The Rules of Ex Club – No. 19

THE TROUBLESOF THE EXARE OF THEIROWNMAKING

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  1. What makes ones head want to explode with living out this one; concept was applied by N in general , that mine, my girls, everyone’s problems, be they emotional upset or difficulties of any kind, were ALWAYS our own fault , he was never responsible for any pain misunderstanding or bad outcome in our or his life YET he was always blameless no amount of logic could budge his belief at all times in his ‘good hearted ‘ ‘valiant’ intentions which the world, (darn Thier constant misconceptions) they made themselves MISERABLE ! YET ALL OF HIS SUBJECTIVELY over perceived slights criticisms, insults disrespects, he say directed at HIM fro the ignorant, cruel, jealous bitter spiteful world toward him was 200% valid!!!! He is hypocrite extraordinaire, if we are hurt or defensive at his words or actions it’s our own misperception and fault , never his doing. Yet ALL his hurt feelings , perceived criticisms and slights and woundings are VALID and vehemently accurate and everyone else is always accountable for
    HIS state of being and he is never to blame for anyone else’s. Makes my head explode with the stark double standard and imo it was a huge part that underlies everything and makes it ALWAYS a win/lose equation in a relationship w a narcisist. We lose he wins. What a master plan for self preservation based in illusion on every level. Sad bcs often he pushed away unconditional love for his warped and ultimately self destructive belief system which fulfills itself cyclically forever . My n taught this lifelong empath how to shut off her loving heart , bringing about the reality he believed ( spent his energy defending against b4 it was ever there) he literally created his reality of rejection by expecting all empaths to become like his N parents ( if that was true) and actually through the regimented environment of abuse he himself created the loveless heart he fought against. This could go to circular reasoning forever. N’s seeking relief , empaths sucked in and spat out destroyed, making the world the colder place the N believes it to be in the first place.

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