awareness that everybody can gaining by reading about narcissism and affective addiction. This kind is the important base to get to the second kind of the awareness: the emotional awareness. This second kind is more difficult to achieve. Most of the time you come to it when you touch the bottom of suffering but it is judt this deep awareness that pushes you to change and close every doors and windows and small glimmer to those who have made you suffer so much.
Do you ageee with me?
I really love that picture. Masterful HG, masterful.
Mmmm I love a study/library. #damgoals
I am having a hard tI’m seeing comments for Feb. Everytime I click on “see comments” it shots me back to subcribe..over and over. ♡Zoey
I guess I should have sent you an email rather than to post these questions. I am using my phone, and have never posted here before….
Virginia
Hi HG,
I have a several questions…
1) I was told by a therapist that I tend to intellectualize my feelings. I was taken back by this because I have a lot of deep feelings. She sad that I take my feelings up to my head and analyze them to death. I guess when I feel pained by a narc relationship, I obsess over learning more
info. in order to gain ground and to protect myself. Maybe by reading about narcs, it is easier than to feel. It is my way of coping.
Is this what you are saying here? Understanding is the defense? Or, are you saying that we can defend ourselves better the more we understand what the narc is all about?
2) When my narc creates a conflict, sometimes I will go to my computer, which is in plain view from where he sits, and I put on your videos without sound. I pause it and I make sure that a picture on the screen is paused like Pinocchio’s long nose “Lying” video. I did this twice because rather than speak up, I was sending him the message that I know who he really is, and that he is not in control of me. One time that I did this, he sunk into his chair and put his head into his hands. He looked like a beaten puppy. The other time I did this, he had a tantrum. How would this affect the narc? Would it tend to make him back off, because I know his tactics?
3) Why does a narc have a need to know everything about everyone? They are just strangers. I am very observant, but this is over the top. My narc says that he is highly visual. No detail goes unnoticed even with the quickest glance. It almost feels invasive and creepy. Can you expand on this?
4) Since my narc went into a terrible rage in mid Dec. I cut off our semi personal relationship. We are colleagues and we are living together for a few months to work on our businesses together. We use to hang out and have some good times mixed in with the narcs negative ways. Now, I have built a wall around myself and I show little to no expressions or conversations with him. I act as neutral as possible. About 2 times a week as I leave for work, he comes over to me to give me a tight embracing hug good-bye. This seems a bit confusing as we don’t hold hands or kiss anymore. I am the one that ended that part of our relationship. We still work and live together though. Why does he hug me and try to be nice since the Dec. terrible episode? He will kid around at times, too. I know narcs want fuel, but I want to hear from your point about this? I do everything for him and support him financially as he is building a huge start-up. But still, why the hugging? I never reach out to hug him anymore.
Thank you for your great info.
You are a life saver for so many.