Why does he lash out at you, abuse, assault and insult?

Why do you get ignored and cold-shouldered?

Why does he walk off and disappear?

Here is the answer.

By understanding fury, what causes it and what purpose it serves you will unlock a fundamental element of the narcissistic dynamic.

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CAN e-book here

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13 thoughts on “Fury

  1. K says:

    Something vexes thee? Could it be Fury? Fury is one of the many diabolical instruments of the narcissist’s toolbox and it is described here as uncontrollable, savage and simmering. This book details two types of rage; fury and cold fury and how and why the narcissist chooses to use them. You will read about fury’s relevance to the narcissist and who the progenitors were, as well as, the reasons fury is used, how it manifests, why it waxes and wanes and what triggers it. Here you will discover that there are three applications of fury and when and why they are employed, in addition to the secondary functions. The narcissist’s façade is a thin patina that just barely suppresses an undercurrent of magmatic rage; (s)he is ready to explode at the slightest of criticisms. Do you wonder why the narcissist is always in a state of turbulence? Read Fury and you will find out.

  2. Kim says:

    HG, can you enlighten me? Do all abusive men/women fall somewhere on the Narcissist scale? I’d appreciate your input both professionally and personally! Thank you!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Kim. If, in the context of say a romantic relationship, someone is abusive towards their partner for instance launching into a foul-mouthed tirade and they shove their partner, that is abusive behaviour. If it happens once, they then show genuine remorse and it does not happen again, that is an aberration in their behaviour and is usually as a consequence of an external agent altering their behaviour in that instant (drink, drugs, bereavement, stress, divorce, financial pressure etc). If the behaviour is repeated then this is the behaviour of a disordered individual. I have come to learn that in a healthy relationship a person does not treat the other person in this manner and if they do it is disordered behaviour. Often the disorder is narcissism (not always but often). You would of course need other factors to determine that it is narcissism but the repeated abuse is the behaviour of someone who is disordered.

      1. Kim says:

        Thank you very much HG for your explanation! Your insight is very helpful!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are welcome.

  3. Flickatina says:

    This is seriously pissing me off now. I have the app on my pc – I have enabled it as an extension, I have resubscribed……I am not seeing things properly on the page as it is – some of the sidebar pics are missing and the follow button at the bottom is missing.

    *throws massive tantrum*

  4. Brian says:

    Is it just my imagination or is it that..
    When a narcissist punishes their primary source, and they take it well without complaining, the source becomes ‘white’ for a while

    1. HG Tudor says:

      That may well result in the imposition of a Respite Period, Brian and they duly become white.

      1. Brian says:

        Thanks, I’m experiencing little periods like that after I cannot be drawn into arguments anymore.

  5. E. B. says:


    Yes, I activated the WP account once again using the link WP emailed me when I first registered an account.

    E-mail Subject: Activate [UserName]

    “Welcome to WordPress.com. Please click the button below to confirm your email address and activate your account.”

    “Confirm Now” (link) –> Click this link to activate your account once again.

    1. Flickatina says:

      Thanks EB – I can see the bell on my WP account and have enabled all the notifications but the bell still does not show up on HG’s blog.

      That whole toolbar used to show up on HG’g blog but now it doesn’t.

      1. E. B. says:

        Hi Flickatina,

        You are right. The bell with the notifications panel is displayed on WP.com only but *not* on HG’s blog. HG wrote that after migration, the bell will not show on narcsite.com anymore. He has nothing to do with it. The software programmers at WP left this feature out. The same applies to the Like Button not showing the user who has clicked it. I have seen the same in another website where I sometimes post (a newspaper) and I cannot understand why programmers changed it too.

        When you write a comment in an article you have not posted before, please check your emails. You will receive a WP email:

        Subject: [Subscribe] Comments on Knowing the Narcissist – please confirm

        Click on “Confirm Follow” (to receive emails).

  6. Flickatina says:

    Did some people say they had their notification bell back?

    I haven’t 🙁

    I want my notification bell.

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