The Geyser Empath


The Geyser Empath is an individual who is empathic in nature with the additional tendency to fountain with emotion. All empaths are emotional, it goes with the territory but some empaths are far more emotional than others.

This type of empathic tendency is marked by high energy levels. One might even go so far as to say that shades of hyper activity start to appear with the Geyser Empath. He or she is always on the go, heading here and travelling there, seeking out people to see how they are and to exhibit their significant caring side with plenty of suitable expressions of concern, empathy and understanding. The Geyser Empath is very useful for our kind because of how expressive they are with regard to their emotions. Their responses are exaggerated. This does not mean that they are false, far from it, the exaggeration appears as a heightened response which is very useful for us to witness and then allows us to mimic it.There is no subtlety involved. When the Geyser Empath is happy it is shown as a torrent of joy, their concern is grave and focussed and their hurt is not of a silent tear but the wail and tears of the tortured. Such displays may seem melodramatic to some, but they are not, they are exactly how the Geyser Empath feels.

The Geyser Empath, owing to the high energy levels talks often about how he or she feels but this is not a case of them explaining that because it must be all about them, but rather they will convey those feelings in order to help others by causing them to better understand. When someone talks about being in despair, the Geyser Empath will relate how they know despair only too well and will articulate that feeling in order to demonstrate that they understand how the listener feels.

This person has a tissue thin skin and is highly sensitive. They are very easily hurt and when we lash out against them, they respond with a fountain of emotion. If they are praised, their thanks will gush from them with greater intensity than a Gwyneth Paltrow Oscar acceptance speech. If they are denigrated, the tears will not flow but they will cascade along with that trembling bottom lip and a near histrionic response to the pain caused by wounding words. The Geyser Empath is unable to put on a brave face. Whilst the Carrier Empath is dogged and stoic in the face of adversity, focussing their empathy on resolving the situation in  a practical fashion, the Geyser Empath will dissolve in a bubbling mess of tears. They are completely unable to conceal their emotions, even for a short time. A Carrier Empath can do so because they shift their feelings on to solving a problem. The Geyser Empath does not have that function. They are excellent at tea and sympathy, kind and comforting words flowing, but of little use practically.

Unlike the Magnet Empath, the Geyser Empath is better dealing with intimate and one-on-one situations rather than handling a crowd. The Geyser Empath loves nothing more than finding an individual as their project and wanting to use their biggest asset in order to resolve issues; their utter devotion to love. They are the greatest love devotees of all empaths, they truly believe that with love everything can be solved. Love conquers everything, all you need is love, love will save the day. If you were to ask them just how this happens, they could not answer, but explain that love works in mysterious ways and by being loving, showing love and acting with love in each and everything they do, this will resolve problems, heal hurt and bring happiness to all.

This devotion to love means that the Geyser Empath is big on romance and will readily fall prey to overt exhibitions of passion, love and romance from our kind. Any narcissist which presents as the knight in shining armour will have the Geyser Empath’s attention from the beginning as he or she believes they have found a kindred spirit. The Geyser Empath’s overt displays of emotion make our task of mirroring so much easier. He or she will wear his or her heart on their sleeve and they will suffer repeated heartbreak. Notwithstanding this outcome, the Geyser Empath is undeterred. They will suffer misery and pain from this broken heart and they will then affirm their belief in love and bounce back. No matter how devastated they are following the shattering of their heart, they will piece it back together and will do so with greater speed amongst the empathic types. They may suffer considerable pain and they will exhibit the effect more greatly than other empathic types but they also re-charge with a greater speed as a consequence of their devotion to love. Their belief is unshakeable. No matter how many times they are let down, hurt, cheated on and so forth, they will soon bounce back. They are not naïve but rather have an undimmed and undented belief in the power of love. This capacity for returning to the arena of love so promptly after heartache means that they are ideal candidates for post discard and post escape hoovers as they ‘refuel’ so quickly.

The Geyser Empath is highly sensitive and will be moved to tears regularly be they tears of joy or tears of pain. There will often be a need for a tissue when this person is around. One might be moved to consider them as someone pathetic but that would be an inappropriate label. Yes the Geyser Empath is very easy to manipulate into spurting out fuel and because of their beliefs they will suffer repeated hurts but their strength lies in their unwavering belief in love and how they soon bounce back following their set backs. They will do Misery 2.0 when they are wounded and hurt, the sobbing, the wailing and the tears will be extensive but it will not last. They do not wallow, but wipe away the tears, reapply the mascara, smooth down the rumpled clothes and climb right back on to their Unicorn of Love and Hope and gallop into the fray once again. The Geyser Empath can exhibit unpredictability of response. There will always be emotion, which suits our kind, but the extent and intensity of it may at times be so startling that it actually affects the standing of the narcissist with third parties who look on and witness what appears to them to be histrionics and melodrama. Exerting control over this emotional output can at times prove difficult for all save the Greater Narcissist.

The Geyser Empath lacks the serenity of the Magnet Empath and there is no cool deliberation of the Carrier. The Geyser will erupt with emotion with squeals of delight at the good news of a friend who is to be a parent, the triumphant praise for a colleague who has secured a promotion and the devastated collapse following the death of a loved one. The Geyser Empath believes that everyone has the capacity to love and that once they do, all their ills will be solved.

This person appeals to all schools of narcissist because of the high fuel content that is provided and the ease by which it can be provoked. They are easy to seduce but tend to suffer swifter devaluations than other empaths because they shine brighter and thus run the risk of our kind becoming familiar with their fuel in a quicker time so that the potency loses its lustre sooner. As explained above however, they are prime candidates for hoovers and often the hoover bar is lower for them as a consequence of the narcissist knowing that so much delicious fuel will become available with the added bonus of it being hoover fuel and furthermore because the devotion to love means that the Geyser Empath has a greater susceptibility to giving second, third and fourth chances.

The Geyser Empathic tendency is evident in all of the classes of empathic individuals. This tendency is often seen amongst the Co-Dependent class when this tendency manifests in an extreme form. Its presence will exist in Empaths but tends to be mixed with other empathic tendencies as well so the effect will be slightly diluted but not muted. With regard to the Super Empath it is unusual to see the Geyser Empathic tendency because of the Super Empath’s inherent resilience to both a sudden devaluation and being hoovered, however it will be seen amongst those who are borderline personality disorder as their displays of emotion and tissue thin emotional skin exhibit when their empathic side is unleashed and the resilience of the Super Empath is demonstrated when they lash out and withdraw.

The Lesser is drawn to those with this tendency because the effort required is so minimal to prompt a response and thus accords with the Lesser narcissist’s lower energy levels and reduced cognitive function for manipulation and machinations. The Mid-Ranger will also be attracted because of the fuel on offer and the ease by which it can be harvested but the emotional volatility can become wearing to the Mid-Ranger because he will struggle to assert control to achieve some of his aims. The Greater revels in those with Geyser Empathic tendencies finding the sudden eruptions amusing and playing straight into his portrayal of the individual as unbalanced and unhinged. He or she will take a perverse pleasure in provoking the Geyser into giving more and more fuel.

27 thoughts on “The Geyser Empath

  1. Antifragile says:

    Absolutely great article!

  2. analise13 says:

    HG what type of empath best suit the different schools and cadres of narcissists? If the geyser attracts all schools.

    I have yet to determine which type of empath I am.
    It is certainly not this type.
    I would say, I am closest to the Magnet Empath.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Different schools and cadres of narcissists prefer different schools and cadres of empath. Some may be more universally attractive than others.

      1. analise13 says:

        Which school and cadre is most attracted to the Magnet Empath?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Greater and Elite.

          1. analise13 says:

            I am sure my ex was not a Greater Elite.
            He was nothing as you are.
            Or maybe he he was and I didn’t realize.
            He certainly was not a malign type.

  3. Fiona says:

    Finally found myself among the empaths. Now it makes sense why my deval came so quickly when compared to his other IPSSs, especially as he is a mid ranger.

    He still isn’t hoovering me, I assume because of the golden period with the current IPSS. Wouldn’t he want to hoover me even more HG, given I am a Geyser empath? Why the silence? Has he maybe worked out that he isn’t going to get any fuel from me anymore and is conserving energy?

    Great post HG, thanks!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      No, because you are a broken appliance and not worth bothering with whilst he is in the new golden period. When the new IPPS begins to be devalued, you will get your hoovers unless of course you have ensured there is a minimal risk of Hoover Triggers and you have raised the hoover bar high.

      1. Fiona says:

        We work together, so there is always a risk but I’ve blocked him everywhere, so minimal risk of hoovers due to the latter! Plus I’ve been ignoring him at work so he probably knows he should stay away!

        Thanks for the prompt answer HG!

        1. HG Tudor says:


  4. C★ says:

    Of all the Empath descriptions, I identify with this one the most. It explains staying in 3 marriages/”relationships with 3 Narcs for 10+ years. This is why I was painted as being emotionally unhinged, constantly provoked and I “Pick Myself up and Carry on” after each blow. I gave each of them way too many chances. I was disengaged by and formal relationship ended by all three (in the end). In the beginning, each were a sort of “knight in Shining Armor” and in hind sight, each caught me during a time of emotional weakness in my life. I believe I have some user Empath features, as I am no longer “Geyser”, but currently did a “lash out” and now withdrawn and isolated…. I guess I don’t know what I “Am” anymore….. ugh

  5. Diva says:

    I have no real idea what I am BUT I know for sure I am not this one……Diva.

    1. K says:

      It is so obvious; you are a “Super Dirty Defiant Fugitive Empath”.

      1. Diva says:

        “It is so obvious; you are a “Super Dirty Defiant Fugitive Empath””

        Hmmm….even I would struggle to argue about that and I can argue with myself…….but I think you need to add in….”CARRIER of narc MAGNET.”…..Diva

  6. Suzie says:

    The geyser empath sounds like me. With age (50;s) I have learned to temper that alot. It has been a very difficult, arduous journey for me. I have suffered alot of heartbreak and adversity. I have had more difficulty than usual having a Malignant narcissist Mother and a flamboyant narcisisst Father. I did not fit into this family at all! I didn’t even match with my brothers and sisters. I kept choosing people that were either similar to my Father (alcoholic) or similar to my Mother a malignant narcissist or a combination of both. Finally I have faced the truth about my parents and have broken the 35 year repetition compulsion. I have gotten treatment for PTSD, counseling, healing and knowledge. I have gotten older and wiser. I have finally broken the pattern. The information that you have provided about the inside workings of the narcissist have still been helpful. My self esteem has been restored, I am at peace. I will no longer be a victim in this life!

  7. cheyenne says:

    Fantastical writings Mister HG.
    I have commented on a former article of yours somewhere about how I believe you may be one of the few of narcs that may ever have a chance of being spared or saved in the afterlife. you are of great help to so many!! Someone replied to me ‘do not be deceived’. That of which I am not. I know you are a very high spec narc, but with just fantabulous comprehension and insight for your kind. Truly extraordinary and one of a kind ..,but then again you already know this.
    I have a little question of the moment, I do not believe my self to be a geyser empath.
    But is it possible to be sort of a mixture of Super and Carrier??

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you Cheyenne.

      The schools of empath are Co-Dependent, Standard, Super and Contagion.
      The cadres of empath include Dirty, Carrier, Geyser, Saviour, Magnet (and others yet to be written about).

      Just as with my kind, the cadre can apply to more than one school, but not always. Thus you might have a Magnet Standard Empath for example or Saviour Super Empath.

      1. Twilight says:


        I am curious one can move between cadres but not schools, correct?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Do you mean empath or narcissist, Twilight?

          1. Twilight says:


          2. HG Tudor says:

            The school remains the same.
            The cadre remains the same. Some may have traits from two cadres but there will be one which is the prevailing cadre. It is more dominant with some than others.

          3. Twilight says:

            I have some things I would like to discuss with you on this subject, a consult thou would be best as to what I want to know.
            Thank you for your reply HG

          4. HG Tudor says:

            You are welcome.

      2. Tappan Zee says:

        Can you tell by most of our intereactions (the regulars) on here which we are? Even if we haven’t told you details or asked our school and cadre? By piecing together our posts, consults, various interactions with others? No. I won’t ask for a list. Curious if you have mental catalog tho.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I can, yes.

  8. Sarah says:

    This is so me! Ugh!

  9. Salome says:

    “With regard to the Super Empath it is unusual to see the Geyser Empathic tendency (…)
    it will be seen amongst those who are borderline personality disorder”.

    Dear HG
    Can you, please develope it a little beat more?
    It worries me a lot…
    Thank you in advence.

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