The 5 Central Questions – The Mid-Range Narcissist

I have come across these five questions on a number of occasions. They are often regarded as the five fundamental queries which are raised about our behaviour. They are usually answered in a forthright manner by certain commentators in order to drive the message home. However, these observations and answers are provided by people who are not of our kind. They are naturally entitled to comment but the true value arises from someone who is on the other side of the fence, the perpetrator of the actions, the doer. Furthermore, the usual observations are provided without regard to the fact that narcissists are both similar yet different because we operate in certain schools which are linked to our degree of functioning and malign outlook. Accordingly, the traditional answer provided to one of these questions may be correct for the greater of our kind, but not for the mid-range or for the lesser narcissist. This time the focus falls on those narcissists which are from the Mid-Range school. It is usually the case that those who Mid-Range are not so much defined by what they are, but rather by what they are not. Thus if a behaviour which accords with a lesser narcissist is absent and a behaviour which accords with a greater narcissist is absent but the individual still displays behaviour which accord with narcissism as a whole, this person falls within the Mid-Range. The Mid-Range is neither a creature of complete knee-jerk reactions but nor is he or she fully aware of what he or she is and the capabilities that he or she may possess. He or she will not exhibit the driven, malign nature of those narcissists from the greater school. Here are the five answers to the five central questions.

Do We Know What We Are Doing?

Whereas the lesser narcissist operates through instinctive responses and in a knee-jerk manner the Mid-Ranger knows what he or she is doing. They notice that they feel a sense of unease and being unsettled. This is when their fuel levels have dropped to a low level. They do not know that the sensation of unease is linked to the reduced fuel levels. The Mid-Ranger does know that provoking reaction in the person who is his or her primary source and other people causes the unease to diminish and vanish. He or she is aware of the link between the need to receive attention and the reduction in the state of unease. He or she realises that certain reactions do not always work (i.e. unemotional ones) and that some reactions are superior to others (the sense of unease vanishes quicker and is replaced with a feeling of power) but they do not know why that is. They do not realise the index of fuel supply governs their own state of power/unease. They do know what if they are praised they feel better, if you are made to cry, they feel better and if you are losing your temper because of something that they have done, they feel better.

Do We Know That We Are Hurting You?

Akin to the lesser, the Mid-Ranger is aware of the hurt that is being caused. The Mid-Ranger will also give some consideration to how this might be achieved whereas the lesser just does it. The Mid-Ranger does not behave this way because of any innate malevolence but rather because he or she is aware that the evidence of pain on your part gives them a “good” feeling and lessens the unease which may appear. The Mid-Ranger knows that if he or she acts in a certain way, it will cause you upset and therefore he or she will take some time to evaluate how best to respond in a situation so that the “good” feeling can be obtained. The Mid-Ranger will be aware of what it is that you are doing which has generated contempt, irritation or annoyance. He will be able to provide you with a reason behind this sensation and moreover if there is no actual reason he is readily able to invent one. Whereas the lesser can only usually respond in a vague and amorphous fashion, the Mid-Range will provide you with a reason for this annoyance at your behaviour and why he or she is hurting you. It is most likely a lie, but a reason will be provided nevertheless.

Do We Do This Deliberately?
The Mid-Ranger is deliberate in his or her behaviours. They do not know it is fuel, they do not know its true purpose but they are sufficiently aware and of sufficient function to link the provision of certain reactions by you to the settling and empowering effect it has on them. The Mid-Ranger is aware that he or she can provoke good and bad emotions from you, that these reactions serve a purpose and therefore they will apply some time and effort to ascertaining the best way of doing this. They are also able to apply a wider range of manipulations from their repertoire as a consequence of their increased function. The response is thought out and whilst the plotting and scheming is far removed from the grand scale of the greater narcissists, there is no doubting that the Mid-Ranger will plan. He or she will consider how people can best serve them. This is not done from a malicious point of view but is more about working out what will serve him or her the best. The Mid-Ranger will consider which friends serve him best, who will make the best target and how the various people that are his fuel lines knit together. He does not behave in the random and chaotic fashion of the lesser nor with the pinpoint, malicious accuracy of the greater but with a sense of organisation and planning so that he or she gets what he or she wants.

Can We Control This Behaviour?

The Mid-Ranger is possessed of the ability to control his or her behaviour. Since he or she is not a creature of instinct like the lesser but adopts a more considered approach there is greater thought given to how he or she should respond. The Mid-Ranger is not aware of why they ought to behave in this way, they only know that there is a way of behaving which suits them best and they need to tailor their responses and behaviours to accord with this way and this includes control. The Mid-Ranger only has so much control and in situations where fuel levels plummet and there is a real or perceived threat of a primary source cessation then the Mid-Ranger will lose control when placed under such duress. This may manifest in the use of physical violence. The Mid-Ranger knows there will be consequences but is unable to contain the urgent need to “do something” and therefore control is lost. The Mid-Ranger is particularly prone to using the silent treatment as this represents a halfway house between exerting and losing control. He or she may be panicked into a sudden reaction but they do not lose control to such an extent that a frenzied response, by way of violence both physical and verbal may appear. Instead they vanish. The Mid-Ranger is also more likely to engage in emotional, financial and sexual abuse through planning and the greater subtleties and insidious nature attached to these particular machinations.

Can We Stop It?
Yes, the Mid-Ranger can. He has an awareness and therefore is able to decide that the behaviour can stop. Indeed, where the Mid-Ranger perceives an advantage to be acquired he will do so and amend his behaviour accordingly. Whereas the lesser narcissist will instigate a respite period instinctively without knowing why he is doing, his need to devalue will just abate and the golden period returns, the Mid-Ranger knows the value of a respite period and will grant it because he feels settled and prone to wanting the contrast of the positive fuel again. Similarly, when those fuel levels drop the Mid-Ranger knows to commence the devaluation again. His awareness and control enable him of her to stop the devaluing behaviour as and when it is required. He does not exercise this with regard to any sense of malevolence, like the greater, but rather it is driven by need. The Mid-Ranger could stop his or her abusive behaviour but will not do so if they perceive a need for it to continue. The lesser is unable to stop it because it “just happens”. Of the three schools, the Mid-Ranger is less volatile, less malicious but in some respects can be regarded as entirely culpable for the behaviours which are engaged in and that are doled out to his or her victims.

29 thoughts on “The 5 Central Questions – The Mid-Range Narcissist

  1. Leah says:

    If mid rangers don’t know they are narcissists do they know they are mirroring their victims? Do they know they are mirroring (liking what victims like) or do they really think they actually like those random things? Do they know they are tricking someone into liking them?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      They do not recognise that they are mirroring, it is instinctive.

  2. jenna says:

    Mine was an introverted somatic mid-ranger. Thanks for the article.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

      1. jenna says:

        HG i can’t tell you how happy i am that you’re back! This time i didn’t create drama though (pat on my back!) Hope you enjoyed your trip. Was it personal or business related? I missed you. 💗

        1. HG Tudor says:


  3. Nicky says:

    Can a lesser or a Mid- Ranger becomes a Greater HG

    1. HG Tudor says:


  4. SVR says:

    In your view HG can a narcassist think they are an empath?
    Thank you again for an interesting read.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Absolutely they can SVR. The Mid-Ranger does this. This is why you end up with our kind running narc support groups etc. I have spotted several.

      1. The ex lower mid range thought I was the most empathic and kind person ever. Genuinely believed this.

      2. SVR says:

        Omg, chill at the thought

      3. candleglow2 says:

        Hello HG .. I just wondered if you have watched The Staircase or The Jinx .. as when watching both all I could see was narcissism from both the subjects in the cases .. they were so very cleverly manipulative .. I personally think both guilty but that is beside the point … I just wondered if my perception is correct .. and would they be “greater” as both seem extremely intelligent … and Thankyou HG for all the help you are giving …

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I have watched neither, I do not have much time to watch television, although another reader recommended The Staircase for reasons similar to your own.

          1. candleglow2 says:

            Thankyou for replying HG ..I have only just seen as I dont seem to be getting all my e.mails ..I dont watch tv either came up on Netflix .. very interesting it is as the man in question is filmed all through his daily life and trial ..and I may add at his own bequest ..I should put an eyes rolling face here at his audacity …

  5. peaches36936 says:

    Hello HG. Hope you are well. Regarding MR’s, Im wondering…do you think it possible the mid ranger is capable of murder if they have something substantial to gain? A very potent fuel line to impress? The MRMN I know is slowing unmasking himself. It makes me wonder. It’s scary.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      There is the capability but it is very unlikely.

      1. Marjorie Murphy says:

        Thank you HG.

      2. SVR says:

        The lesser capable of murder IF?

  6. MLA - Clarece says:

    I sometimes wondered if JN resurfaced as much as he did, because before I learned to withhold going off on him to give that negative fuel, I would call out all of his abusive behaviors and in a way he was learning about himself too.
    The sense of unease that disappears upon doling out hurtful behavior also ties into that pleasurable release of dopamine in your brain rewarding you for that behavior. That is equally addictive as when it releases in us upon your return.

  7. Brian says:

    Out of curiosity did how did you research the lesser narcissists?
    Did you purposely spend time around them to see what they were?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      There are two in the family. I have observed many through my work. I have spent time around them, beyond that which I would naturally do so, yes, in order to observe and study.

  8. Matilda says:

    Accurate description! The Mid-Ranger has explanations — or rather excuses — for everything. To the untrained ear, they sound entirely rational, plausible, and even considerate, as he makes you believe that he had your best interests at heart. For a while, you are blinded by that.

    I will never forgive him. But I am grateful that I encountered a Mid-Ranger who had some humanity left in him, not an animal like the Lesser or a cyborg like the Greater. It could have been much worse.

    1. J says:

      I could not agree more about the excuses and plausible deniability, Matilda. There is an explanation for EVERYTHING and they are so believable. I am curious to know why you felt yours had some humanity left in him. (I’m curious because I felt the same for a long time, but after several years of unraveling his excuses, I’m not sure he ever did actually… though I would certainly like to believe it!)

  9. Again fantastic. Another to go in my tool box.
    Thank you!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      What’s the toolbox called KCN?

      1. Seizing the power!!!

        Fucking A!!

      2. K says:

        Your toolbox is called the Devil’s Toolkit; mine is the Empath Toolkit.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Fair enough.

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