The Narcissistic Truths – No. 174

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59 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 174

  1. Maria says:

    Twilight
    We chose to be chosen because of the challenges ahead.. and we thought of victories…
    an interesting subject .. indeed..

  2. SweetSoul says:

    As I see it there is a level of reciprocity here, we (recovering narcaholics) are offered a glimpse of the truth behind the mask, and HG maybe gets a certain amount of fuel from all the comments, thanks & compliments that he receives in return for his candour about his kind. Nothing wrong with that as long as we remain balanced in our quest for knowledge & not finding ourselves desperately waiting for the next nugget thrown to us by a Narcissist.

  3. Matilda says:

    This is apt.

    Once there is serenity in your life, they contact you… not just my narc, but other toxic people as well… as if they can sense it.

    I have a feeling that one reason why my narc contacts me is because he feels trapped behind his mask. He used to tell me ‘you make me feel alive’, as if he wanted to connect to something real to shut out all the fakeness for a while. I was a breath of fresh air in his life, and he misses my company. Denying him this is part of the satisfaction ‘no contact’ brings.

    He chose image over substance, everything said and done fit his carefully crafted image of the middle-class gentleman. But who is a narc doing this for?! To impress the neighbours, to woo his friends who are just as fake as him?

    Narcs do not realise that most people do not give half the amount of thought they do to banalities such as the size of one’s house or where you do your grocery shopping. It is irrelevant. There are far more important things in life to worry about. And those who do care about such trivial matters are probably narcs themselves. So, who exactly are they doing this for?

    1. Maria says:

      Matilda they do that because they have a compultion to do it..
      it is for their own ego.

      1. Matilda says:

        Yes, that is probably all there is to it!

  4. If a Narcissist grants respites…then they allow our seed of life…or souls to grow again in strength…if a narcissist never completely kills you off they are biding time for that seed soul to grow again…to which they will …reap the rewards of what they sew…hence my first comment…but we also seek to reap…we seek to come back and be used over and over in the same way…hence we both sew seeds watch them grow and reap

  5. Maria says:

    Such poweful SEED
    Eve had everything in the Garden of Eden
    until the master of all masters Narcissisms Satan imself hoovered into her ears!!
    We are all Eves after that..

    1. twilightdreams1 says:

      Eve made a choice, you can not have one with out the other. Dark and light.
      A beginning and an end.
      We were given a choice.
      Do you really believe God didn’t know before hand this was to play out?

      1. Maria says:

        Twilightdreams1
        Absolutely, our entanglement with ‘”one of them” .. i believe it was not a coincidence..
        We chose to be chosen …

        1. twilight says:

          Maria I agree We chose to be chosen

        2. twilight says:

          Maria I understand why I feel I chose this path, HG has been wonderful in helping with this awareness yet if I may ask why do you feel this way that we chose to be chosen?

  6. Snow White says:

    I interperate this to mean that if I don’t give you what you need you won’t Hoover me.
    So that means no food, water, sunshine, or attention for you and you will leave me alone.
    Then I can live in peace.
    I don’t know if that’s how you meant for me to see it.

  7. ❀️ Sweet Spicy πŸ’” says:

    Again, my notifications are closed from seeing any of your commenters lunge at me for my above opinions. I really don’t care what they have to say because they are obviously not well.

  8. ❀️ Sweet Spicy πŸ’” says:

    I must say, though, your articles are brilliant and very beneficial, to say the least. And, I actually come up with questions about your articles pertaining to my experiences with the Narcissists, and also concerning my purchases of your books. But, I cannot find enough seriousness amongst all the commenter’s overly-flowery, fluffy, sickly sweet comments to get the nerve to ask the real questions that are so important to me. Due to your beautiful writings, and helpful perspectives that you share with others, this could have been an incredibly amazing site. But, all the nonsensical and lusty comments from these lonely, sexually- frustrated women bloggers had made this site into a laughable spectacle. This is just my opinion, of course.

    I would like to put many of your posts on my Blog because they are amazing articles, but I am embarrassed and ashamed to do so because I don’t want to subject my followers to the circus sideshow of your commenters idiotic “Love Rantings” about a proclaimed sociopath.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I have a new name for you to use; “The Vacillator”.

      1. πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        I am undecided as to whether I like this name, or not.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Very good, I see what you did there.

          1. ❀️Vacillator πŸ–€ says:

            Oh my gosh! I just realized something! How did you know?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            I make it my business to know.

          3. πŸ₯€πŸŒΉπŸŒΊ says:

            Oh, then you know about that other thing, too!

          4. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

            Le lien d’amour mystΓ©rieux …

      2. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        You turn me on

    2. Sunshine says:

      Sweet Spicy – if you have some good questions, why don’t you ask them anyway? Perhaps we could all benefit from your questions and the answers you receive?

      Does it really matter if the questions / comments above & below yours could be considered inappropriate to the nature of this blog?

      1. πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        I do not think he will answer me…

        1. πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

          It depends on his mood; today he is in a better mood. It shall not last.

      2. Bloody Elemental says:

        Shall we start passing out the strait jackets and padding the walls with rubber?

        I sense things about to go downhill, which is predictable and disappointing.

    3. Flickatina says:

      Ok – so how many different names do you have on here. I’m having a hard time keeping up.

      1. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        This is because I keep being hoovered by the Narcissist…oh, and by my grandpa, too, who wants me to sit on his lap.

    4. Maria says:

      Sweet Spicy
      you describes our posts about the hurtful experiences we are going through :
      “overly- flowerly, fluffy, sickly comments” from ” sexually frustrated women??”
      And you are embarassed about our comments??
      who do you think you you are?????
      YOU SOUND WORSE THAN A NARCISSIST . !!!!!!
      Sorry, i might be an empath.. but i am not a coward…

      1. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        Your apology is accepted, Maria.

      2. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        Move Over then, Mr. Tudor…Maria says I sound worse than a Narcissist. I’ve had a lot of practice.

        After all, a BPD is just someone who is willing to call others out on their sh*t.

      3. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        HG is ((( HOT ))) I wanna wrestle on the floor with him… I wanna ride all day, an all night…. deeeeeep…..deeeeep…..

    5. Oh for god’s sake woman…I’d be more embarrassed for yourself right about now…what the hell does anyone else being or not being serious really if truth be told have to do with you asking your supposed “real” questions…People like you and “Square box” aren’t driving me crazy…”you got me drove” !! You probably wouldn’t even ask anything that hasn’t already been asked and by the looks of things would not be able to be original in your approach either…How about printing your comment and my reply to “your sideshow blog”…lets just see how many laughs we get. No?…then lets all hear those oh so pertinent questions now…step right on up…don’t be shy…(that’s side show humor BTW) πŸ˜‰

      1. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        I never said my questions would be Original; I just said that I have questions to ask. If you do not like my personal blog, why have you been on it, then? I am not sure what you mean by, “Square Box”. And, I have a good idea who this is, btw. And no, Grandpa, I still won’t sit on your lap.

      2. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        Also, Grandpa, I have over 500 friends on my blog who thoroughly enjoy my poetry, and correspond with me frequently by email. You are the only one, Grandpa, who has ever said anything negative about my blog- which is in private mode currently because of Narcissist Hoovering me. Just because I won’t lift my skirt up for you does not mean you need to take it out on my poetry, Gramps.

    6. nikitalondon says:

      πŸ˜ƒ

  9. Just when our life starts to recover and sprout BOOM! Heeeeesss Baaaaccckk! Muhuhahaha!

    1. 1jaded1 says:

      Hi ABB. N2 usually hoovers after a Red Wings related death…Bud Lynch and Gordie Howe, their deaths had his texts to me saying that life was short. Mike Ilitch died and I haven’t received one, thank something. Maybe he has learned or maybe found another source and can’t be bothered. Yay for me, boo for her.

      1. Hi 1J1. Obviously he associates the wings with you. Hopefully he did move on and can get busy associating them and the new stadium with someone else. Illitchs loss, my 2nd thought was – another narc bites the dust. Sung to Queen of course.

        1. 1jaded1 says:

          Hi ABB. I didn’t see Ilitch’s traits. A friend of my late dad, her father’s daughter worked in corporate. She said he was a fair boss. Maybe he wore a mask. I never met him. I never delved deep. His pizza was mediocre. I remember the commercial about the girl in the high chair and the cheese.

  10. Claire says:

    Not sure I fully get this one. Would this indicate a fresh seedling is weak and easy to target? Is this cover an initial hoover or subsequent hoovers?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hi Claire, it means that just as you are healing and “growing” again, we sense it and hoover you.

  11. Flickatina says:

    Another powerful image. Just as we are starting to grow again, you seek to destroy us.

  12. Planting the seeds of…what you sew…you reap.

    1. Maria says:

      Elaine Baylis-Slade
      what they reep for them it is just fluel they want..

      1. Maria…you are addressing A BP inverted narcissist with over 50 years of living with Narcissistic personality disordered peoples…2 families worth…many friends and acquaintances as well…Do you consider yourself a “normal”…because from where I sit…we sew what we reap too…it is also a type of fuel that we seek to sustain us…but I guess you haven’t got that far yet in your understanding…or reading…so cheers & Here’s to when you do <3
        Meant with much respect.

        1. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

          Oh, wow! A professional BP inverted Narcissist! Oh, wow! Are you famous? You sure are special, aren’t you? I know who you really are, though.

  13. 1jaded1 says:

    Nope.

  14. eumajoc says:

    You are amazing! πŸ™‚

  15. ❀️ Sweet & Spicy πŸ’” says:

    I shan’t hold my breath. As a matter of fact, I’m outta here πŸ’‹ Ta Ta… your commenters are just too willing to ‘lick the lint out from between your toes’ for me to be able to take this site seriously…it’s too much of a circus for me 🎑🎒🎠. It’s become more of a joke, than a place to learn and grow. Farewell…my notifications will be turned ‡️❌ off for this site.

    1. Scout says:

      It does seem like there are a lot of boot lickers here! Kind of nauseating, but I do enjoy HG’s writings.

      1. πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        I enjoy his writings, too, Scout.

      2. And here we have the perfect example of another boot licker… lol…& right on Q even… I couldn’t have planned that better myself…signed yours truly…boot licker # ? πŸ˜‰

        1. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

          Mmmmmm, HG….ohhhhhhh, yesssssssss! Ssssssssssss…..ahhhhhhhh! ahhhhhhhhh! Mmmmmmmmmm, oh yaaaaaaaaa

    2. NarcAngel says:

      Sweet and spicy.
      Ok. See you next week.

      1. πŸ’œπŸ’œ says:

        Not after I read Exorcism, if it’s as effective as I am hoping, NarcAngel!

  16. Kit says:

    Can you hoover a narc?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Do you mean me? If so, yes. If you mean you as in an empathic individual, no, but you can prompt one.

      1. sarabella says:

        An empath can. I did it to him. But only if you are willing to be cunning and manipulative and mimic/channel their mindset. I set him up once and he fell right in to it. He bit back hard though. Its only a waste of time in the end. Just a waste of soul and life.

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