World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day



I wish to share with you that I will be speaking at this year’s 2nd Annual Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Virtual Summit in honour of World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day.

You can see from the list of speakers that I am the sole representative of the dark side, just as I prefer it of course.

You won’t be able to access my interview until later on the 1st June as I am not being interviewed until later in the day, I would not want you to worry that I am missing !

World Narcissistic Abuse Day Awareness (WNNAD) is celebrated on June 1st every year and is a growing global movement dedicated to raising the profile of narcissistic abuse. To learn more about WNAAD or to join the cause, please visit

This year’s Telesummit is hosted by Bree Bonchay, LCSW, founder of WNAAD and Athena Moberg, CPC, co-founder of Trauma Recovery University.

Access to all of the expert interviews are complimentary for a limited time. You may sign up now for complimentary access. Once you are signed up, you may listen at your leisure beginning June 1st.

Here is a list of the speaker panel and the topics which they will be presenting on at this year’s event.

Sandra L. Brown, MA-  Why It’s More Than Just Being an ‘Empath’–Understanding the Personality Science Behind Why You Are Targeted

Richard Grannon- C-PTSD – How to Stop Emotional Flashbacks

Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.- Life in “Narcissistically” Abusive Relationships. Learn to Spot These Dangerously Dysfunctional Dynamics Before They Spiral Out of Control.

Lisa Romano- The Dynamics Between Codependency and Narcissism- Why Do Codependents Attract Narcissists?

William Brennan, ME.D, LMHC, CAP- E.M.D.R Treatment- Healing The Aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse

Christine Louis de Cannonville- The Pathological Behaviors of Narcissistic Mothers

Steve Becker, LCSW, CH.TThe Red Flags of Psychopathic Personalities

HG Tudor- Inside the Mind of A Narcissist- What The Narcissist Thinks When You Go ‘No Contact” and The Most Effective Strategies to Release Their Hold On You 

Jennifer Young, LMHC- Has the Narcissist Really Changed with their New Partner?

Sherri Renner, PLLC-  How to Handle and Prepare for Legal Battles with Cluster B Individuals in Family Court- Diffusing Their Accusations, Antagonistic Emails and Social Media Smear Campaigns.

Heather Tuba, BA- The Importance in Advocacy in Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Supporting A Spouse With Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Kami Lindgren, BA- Life Beyond Pain: Healing from Chronic Illness through Neuroplasticity


Again, if you would like to reserve your free access, all you need to do is register at

I look forward to seeing you there and sharing a message of hope to all survivors of Narcissistic Abuse.




202 thoughts on “World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day

  1. Matilda says:

    Congratulations, HG! 🙂 People need to hear the truth straight from the horse’s mouth!

  2. Jaeger says:

    Hello HG. Congratulations on your achievement here. Do you have all of your minions polishing up your speech? Are you practicing your Jedi mind tricks? Do you have your megaphone with Go Narcs written on the side? You can use said megaphone to heckle others. I note the color for awareness is purple. Ah the color of royalty. How fitting for narc awareness day. That title is really a misnomer. Aren’t all days supposed to be your day? I’m impressed with the list of speakers, you first of course then Sandra L. Brown. I’ve read her books. I see that private island and jet is within reach. Don’t forget me when you are famous in the narcissistic sector. Er, wait I guess you already are. Just don’t forget to fly me in when you need some blue lipped fuel. You remember how good I sound. Can’t wait to hear how good you sound too. ♡☆

  3. superxena says:

    After doing some research of the speakers I realised that I have actually read several books of some of them. Unfortunately I didn’t recognise their names…shame on me. Perhaps they didn’t give the impact that this site has left on me.
    I do not mean they are not competent and surely their books have helped me a lot to come up to a certain level in my process of understanding. I read many,many books and sites but still there was something missing.
    This site gave me what I was missing. And I will try to summarise it shortly what this site has given me:
    1. I needed the right medicine to the sickness/infection. Not to be “healed ”
    2. I needed to know what the sickness was : an addiction to the Narcissist. Not to be explained again ( with scientific terms) the symptoms of it.Those I knew because I was feeling them.
    3. I needed to know exactly how I got infected by someone that does the infection.Not hearing just theories about how it might be done.
    4. I needed to know what to do practically to break the addiction.Not to hear again theories of how it might be done.
    5. I needed to know why I did not enter in the description of being a co-dependant.It was not me in the description.But still got entangled with a narcissist.
    6. I needed to know why I got infected: by learning more about me in the empathic- narcissistic spectrum.
    7. I needed to know what to do to protect me from further entanglements by learning more about myself instead of focusing just on the narcissist.
    All these needs and answers to my questions were finally given to me by this site!
    I really hope that both the professionals that work with these issues and people who have been entangled with a Narcissist can grasp the unique knowledge of this site that ( according to me ) finally “closes the circle”.
    Well done HG and I wish you luck on the Telesummit!

    Sent from my iPad

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you SuperXena, I appreciate your comments and it is always rewarding to receive such feedback.

      1. superxena says:

        Thank you for your answer and your welcome HG… You are going global!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I expect that to happen SX as it is needed.

          1. superxena says:

            It will HG! And it is needed…Just by looking at the speedness this site and the statistics of your books is increasing it’s testimony enough..

    2. 12345 says:

      I cannot agree more, superxena. I’ve thought about all the books I’ve read over the years in an effort to free myself from re-traumatizing myself over and over again. It took a narcissist with the willingness to share that finally helped me see who they are, how they worked, how I participated and begged them to choose me over and over again. I’m reading a lot about daughters of narcissistic mothers as well. It really is helping me see all the different imprints I was given as a child.

  4. Flickatina says:

    Dude. Way cool.

  5. foolme1time says:


    I honestly wrote the comment about fuel because of the comment I received when I commented about the other speakers not being able to compare to you. That was also a joke! You being a narc even if there was a speaker that was better then you ( just joking) you would never admit to it! I have been with you since your first post, I know you do not receive fuel from us and if you do it is very little! I would like to apologize to you ( just you) for all the bickering that one comment started! I actually find it amusing that a comment that trivial got blown out of proportion the way it did. Over the last few years their have been comments directed at you that could of been rated x! Again I apologize to YOU for any problem this comment may have caused you! Have a fab weekend HG! Enjoy your soccer! ⚽️ Lol

  6. Natalie says:

    This is awesome!! I recognize some of the names from following them on YouTube. Their insight was helpful but I ultimately stopped following when I found your channel and blog. Their commentary was all the same and made me feel victimized and powerless. You are the only person who can explain how the other half lives. I may not like what you do in your personal life but I am glad you have spread your knowledge to all of us who are trying to heal. Oh and it helps that your writing style is brilliant lol!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you Natalie

  7. I am so happy to see this post! I will be supporting the cause and will look forward to hearing you speak.

  8. Mrs Linton says:

    I think we should give credit where it is due to HG, and it certainly is due. I know this blog has changed my life, There is possibly a little too much gushing and a bit too much flirting from time to time, but who am I to judge? Small price to pay for all the efforts made and life changing material.

  9. It is a good idea but many of those speakers are ill themselves and thus everyone be warned such initiatives are further means of abusing you. I’ve come to the conclusion survivors don’t need therapy but to trust themselves finally, so should solve the problem privately. Unfortunately our world is such that people use your pain to ‘one up’ for themselves, even if they are not a narcissist.
    I’ve heard Richard do a YouTube Q and A in which he insults the victim and the way they express themselves. He is unstable.
    Narcissism should be an official illness listed everywhere with strategies for victims to escape, particularly as children.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Interesting that you make that observation about RG, AVS, I have had numerous people express similar sentiments to me and this has caused them to reach a certain conclusion.

      1. Curious says:

        Forgot to mention i think itd be great HG if in the future you could do some interviews with some others like Ross Rosenburg and Sam Vaknin. I watched an interview with Ross(psychologist) and Sam and really enjoyed it. There were some funny parts too lol Both got along well. Not sure if this is somethng youd consider but thougt id put it out there.

        1. Jenna says:

          Ross rosenberg is such a bore! Yawn! I couldn’t watch for more than 10 min.

          1. Lisa says:

            Totally agree about RR. Jenna. Sooo full of himself too if you listen close enough. I find him to be narcissistic himself. All the while duping everyone.
            Cant stand him.

      2. E. B. says:

        Is he a somatic narcissist?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I cannot pass comment as I have not watched enough of him to form a view. I have had it stated to me repeatedly by third parties that they believe this is what he is.

    2. MLA - Clarece says:

      I would not include Christine Louis De Canonville in that statement… at all. She is a phenomenal psychotherapist with most of her life’s work devoted to narcissistic abuse. She had dealt with abuse growing up from her psychopathic brother.
      She is the perfect ying to HG’s yang.
      The fact that HG is in her company for this event is most impressive to me and shows how quickly he is elevating as a valid and sound resource for narcissistic abuse.

      1. Curious says:

        Ive not hear of Christine lois de canonville. Ill have to look her up.
        Ive come across so many great sources of info on narcissism each i like for different reasons. They all bring their own style and experiences.
        HGs i find unique in that his works are creative and really draw you in. Like works of art really. Even someone who has no interest or experience in their life with narcissism would probably take interest in HGs works. Its a different angle ive not seen yet in any of the other contributors for narcissism out there.
        Im thankful for the internet and u tube. Its been my lifeline! I cant imagine all those years people suffered not understanding what they were dealing with.

    3. Curious says:

      Richard and Sam Vaknin did a few seminars together but had a disagreement of sorts. Im not sure what it was all about. Ive not watched many of Richards videos. One live session i joined briefly.
      I am surprised SamVaknin is not on the list. He also could offer some great input. Im so thankful for the info out there on narcissism. Its like a great mystery in my life solved

      1. HG Tudor says:

        I imagine the spat between RG and SV had something to do with it. The disagreement revolved around a video created by RG which SV stated painted SV in a poor light and RG in a good light. A reader pointed this out to me and I agree with SV. This then led to SV complaining about it to RG. RG pulled out of a seminar he was going to do with SV. RG’s followers then began attacking SV which brought about the closure of his YT channel and FB page (I suspect they are back up again) as he was accused of harassing certain individuals. I suspect SV did not do so as doing so would be beneath him, in the way I regard it as beneath me and what actually happened was a proportion of Lieutenants of RG went on the attack.

        Of course, like me, SV will always face the allegation “You are a narc so you are bound to be the one who is behaving badly.” However, what people often miss is that me and SV admit what we are – it is those of our kind who do not know what they are masquerade as caring empaths that are the problem and there are several of our kind who do this within the field of narc abuse support/awareness etc.

        This is one of the reasons I prefer to forge my own path.

    4. Mrs Linton says:

      I hope is ok to butt in here, very interesting point about teachers. It took me years to realise that a counselling course I undertook was actually run by a narcissist. The content of the course in hindsight was geared around the teachers own life and needs rather than anyone else’s. He systematically abused the group using all the narcissistic strategies going and used his power to systematically annihilate individuals by lying word salad gas lighting and shaming them in front of the group. Before I left I was told I used him as a taxi service (I did not) given back short bewildering golden periods, and finally told my personality was unrecoverable and I was due to psychologically implode. He got in touch with one of my business acquaintances a mutual friend telling him I did not pay my debts)now I recognise this as smearing) I paid everyone by the way.
      Ultimately I did quite well in my career and years later they got in touch to get a leg up into the organisation where I worked. I suppose this was a type of Hoover and ultimately I got cold feet. I do hope you will post this HG sorry if it is slightly off topic.Frightening that narcs can be counsellors.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Our kind appear as counsellors, therapists, running relationship advice sites, running support forums and of course they don’t know what they are and actually think they are good people even though they behave as you’ve described

      2. ava101 says:

        Mrs Linton, I actually think that there are many trainers and coaches & coach/counselling-trainers, etc. who are narcissistic. And yes, who may not be aware of that.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I agree

      3. Indy says:

        It is frightening and true, Mrs. Linton.

        Though, some amazing behaviorists that are on the narc spectrum that work in the field do great work. Just do not expect warm empathy 😂 They are the kick you in the booty therapists. I like my personal therapist to be a combo of tough truth bombs and empathic /supportive /validating when needed.

      4. Indy says:

        Ugh what a horrible experience 🙁 Not professional at all. I wonder if the university punished him or received lots of complaints. I’m sorry you went through that🙁

    5. Love says:

      Richard Grannon is a narcissist? Omg! I watched a few of his videos one night a long time ago and thought he was the empath traumatized by a narc femme fatale and he suffered from PTSD. I watched a few of Sam V’s videos that same night.
      Funny, I never went back to either. They couldn’t captivate me like Mr. Tudor’s writing. ❤

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Well that is what people have suggested to me on several occasions before anybody gets too excited, but as I mentioned I have not watched his work to form any view in that regard.

  10. sues423 says:

    What an honor to be asked to participate ! Very well deserved I might add!
    Thank you for all of your excellent, creative education!
    And thank you to the Good doctors for the suggestion and encouragement that lead you down this path.
    Cheers to you!

  11. strongerwendy says:


  12. ballerina9 says:

    HG, they listed your name in 8th position. What’s up with that?
    Extend your speech by 10 minutes to derail their schedule…. that’ll teach’em… 😂

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is an outrage. My agent has been hanged.

      Good idea. This better not happen next year!

      1. Clary says:


      2. ballerina9 says:

        You hanged your “agent”? How un-narc of you!
        Burnt at the stake (after a few spins on The Tudor Torture Wheel), yes.
        Are you losing your Narc touch with this (overdue) world fame?
        We can’t have that!!

  13. lansealan says:

    Do you find it interesting to observe the various levels/stages of where different commenters are at? Do you make mental notes to adjust your interaction with certain individuals? Or do you just spontaneously respond?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Yes I do find it very interesting. I respond as I do. I know plenty about my regular readers so it is instinctive that I adjust accordingly when I respond.

  14. Clary says:

    Nice super proud of my trainer Tudor

    1. amsodone says:

      Educator, Professor Tudor

      1. Clary says:


  15. Patricia says:

    This is SO awesome!

  16. Jenna says:

    This is excellent news! Like indy said, this is far exceeding you agreeing to participate in therapy. You’re now having an effect on the world. I’ve seen the works of some of the other speakers, and frankly i’m not interested. Why would i want to know about narcissism from a non-narc? I could share that info myself. The only speaker worth listening to is HG Tudor!

  17. Listful Dahlia says:

    That’s great HG. Well done.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you

  18. NarcedOut says:

    This is great and I will share this, people feel so alone out there because if someone has not been at the hands of a Narc, they have no idea what it is like. Spreading awareness and information is a good thing.

  19. NarcedOut says:

    @12345 I didn’t see HOF comment as berating HG. HG is a Narcissist and any compliments are fuel for him and anyone stating they love feeling a Narc, will always be victim to one IMO.

    I do appreciate HG and what he is doing, the help he provides but make no mistake about it, he gets fuel from this. He has hurt people like you and me. I cannot commend him nor praise him for being a Narc, and I do not like fueling him at all, but he does provide a very helpful service like none other. SO he uses what he is to help others, and I will use what he is to help me get over my Narc. WIn/win. But I won’t say he is a great person, he isn’t….at all.

    1. 12345 says:

      Hi NarcedOut. You are free to interpret HOF’s post however you want to. I asked HOF genuine questions. I didn’t say she was berating him. I have stated ad nauseam that I don’t care if HG gets fuel from me but where did I say HG is a great person and how is it wrong if I do think that? Am I breaking some empath code? I accept HG for what he is and he is honest about what he is. That’s a lot more than I can say about a lot of people including empaths. I have immense respect for people who have done the work to be self aware and HG has and is. Does that mean I condone his behavior? No and I never said I did. I have no shame or regret in letting HG know that I am grateful beyond measure because I can know what he is and still be comfortable with that. Why do you feel the need to tell me to “make no mistake about it” and what does “anyone stating they love feeling a narc” even mean?

      1. NarcAngel says:

        You were clear and polite in asking your questions and I would have been interested in the answers also. I have been curious about some peoples goals or intentions in being here from statements they make as well. They of course have the right to say what they like, and even not to answer, its just nice if people share when asked politely after issuing a judgement, (nauseating) followed by a command, (stop feeding the narc) and rounded out with their personal opinion (ew) in response to other people exercising their freedom of speech. When that happens it appears that they are not interested in exchanging viewpoints-just enforcing theirs, which I think answers your questions.

        1. 12345 says:

          Excellent assessment NarcAngel.

      2. NarcedOut says:

        You didn’t say she was berating him? I must have misunderstood what you posted…..which was…..
        ” Do you have the expectation that people who post on HGs blog should berate him, say abusive things and be shaming? Or just absolutely no positive comments toward him whatsoever? Why do you visit this blog if it is nauseating to you? ”

        BTW, HOF said someones comment was nauseating NOT that HG was and then mentioned feeding the Narc. As far as my reply to you…only the first line of my reply was about HOF, the rest were my thoughts about HG.

        I never said YOU said he was a great person nor condoned his behaviour…again MY thoughts on him, no one elses.

        You also said…
        ” Why do you feel the need to tell me to “make no mistake about it” and what does “anyone stating they love feeling a narc” even mean?”

        You felt the need to tell HOF something but no one can reply to you? My bad for conversing and offering my thoughts like you did, I will refrain next time.

        As for my line….”anyone stating they love feeling a narc”…the word should have been FEEDING, not FEELING, a spelling error.

        MY post also said that I appreciate what HG does, that he offers something no one else can or I wouldn’t be here.(so apparently I have no shame letting him know my appreciation either). I have one of his books and will be getting others as well. Regardless, he is still a Narc, and Narcs love fuel (according to HG) and that is ALL I said. Sorry you totally misinterpreted my reply. Take care.

        1. 12345 says:


          No, I did not say HOF was berating HG. As you kindly quoted above, I asked her if she had the expectation that people berate him. I never once said that she did.

          I never insinuated or wrote that no one could reply to me NarcedOut. I asked you a direct question as to why you needed to warn me “make no mistake” and what some of your own words meant. And no one posted that they “love feeding a narc”. They posted that they’d feed whoever they wanted to in direct response to being accused of the nauseating act of feeding a narc.

          “You felt the need to tell HOF something but no one can reply to you? I didn’t tell HOF something…I asked her questions with a precursor indicating that my intent was not to be combative because I was truly curious I did not say you should not reply to me or even insinuate that in any of my posts so your statement of “my bad for conversing and offering my thoughts like you did, I will refrain next time” sounds adolescent.

          Yes, your post did say you appreciate HG which is a complete contradiction to your warning that he isn’t a great person…at all. You may not have shame in giving HG a compliment but you also want to make sure he knows you don’t think he’s great which diminishes any compliment you might give.

          Listen NarcedOut. If you’re hysterical it’s historical. Obviously my questions to HOV triggered you in some way so you gave your thoughts which were definitely sprinkled with warnings to me as well as misinterpretations. Your most recent response to me is clearly defensive and emotional. I did not misinterpret you. You interjected your interpretation of my direct questions to HOF and then my response to you with things I didn’t even say or write.

          Again, you are welcome to what you believe and how you interpret things but I stand by what I asked and what I said.

          I won’t tell you to “take care” because that closing, in my opinion, is dismissive and inauthentic. You do not want me to take care NarcedOut and I think we both know that.

          I will, however, close with this. I LOVE LOVE LOVE HG!!!!!!! He is the catalyst that has changed my life. How’s that for some fuel?

      3. NarcedOut says:

        There is no contradiction, a Narc, any Narc is not a great person but I do appreciate the services he offers….I am pretty clear on that, sorry you don’t understand that.

        Its been great chatting, but you are projecting, throwing insults at me and doing a whole lot of word salad. I simply replied to your post if that makes me emotional…Okay.

        I think I may do a private consult with HG, I bet he will take my money, let me buy his books and and do the consult……he knows his stuff, but again he still isn’t a great person being a Narc but more than that, I bet he doesn’t really give a sh*t about you or anyone else here. He is providing a service.

        I won’t tell you to take care….is that better?

        1. 12345 says:

          I’m going to let your post speak for itself. What I will say is that, as you suspected, I have had a consult with HG. He was completely professional and only answered the questions I asked. If HG wanted to use this site as his stomping ground for fuel then he has the easiest targets on earth to do so…hurting women. But he doesn’t. He never crosses the line and it is my belief that as a greater his fuel needs far surpass anything he is getting here or in his consults. As far as taking my money goes, I’ve spent much more for a whole lot less than $30 and I learned more than I ever have in a $175 therapy session.

          1. HG Tudor says:

            Thank you 12345.

      4. NarcedOut says:


        You are excellent at jumping from A to D. I never said he wouldn’t be excellent in a session in fact IF you could comprehend my comments, I said I am interest in doing one…and I would not do that if I thought for a moment he would not conduct himself accordingly. Narcs are well aware of what they do. He is a professional and isn’t going to do something narcish to jeopardize it. YOU do understand they know exactly what they are doing and how to act right?? but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t get fuel from it when you tell him how wonderful and great he was for you. He doesn’t have to abuse you, or tell you that, it is simply fuel.

        I will repeat one more time my take… is like a straight line, don’t try to curve it and add something I didn’t say. like you keep doing oh so well.

        He is a Narc, and Narcs hurt and abuse people.

        I don’t like what he is.

        I appreciate and think the service he offers is like no other for those who have been involved with a Narc it is extremely beneficial. He is the experienced Narc and I am willing to learn about it.

        THat is all, no more, no less. Just that. I do hope you understand it the third time I posted it.

        However if your session was $30 let me know where I can sign up because the rates I see are more expensive. I have no doubt in my mind, a session with him will be extremely helpful for me. I am reading one of his books right now.

        HG you can remain silent or possibly confirm or deny whether you get fuel from any of this? Maybe you are getting so much fuel you don’t want this discussion to stop. 🙂 You are a Narc after all right?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          The session price increased to $ 40.

          Am I getting fuel from the back and forth between you and others? Very little. You are writing about me and the discussion has been prompted by an exchange concerning me, however the written word is low for providing fuel and it is also from tertiary sources so the amount of fuel is very low indeed and is certainly not something I would rely on or indeed seek from you.

        2. 12345 says:

          NarcedOut, I’m going to bypass the posts where I answered your accusations with truth and you did not respond because you knew you were wrong.

          I’m not sure where I asked you to educate me about narcs but you insist on trying to each time you post. You don’t need to warn me and you certainly don’t need to respond to me again. You have taken a post that I sent to someone else and made it about you and fighting with another poster. I gave you my opinion and then you went nuts. You sounded like a child in two of your posts that’s why I’m fine to let them speak for themselves. Your use of CAPS needs to stop as well. I know you are using them for emphasis but writing things like YOU before your warning is not helping in any way.

          Let me try to be a little bit clearer for you. I do not care if HG gets fuel from me or anyone else here. I don’t care. Is that clear enough for you? And, he doesn’t give a shit if this discussion stops. I can assure you that he has much more important things going on then whether or not you write another warning about his fuel gathering. It seems you think he cares about your fuel way more than he actually does. He doesn’t. Its small potatoes so let it go. You sound ridiculous.

          As far as you hoping that I understand after the third time you’ve posted it…anyone can read our interaction and see what is true.

          So much of what you’ve said is driven by your ego but you aren’t self aware enough to know that. If you were really taking some “stance” about narcs and fuel you wouldn’t allow yourself to be here. You want to be some beacon of warning and anger about his fuel gathering yet use him for his knowledge and help. You don’t like it when you are called out on It so you backpedal and make sure that you say how much knowledge you gain and that you have a book. I can promise you that the majority of people here don’t care about his fuel. But you insist on talking about it. Nobody cares.

          Think of getting a drink of water in the desert and living another day. People come here in that situation. I did. It’s that kind of desperation and pain. You literally think you are going to die and sometimes think about making sure that happens yourself. HG’s help is life giving. It’s empowering. If the person that brought that water to you is a narc are you going to go around warning the other dying people in the desert that he’s getting fuel from your thankfulness and that they shouldn’t feed that??? Not unless you’re an idiot who has their focus on the wrong thing. That would be you NarcedOut.

          I will let you have the last word as I’m sure you’ll have some more warnings, accusations and all caps words for me.

    2. amsodone says:

      Hey Narced Out
      “The needs of the many” (Spock, idk).
      Yes, responses to HG are fuel for/to him (impressive that he reads all comments dyt?)… and yep, indicates the guy has a high need and threshold for air, um I meant fuel.
      If you can change your perspective, you could see the exchange. $Fuel for knowledge because “everyone pays and no one gets out of life alive” (Amsodone, 2017). Changing perspective + increased awareness = less likely to remain or become an appliance. Every college has tuition. “No one explains Narcissism like HG”.

      Be well Narced Out. Maybe register for the WJAAD June 1! Besides, HG is sending me cash for all the people I get to sign up (haha, not really).
      Awareness is everything.

      1. NarcedOut says:

        Change my perspective? What perspective? I said I appreciate what he does, and he offers something no one else can…apparentl I know he covers narcissism extremely well or I wouldnt be here…..however he is still a Narc. Facts.
        I called it as it is, sorry it didn’t sit well with you…..I also made a post that awareness is everything, after the one about HG….its there for you to read. I also said I am sharing it with others so…….

        Man you are all fueling him so much with this. LOL

        1. amsodone says:

          You seem troubled that all are fuel, appliance

  20. I’m so excited to hear you, H.G. and all the other speakers. It’s really a wonderful thing that you’ll be apart of it

  21. NarcAngel says:


    Heralded Globally

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Brilliant – comment of the day

    2. Twilight says:

      Lol definitely suits him

      How are you NA?

      1. NarcAngel says:


        It does have a nice ring to it. I hope if only for the sake of the subject matter it comes to be (although I have other reasons as well that I do not care to share). Did you not see me out there? Sticking my beak through the fence and asking that cocky rooster why he is falling over those others with breasts like 2 eggs sliding down a wall when he coukd have these double yolks? He got all puffed up and dropped a wing while lowering his head and dancing for me as the dickhead should lol.
        You started it with the chickens…………

        Just teasing. Im great and hope this Friday evening finds you the same. Thank you for asking.

        1. Twilight says:


          I agree with you on that.

          I need therapy now……you busted his chops and now he is out there thinking he has to prove himself, every hen that passes him now and he is getting it on like donkey kong. Then the poor mouse, you ever see a rooster take out a mouse? I was to shocked to react, didn’t see that coming…..
          Wild kingdom going on out there, and people wonder why I don’t watch tv I have enough violence right here going on

          Glad to hear your great! Definitely keeping things humorous!

      2. Love says:

        Congrats Mr. T! You’ve accomplished so much in such a short time. You’ll have your own tv show soon. With the quality of CGI now a days, you can even remain incognito.
        Twilight, I’ve been following your rooster/hen story like its a soap opera. Telenovela, no less because its so spicey and dramatic.
        What did the ostracized hen do to cause the fury of the rooster? Did she find another lover?
        Why are the other hens trying to kill her? Is she the most beautiful of the brood?
        Why did King Kong Rooster brutally murder that mouse?
        Could the mouse have been the ostracized hen’s lover? Did King Kong catch them between the hay, now that she has her own private coop?
        I’m glued to the screen Twilight. Please keep me informed.

        1. Twilight says:

          This made me laugh!
          How is everything going for you?

          1. Love says:

            Hi Twilight. Everything is good. Thank you for asking.
            Please provide more stories soon. ❤

          2. Twilight says:


            I will try and get to it I am pulling 16 hour days right now, so for the most part only get to read and not comment
            Good to hear you are doing great!

      3. Flickatina says:

        LOVE… your CGI comment. I instantly thought of Max Headroom 😂😂😂

        1. Love says:

          Exactly Flicka. But so much better quality! He would be lifelike.

  22. jojometoo says:

    I don’t know why people slam you HG ? Yes you’re a narcissist but you’re not the one that abused me, you’ve educated me, & truthfully had I not found you I probably woulda commited suicide, I’ll always be grateful to you, I’m looking forward to listening Thank you so much for everything you’ve given me (us) & I’m not kissin ass just stating fact as it pertains to me .
    Iam healing …

    1. HG Tudor says:

      That is the constructive and effective approach to take

      1. Candy J Simpson says:

        Chafe & grain …

      2. jojometoo says:

        “A friend is one to whom one may pour out the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that gentle hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”

        ― George Eliot

  23. Brandie says:

    Reblogged this on Speak Out 4 Others.

  24. Ya Dancer says:

    Got a feeling yours will be the most enlightening talk really

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I agree

      1. No doubt you would agree.

  25. Geminimom says:

    Posted this on my Instagram.

  26. Oh and by the way, both of my exes’ birthday is June 1. How appropriate!

  27. I don’t thank you enough, HG, so please consider this a huge thanks for all I’ve learned from you. I have also read most of your books but couldn’t find Black Flag on Kindle. Every night you will find me reading ..

  28. foolme1time says:


    If I give HG any fuel at all through my comments then I am happy to do so! If it were not for him I would not be alive today! He can have it all! Because what he has taught me their will be know other narc in my life!! You have my deepest gratitude kind sir! You may drink of my fuel when ever you like!! Xxx

    1. Sarah says:

      Tertiary as it is.

      1. foolme1time says:

        That doesn’t matter Sarah. 1st, 2nd, 5th, 60th, 100th! It’s his! 😉

        1. Sarah says:

          Is the next answer in the sequence 221? I’ve never favoured these questions – I preferred these ones:

          ‘If there are 12 boats and 47 people on an island in the bahamas and it’s 26°C – how many MPH would Johnny run if a random squirrel lit a firework up his ass?’

  29. 12345 says:

    Signed up!!! I can’t wait! I might even buy the wrist band😊

  30. lansealan says:

    Awesome info…thank you HG!

  31. Sarah says:

    One for the wank bank, HG!
    I hope the fire is burning through you from head to toe.

    I’ve watched a few Spartan Life Coach videos, but not as many as yours. His Scouse accent does nothing for me.

    Exciting news!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I’m totally with you on the accent.

      1. Scout says:

        Careful, careful, yousse lot, your’re wounding a proud Scouser here!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You can be a proud Mickey Mouser Scout but I still don’t like the accent!

    2. Curious says:

      I didnt realise richard spartan was a liverpudian

      1. HG Tudor says:

        He is.

      2. Sarah says:

        Caaam down, caaam down. Is this Spaaatan Laif Cowch under a fake I.D?


    3. Curious says:

      Oops richard grannon

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Ha ha I know

      2. Sarah says:

        A somatic with narcissistic ‘traits’ (as he suggested about himself). Intelligent guy, with mucho info on NPD.

  32. Parisgirl says:


  33. RecoveringNarcoholic says:

    Well done, HG! Thanks for participating in this event and helping to focus attention on this little-understood problem that is so debilitating for so many.

    1. HG Tudor says:


      1. lansealan says:

        In hindsight, I need to revise a statement in my post above. I incorrectly said “it is my choice to participate. Something HG cannot control or take away”
        I was wrong, he does have the control. I forgot he could always block me…ugghh. My bad again…at least he didn’t subject me to the autotudorcorrector this time. 😜

  34. giulia says:

    I’m going to cry again….this is so important…I’m in tears

    1. Sarah says:

      Giulia, HG prefers the upset tears not the happy ones – which is why I’m crying out of anger and frustration because he’s become a household name now. Myself and our children will be merely whack-a-moles to him, he’ll be so busy.

      1. giulia says:

        Sarah….I didn’t know what whack-a-moles meant…So I read the definition from the urban dictionary online….I’m still a bit confused but I must say I don’t envy you 🙂
        My tears were not tears of joy……Do you know when you are under attack, for years and you hold on with all the guts you can find inside. You don’t even know what it is that’s after you or why. You just know you can’t let go because if you do something terrible will happen. So you keep holding on to yourself so tight that you can’t even feel your muscles contracted anymore.
        And when all of this stops, the danger vanishes and you know you can relax….you just cry….because you made it….you cry all those tears you never allowed yourself to cry before.

        1. Sarah says:

          Whack-a-mole is a game at a fairground where several moles pop up simultaneously, and you whack them back down into the ‘ground’ with a hammer.

          Giulia, I do understand. I just like being daft.

      2. lansealan says:

        I disagree. By know I feel I’ve garnered enough insight into HG’s persona to make an educated guess. That being, don’t underestimate his appreciation for his audience, students and those still trapped and suffering. Also, have you noticed his respect, politeness and control? I don’t remember him castigating or demeaning anyone here, much less any name calling? He’s a sharp cookie and definitely knows what time it is. I would venture to say he might even have “teachers pets”, as well as antagonists that he garners fuel from. Just my opinion, but I feel there’s plenty of mutual respect here. I also understand the possibility that HG has us by the tail, but I’ll take the chance…the education is worth it, plus it’s my choice to participate. Something HG can’t control or take from me. Cheers HG🍻🍺
        Bet you love sushi as well?🍣🍣👍

        1. Sarah says:

          If there’s such a thing as a tertiary lieutenant, I think you’ve nailed the part.
          HG has suggested many times that he is not doing all of this for us, he is doing it to benefit himself (and rightfully so). The fact he’s helping so many in the process is a mere fuel gaining side effect. The empath’s routine behaviour allows this. I’m just throwing a few spanners into the works because it’s actually quite fun. No harm intended.

          1. HG Tudor says:

            I am going to step in here. The primary purpose of this work of mine is not to gain fuel. I have made it repeatedly clear (and will do so again) that the fuel here comes from tertiary sources and therefore is low grade. Do I like that fuel? Of course I do but it is not the reason for this work. What is happening is that I am achieving my aims and at the same time this also assists tens of thousands of people so there is a happy alignment of interests. I like to write, I began this as part of my therapy, I enjoy the interaction with my readers, it is assisting me with my Grand Design, I want to be the number one source of information and I revel in weaponising empaths on a world-wide scale. The fact that I see people helped considerably by the provision of clarity, insight and understanding bolts on to those aims and therefore is a useful outcome for all of you and for me.

          2. NarcAngel says:

            Maybe its time to revise the About section on the home page and direct people there when this rears its head again and again. Even Im exhausted from you having to explain it (usually to someone who is supposedly concerned for others). At the very least, add to the disclaimer that if the subject of fuelling you comes up, that you will remotely have their device burst into flames.

          3. MLA - Clarece says:

            Agreed! I doubt I have ever “fueled” HG with any of my interactions here. He says again and again he relies on his personal life for that. Anything that could stem from here is purely incidental and miniscule.

          4. Jenna says:


          5. Jenna says:

            The lol was for “… remotely have their device burst into flames.”

      3. giulia says:

        I don’t know Sarah…your
        ” I do understand. I just like being daft.”

        rings like Truth 21…..

        1. Sarah says:

          How could you do this to me Giulia, it’s Tizwas day.

          My eye could never look that sexy.

      4. giulia says:

        Oh…it’s no biggie….you’ll make it a Tizwas afternoon….good enough 😘

        1. HG Tudor says:

          It’s Tiswas.

          This Is Saturday Wear A Smile.

      5. giulia says:

        Thank you HG. I had no clue but since I know I’ll conform.
        I’m smiling all over. I’m the Cheshire Cat :))))

      6. Sarah says:

        It is tiresome, isn’t it. HG could do with someone echoing everything he puts.

  35. Are you going to be there in person? Are we going to see you for the first time?
    It would be wonderful.. 🙂

    1. HG Tudor says:

      What does virtual mean?

      1. Damn it..

      2. So this is why you were so quiet lately, you were thinking whether to make an appearance or not? an you decided against it?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Er no. You do have some strange ideas.

          1. Of course not, you don’t feel self doubt. I forget that all the time.
            I’m looking forward to it.. I signed up.

          2. Are you nervous yet before Thursday?
            How long is your part going to be?

          3. HG Tudor says:

            I never get nervous.

            I understand it will be an hour. So I will make it last 70 minutes because I just cannot help but give, as you know.

          4. Are you already mirroring me?
            Lol, make it last 99 minutes.

          5. HG Tudor says:

            No. I will do what I want.

          6. Ok, 77.

          7. Jenna says:

            70 minutes of hearing your voice!? 👏👏👏
            I’m excited!

      3. MLA - Clarece says:

        HG, I’m thrilled for you! Congrats on being asked to participate. It will be great exposure for you while truly offering powerful and helpful insight and education.
        Coincidentally, for the first time ever today, I was looking at the articles posted on a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery page and a reader made a comment (the topic was about Narcs choosing hurtful actions but not being affected because they miss having empathy) and she referenced Sam Vaknin and YOU in the same sentence. In under 2 years, my friend, your name is making monumental headway.
        I’m all signed up! Wouldn’t miss it!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Thank you Clarece

  36. giulia says:

    Wow!! This is really beautiful. Very proud of you.
    I signed up…. 🙂
    Well done HG, bravo👍😘

  37. SVR says:

    Had my place booked 2 days ago. Going to be interesting.

  38. gabbanzobean says:

    First of all, good for you HG!

    Second of all, I went to that website and I’m really tempted to post the Facebook link and tag my Narc ( and his wife who likely doesn’t know what he is)… but I’ll keep silent on that one. LOL.

  39. Laurie says:

    Unfortunately for me , every day is narcissistic abuse awareness day. These lowly roaches are everywhere but I’m managing to squash them as they approach. Wishing you magnificent success at your conference. What will you be telling your main squeeze when she asks where you were during that block of time ?

  40. abrokenwing says:

    I’m not a robot!

    1. that feature was installed to weed out narcs from attending

      1. abrokenwing says:

        I was thinking about IseeYou.

      2. giulia says:

        Ah ah ah :)))

  41. E. B. says:

    It is good to hear you belong to the panel of experts participating in this event! I’m looking forward to your interview, HG!

  42. Twilight says:

    This is so awesome! Impressive in how you are bringing this into the light! You never cease to amaze.
    Look forward to seeing this.

  43. Ms brown says:

    Thats ÐŌƤɆ, HG!!!
    I’m in and sharing the link to many others!
    Thanks for letting us all know because we〖WOULD〗 be worried about you

  44. superxena says:

    As never stop amazing!
    I have already signed up!

  45. foolme1time says:

    HG this is wonderful news!! I already signed up!! I can not wait to hear all of the speakers! Although I no none will compare to you!! 😉Xxx

    1. HG Tudor says:


    2. High Octane Fuel says:

      Nauseating. Stop feeding the narc, ew

      Wait, so how are you going to speak if you’re anonymous?

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Think about it

      2. foolme1time says:

        I’ll feed who ever I want! Stop reading my comments if you don’t like them!

      3. 12345 says:

        This is a real question HOF not anything to be combative. Do you have the expectation that people who post on HGs blog should berate him, say abusive things and be shaming? Or just absolutely no positive comments toward him whatsoever? Why do you visit this blog if it is nauseating to you? Do you gain anything from HGs writings? If so, would you admit that or would that be considered fuel for him? I’m genuinely curious. Thanks!

    3. High Octane Fuel says:

      Why do I view this blog? Because it provides information that I can’t get elsewhere, a first hand account. Do I feel the need to gush all over a human being who has knowingly systematically destroyed the lives of my fellow empaths and enjoyed it? Hell no. Apparently you do. “Oh, but he’s a victim…” Hello, do you not pay attention to anything the guy writes? You’re just continuing the cycle. Have you learned nothing? Seems I am far more healed than the majority of you. I do not come here to criticize the guy nor do I come here to praise him. I come here for valuable information that I can use to protect myself and those I love. And I couldn’t care less that I am this guy’s supply. That’s his business, not mine.

      1. Jenna says:

        HOF, do you not consider it impolite to refer to him as ‘this guy’ on his own blog? He pays for this blog and he is gracious enough not to charge membership fees. So since we’re freeloading off of him, for even being here, we can respect ourselves and at least show him some courtesy in return? Either that, or we should start paying membership fees. I do not like what he does in his personal life either, but he is undergoing therapy, and i can see small changes in him. That is definitely a positive sign. Many narcs would never agree to therapy.

      2. foolme1time says:

        H O F,

        My comment was to H G not to you! If you do not like certain comments that some of us write then don’t read them! You say you are an empath, are you sure about that? Trying to tell other people what they can write or how they should act towards another human being does not sound like something an empath would do.

      3. E. B. says:

        @High Octane Fuel,

        “… a human being who has knowingly systematically destroyed the lives of my fellow empaths and enjoyed it? ”

        This is not true, HOF. Maybe you are new or you have not read many of his books, articles or comments yet. First, HG has already said that he does destroy other people’s lives. Second, he is not a sadist. Third, he writes about manipulations tactics, etc. narcissists in general do but it does *not* mean that he has used or uses *ALL* those tactics himself. If he had done every single thing he wrote about, he would not have time to write here. He would be an old man by now but he is a young.

        Please remember that not all narcissists are the same. The great majority lack the awareness and understanding HG has so they will not be able to change in any way. HG is an exception because of his intellectual capabilities to understand himself, his behaviour and its impact on other people.

        We cannot *feed* him. We are virtual tertiary sources.

      4. NarcedOut says:

        Well said, I responded to 12345 to you and ended up being called names, and insulted.

        I was trying to say the same thing. The bottom line is he is a Narcissist, and they abuse and hurt people deeply and have I read his own accounts about what he has done. Anyone who thinks he isn’t getting fuel, still doesn’t understand narcissism. They get their fuel everywhere and when I see people say they love him etc? I agree they are not far along in healing at all I do not like who and what he is, but I do appreciate the services and work he has given to those who have suffered at the hands of a narcissist. He has offered this and I am taking him up on it…..He is the expert. I am the student, nothing more.

      5. BraveHeart 💘 says:

        HOF, you may not be here to criticize HG, but you’re clearly not healed when you’re you’re blantantly here to criticize others. Doesn’t sound like an Empath to me. You should get started on the “healing” process instead of worrying about what others feel the need to express.

  46. Indy says:

    Awesome!!! Let the awareness grow! And congratulations to you HG for representing the narcissist’s perspective and speaking on the panel! This is GOOD work!!! Even if you like being called evil, you are also doing tremendous good! This is above and beyond just going through the motions in therapy! Sure, you receive other benefits, though I know I’m impressed and proud of you (not in a weird superior way, in a respectful way)! I think many of us here are!! Can’t wait to listen!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you.

    2. Mrs Linton says:

      HG I think your work is getting better all the time. I look at Sam Vaknins work that I used to think was so great and we are all way passed that now …..

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Thank you

  47. BraveHeart 💘 says:

    Thank you for sharing, HG! I signed up and look forward to hearing all of the interviews, especially yours! 😊

  48. Narc affair says:

    Oh wow ill definitely sign up!! I see many i recognize there! Its great youll be a part of it HG 👍👍👍

  49. AH OH says:

    Will I be able to access it after the tenth of June?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I don’t know.

  50. ava101 says:

    Oh, wow, this is so great!
    And we have our own awareness day … Will certainly share that.

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