The Narcissistic Covenant

THE NARCISSISTIC

 

There is a covenant which exists between you and I, between our kind and your kind. It is not necessary for you to provide consent to this covenant in order for it to be binding. You do not know that this covenant exists but it does. Its terms govern the relationship between us and you, whether you are entangled with the Lesser of our kind, the Mid-Range of the Greater. It matters not. The covenant applied from the moment that we selected you to be our victim. There are ten parts to this covenant and they reflect the mind set and attitude of our kind towards you and how you and I interact. There is little doubt that in looking back at your entanglement with us you will recognise certain elements of this but whilst you were very much in our grip, you would have no idea that these were the terms which governed our treatment of you.

  1. You were chosen

Our ensnaring of you might have been portrayed as chance, a piece of serendipity but it was not. You were chosen to be our victim. The Lesser will have instinctively recognised your potential without knowing why. The Mid-Range will have applied some thought to the process, potentially dismissing less favourable candidates. The Greater identified you, monitored you and then moved in for the “kill”. In every instance you were chosen.

  1. You belong to us

You are an object to us. An appliance. Therefore, we are able to assert proprietary rights over you just as we would with some other kind of object or chattel. Since we own you, we choose what to do with you, without recourse to you or anybody else. This is our inalienable right.

  1. You exist solely for our purposes

We are the centre of your world, the heart of your universe and at all times everything that you do should be focused on us, for our benefit and advancement. You do not exist for your family. You do not exist for our children. You do not exist for your friends, colleagues, fellow members of a club or congregation. We are all that matters to you.

  1. This is forever

This covenant lasts for ever. In our minds it is one that exists in perpetuity for we do not wish to contemplate our own demise and care nothing for yours, other than it inconveniencing us by the interruption to our supply of fuel. This relationship transcends all others. You may have told us that you do not wish to be “with us” any longer. You may have broken off the engagement or divorced us. In our mind all that you have done is end the Formal Relationship which is something that people lesser than our kind engage in with one another and that which we accede to for the sake of fitting in. In our minds our relationship exists beyond this Formal Relationship. This is the Narcissistic Relationship and means we remain entitled to effect the terms of this covenant against you at all times until your last breath or our last breath.

  1. This is totalitarian

There is no limit to our power over you. We are entitled to and we will exercise our right to, govern every facet of your life, interfere in everything that you do, monitor you and control you in order to achieve our aims. You must accept that you are entirely subservient to us.

  1. You cannot end this covenant

You have no rights under this covenant. You cannot bring about its unilateral termination. Indeed, it cannot be ended at all. You are not able to state that its terms are inapplicable to you, that it has no jurisdiction or effect over you. Such protestations are invalid.

  1. We owe you nothing

We are entitled to do as we please without challenge, question or restraint. We have no obligation to do anything for you. We have no compulsion to act in your interests, have regard to your opinion, your feelings or your desires. If we do so, it will only be for the advancement of our position.

  1. Fuel provision is paramount

The provision of fuel is above all else. This is in terms of what you must provide to us and also in allows us to seek fuel from other sources, whenever we deem necessary and howsoever we choose. Concepts of fidelity and monogamy are null and void with regard to this part of the covenant. Issues of protocol and etiquette and meaningless.

  1. The Ends Justifies the Means

The covenant grants us carte blanche to do what is necessary for our purposes. This is supported by our concept of total entitlement and the fact that we have no accountability, culpability or blameworthiness for any of our actions. Whatever needs to be done will be done to ensure the furtherance of our agenda, aims and needs.

  1. We are the Victim

We are the victim in all of this. This is why the covenant exists by reason to compensate us for all of the outrageous injustices, misfortunes, unfairness and hardships that this cruel and feckless world has meted out to us.

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18 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Covenant”

  1. So, in essence, we are a slave and we suffer because the narcissist has suffered previously at the hands of another.

    So, doesn’t this projection of blame (that stems from the original
    source(s) of abuse) onto innocent others cause some cognitive conflict within someone with the level of insight you have into this type of engagement, HG? I know, compartmenting. It just amazes me that you can compartment at that level….I can only compartmentize so much, then it all bleeds through. Especially when it has to do with my ethics.

    I am really very sorry about the abuses you endured, HG. Really. I know many of us would like to get our hands on those that did you wrong as a child. That is truth. And, I still wish you find peace as it is so much harder to keep this vendetta up, righting the wrongs with a figurative weapon of mass destruction (narc tools)…when a more precise aim would suffice 😉 **not recommending murder, lol**

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  2. I’ve found I have to love him and have an emotional attachment in order to be in the covenant. For me, a cerebral narcissist was easy to ice out.

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  3. The Truth once again, HG. I tested your theory on hoovering and returned to a place he and I once hung out at. I knew word would get back to him. I thought I was healed enough and an attempt to contact me wouldn’t bother me. I was wrong. If there were ever any doubts as to what he is there is no longer. He did precisely what I thought he would do (after reading your articles) and he had been texting ever since. I have his number blocked and didn’t realize it until the other day I got a call from a private number. I checked the blocked messages because I had a suspicion and of course, it was him. Claiming he let me go so that I would fix my marriage and go back to my husband and how dare I be seen in public with someone else. 😀 He of course also got more malicious with each text there was no reply to and ultimately threatened to take pictures and tell my husband that this other man was alone with me at my job. Uhm…I am a bartender. I work in a public place and who I talk to is none of his business anymore. I find it amazing that he somehow has turned this around from my kicking him out for being a psychopath and an abusive ass to his “letting me go to have me fix my marriage”. Uhm, you didn’t let me go. I kicked you out.Ultimately he found the chink in my armor and accused me of giving the dog we had gotten together away. I have of course not given my dog away and replied which just triggered a hoover complete with “I still care for and love you and just want you to be happy”. When that got no reply he got nasty and informed me that he had a new Family now (five months since I kicked him out) and he was sorry for bothering me. If you have a new family why are you so concerned with who I may or may not be sleeping with then boo boo? He then accidentally texted me what must have been messages for the new supply. It was chilling to see the messages I once craved now being sent to some other poor fool. The same underlying control in each message. I have no doubt she is being abused already just by reading the accidental texts he sent to me. The funny part is, I am sure he did it on purpose to show how happy they are and that he is living with her…it had the opposite effect…thanks to you, HG. <3

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  4. A couple questions:

    1. Can a greater identify, monitor and move in for the kill all within 48 hours?

    2. And also disengage in equal amount of time?

    Thank you.

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    1. 1. Yes easily and “the kill” applies to various instances.
      2. If necessary yes, albeit in many instances this would not happen because of the investment.

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  5. Wait a minute….the ends DO justify the means? Funny how mine always told me the opposite!!!!! Oh Narc opposite day don’t ever change! #sarcasm

    He also told me, “Gabrielle, I am not saying that your feelings for me are not real but they cannot be justified!”

    That sentences makes no fucking sense whatsoever.

    My head hurts again.

    Dammit to hell.

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  6. Happy Friday HG,
    I have read this article 3 times and love it. There is one part which I still don’t understand-number 4. Do you think this way because you know we are easy to hoover-so therefore will always be accessible? I just don’t understand the forever. . .

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    1. It is because of our desire for certainty of behaviour with our alliances and our sense of entitlement.

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  7. I can wrap my brain around #’s 1-9, and understand the end results as well.

    However, #10: Is there any inkling of “true feelings” here? or is it just contrived machinations? Hard to believe, acknowledge and/or accept the lack of personal cognizance…
    Seriously has to be some wires crossed somewhere and/or just plain missing? HG?

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    1. Is that question so difficult to answer for you, HG? Or do you avoid that question to hold on to your facade? Did you avoid to identify with your father, because he was weak in your eyes? But why have you been fuelled because he was proud of your degrees? He is nothing in your eyes. Or was he important in some way? Why was his opinion important? He was inferior, did you forget? He was sooooo inferior. He was an empath. Truth hurts or not? I am a scorpion, I know. Achieve awareness. Break down and cry about your fate. I am right and you know it. I do not care about the opinion of others. Like you. Am I a narcissist? No, I am not. I do care about people .I really do. Maybe, you try to create a theory, where I fit in. You could have said “Yes” or “No” to that question. Why don`t you answer? … Because that would destroy your image of that broken boy, abused by his mother and her sister and therefore entitled to do what you do. Or are you just confused? I will make a note and look for it even after three month or more. This is forever.I owe you nothing, I am entitled, you know?

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