The Narcissistic Truths – No. 31


20 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 31

  1. Snow White says:

    You make me laugh Love!!!!!
    HG is like no one else, nothing out there like him. Lol
    I can’t imagine dating. What do you say to people that ask you out?
    I’m going to be talking to my therapist this week about appropriate adult interactions. I am sooo confused about what’s “normal”. I want to know how often people text and about nicknames, hugging people, shaking hands, people introducing themselves and asking your name. I second guess myself and everyone.

    You would be very proud of me. I have been in the gym 5 days a week since February with limited breakdowns. Lol
    And now I’m sitting at an orthopedic specialist so he can check out my sprained ankle. Indy told me about the book that she told you about. How the trauma affects your body and I want to read it.

    Glad you have been left alone.
    I have missed you!!!! β€οΈπŸ˜€πŸŽ

  2. Dr. Harleen Quinzel PsyD says:

    My infatuation just became attachment …. not love

  3. Matilda says:

    You stop at infatuation because you fear love, HG. And you are too scared of vulnerability to learn how to love.

    Anything else is just excuses.

  4. sarabella says:

    Makes sense. How one day, one person is someone you are so in love with, the next, it’s someone else. Its not even at that point that you don’t experience loyalty.

    Funny that he said last time we spoke “I can’t take your infatuation and ego.” The really, really sad part of it and now I see intended, was that he got me to let it all out and drop my guard and feel bold and daring with expressing what I felt for him but it was all rigged to bond me to him and then no longer wanted once he got me to do that. But it was real for me, all fabricated pretend infatuation to him.

  5. Lou says:

    Are you infatuated with someone at the moment HG? Did you listen and sing I Feel You at the DM concert last night looking at a prospect? I love that song.

  6. nat says:

    HG Tudor what happens if your target leaves you at the infatuation stage?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Never happened – but if it did, say that person died – then there would be irritation at the loss of the Candidate IPSS or IPPS (dependent on where we were in the infatuation curve) and thus one would rely on supplementary sources whilst seeking out a new replacement IPPS.

  7. Snow White says:

    WOW HG!
    That’s a good one to think about and hard to accept.
    I really wanted to believe that my ex loved me but I know that it’s not possible. It’s a hard lesson to learn.

    1. Love says:

      Snow! So good to see you back! There is another Snow White here too. Missed you 🍎

      1. Snow White says:

        Good afternoon Love!!!
        How are you?
        How is your dancing and search for the unicorns and rainbows coming? I have missed all your posts too.

        Well I hope she has learned as much as I have from HG and that she didn’t take a bite of the poison apple but since she’s here I’m betting she did.🍎

        1. Love says:

          I’m good. Still dancing and chasing unicorns and rainbows. In that order πŸ˜€
          Have you heard from your ex recently?

          1. Snow White says:

            Wonderful order Love!!!!
            That makes me smile😊😊😊

            Not directly. I just got a text last week from a number I didn’t recognize that was wishing my son congratulations and to tell him that he was loved and missed.
            I’ve gotten a new phone and I didn’t put in too many contacts so there are many numbers that I’m not sure of but this one I was thinking that it could be one of his bus drivers or former tutors.
            I couldn’t figure it out and it was bothering me that it came at 9:30 at night so I texted back “from who? Lol” and got zero response the following morning. That narrowed it down!!!!! I looked in my old phone and it was from the girl that now lives with my ex and her wife as their “daughter”.
            My ex has a habit of taking people’s phones and pretending to be them. Could have been her or her telling that girl to text me. I don’t think she would have done it on her own. I haven’t heard one word back. GAMES

            Any hoovers for you?

          2. Love says:

            Funny, I had a feeling she would reach out to you. Sounds like she did it. If it was another person, they would have responded. I bet this is the start of it. She is sending out ‘feelers’.
            I have not heard from my last narc since he ‘bumped’ into me a few months back. Last week, I was leaving my house, and noticed a car that looks just like his parked at my next door neighbors. Same make, model, color, and even customized license plate. I never let him know where I live. And I am not listed. It may have been somebody else and just shook me for a second.

          3. Snow White says:

            Hi Love,
            It was funny that you asked and a coincidence that I just met someone who was involved with a narcissist and passed off all the information about HG.
            And it was WNAAD. They all happened within a few days of each other.
            I believe you are right about it being directly her. She was testing (feeling) to see if I would respond. I wish I wouldn’t have.

            Glad you haven’t seen him since.
            I can see how that shook you. I still feel the panic when I see her type of car. It must have been very unsettling to see that car soo close to you when you know he doesn’t know your whereabouts.
            Hopefully he stays away.
            Any dating yet?

          4. Love says:

            Don’t regret your actions. Your response was honest and true. I was thinking about you and wondering where you were. I’m not worried about my last narc. He’s a passive aggressive midranger. Too chicken to do anything more than feel sorry for himself. No, no dates. Mr. Tudor has set the bar very high.

          5. Snow White says:

            Good evening Indy!
            You are the best thing that your grandson and family have. They are soooo lucky. You will be the best advocate when they need one. You have so much knowledge and spice!!! Lol

            I don’t blame you for not dating. I would be a nervous wreck. I come home every day and ask my daughter if what was said to me was appropriate.
            I can’t even tell if it’s ok or normal for someone to ask me my name. ( I always think ” why do you want to know) Lol!!!

            It is very scary to think that there are those out there that are disguised and are working with victims and children. Another reason to keep your guard up.
            I did listen to a little bit of the EDMR one because I wasn’t to familiar with it. I thought the whole idea was great and still want to order the bracelets.
            I do want to listen to the other ones too.

            I wish I could control the tears but mostly it’s impossible. They just flow no matter where I am. I did see that you mentioned it to Love. It sounds very interesting and I’m going to look it up.
            I love your suggestions and any advice that you give me.
            A massage sounds wonderful!!!!
            You deserve a day of pampering.
            I’m hoping to heal quickly so I can get back to the gym. It keeps me sane. I feel stronger every day that I add more weights to my bars. It’s been very therapeutic to come up with new goals for myself and to see the progress that I’m making.

            Hope it’s hot and sunny there. And maybe a pool and/or a tropical drink somewhere. Lol

  8. Sometimes I wonder how on earth my infatuation became love. When all the red flags are there, and I’m objectifying him myself so that I can get what I want from him (the feeling of love)… hey, I just answered my own question. Thanks!

  9. Gina C. says:

    HI HG, Can I ask you if u ever tried romantically victimize someone whose same gender since you mentioned before that sexuality of narcs is fluid.?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I have led people on in order to obtain fuel and residual benefits but not engaged with them physically.

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