Little Acons – No. 13
A series of memes which encapsulates the mind set of the narcissistic parent towards their child result in the creation of the Adult Child of a Narcissist.
9 thoughts on “Little Acons – No. 13”
Vent Your Spleen! (Please see the Rules in Formal Info)
This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.
It is true. You are the only friend I have. It is a sad state of affairs.
I guess that’s the reason why my Narc didn’t ever have a single friend. He said he didn’t need anybody.
We don’t. But we do. It is infuriating.
What a lonesome and hostile childhood. No wonder, that he is what he is. He has always to test, if a friend is a friend is a friend. And he never will believe it. If he finds one little fault, the friend is painted black, no matter what he has done before. Friends have to be angels and they have to be controlled. If they are not under control, they could be enemies (behind his back). Double message of this parent: You will have no friend at all and I am the one who determines, what friendship means. Friendship means: I control you. The word “friendship” has a total different meaning for a narc than for other people. When someone says: “I am your friend”, the narc hears: “You are under my control.” Wumm ! (I do not know, if that is right, only an idea)
Mona… your post is so true ive seen this particularly in the workplace. Someone higher up where i work has their set of 3 close friends and ive watched them. They are protected and favored but they are under this persons control and they have to do their dirty work. It boggles my mind seeing this in the healthcare field but it can be the worst arena for narcissism.
Theres a pricetag to being a close friend with a narc and thats giving up your beliefs, boundaries, sense of identity, self respect, your voice. You are a minion puppet and your life is not your life. As for the narc i think this is why they are paranoid and expect people to betray them bc their parent drilled that way of thinking into their mind. This is why they put up walls and are never themselves completely. The minions im sure they dont fully trust either. They know how decietful people can be bc they are the most decietful!
Excellent meme. This one alone ruined me.
With friends like that who needs enemies?
And that is why I became a people pleaser (in part). With such a “friend”, who wants enemies?
I never heard that comment towards me. But the narc heard it by his father (a little bit different) very often. ” I am his best friend.”. I do not know how often.
The father was so persuaded about it and at the same time he told everyone how inferior his son was and competed with his son about women. So many contradictions! It was a big soap opera. And I was enmeshed. The more I learnt about that family, the more confused I was. What a crazy and unhealthy family !