The dead eyes of the narcissist are often commented upon. Whether it is someone you know personally or a photograph you have seen of somebody else, you will, in all likelihood have come across the presentation of dead eyes. It is especially the case where this has occurred in a personal interaction, this particular […]

  Narcissists abhor intimacy. Why is that? It is an instinctive and necessary response. Intimacy creates attachment. As I have explained in Attachment Is The Seat Of Misery we attach our victims to us, but we do not attach to you. If we became attached to our victims we would not thrive and survive because our […]

In order to understand your narcissist opponent (and let’s not avoid recognising the fact that we regard you as our opponent) it is essential that you realise that we adopt two lines of defence. It is imperative that our kingdom remains intact, that our rule over you is not impeded, hindered or diminished in anyway. […]

    You think about me every day. You wait for those teasing and tempting text messages which come through repeatedly during the day and then dry up around 6pm when you know that I am home with her. Once in a while there might be a sudden text at 9pm telling you that she […]

  . False memories of childhood abuse represent one of psychology’s most contentious topics, often called the memory wars of the 1980s and 1990s and beyond. These involve individuals developing vivid, emotionally charged recollections of sexual or physical abuse that never occurred or that did not happen as remembered. Now, invariably, when somebody mentions being […]