Poll : Have You Received a Christmas Hoover?


The Christmas period is a ripe time for hoovers.

First of all, there is a greater chance of you entering a sphere of influence and therefore activating a Hoover Trigger. Secondly, the Hoover Execution Criteria may be easier for the narcissist to achieve at this time of year. We may have returned to where you are as we catch up with friends and family, thus we are reminded of you and know where to find you. We may use the festive period as an excuse to send a gift by way of a hoover, a Christmas card or even dispatch a Lieutenant to wish you the compliments of the season as we provide you with a hoover by proxy.

You may have found yourself attending certain festive events where we would also be – carol concerts, school plays, parties, Christmas fairs and similar and again you enter a sphere of influence by being in our proximity and thus the hoover is highly likely as we see you across the room.

There is also the risk that your no contact regime wavers owing to your emotional thinking surging. It attempts to con you by suggesting that perhaps bygones should be bygones as it is Christmas after all and that it is time to show goodwill to all. Perhaps emotional thinking stirred like the ghost of Christmas Past and reminded you of that wonderful Christmas Past in the golden period and this caused you to waver and contact the narcissist which then prompted a hoover thereafter.

Then again, perhaps there has been no hoover. Yet. The period is not yet over.

So, what has happened and have you had more than one and perhaps from more than one of our kind? Choose all that apply before casting your vote and please do expand on the circumstances in the comments section.

Thank you participating.


Have you received a Christmas Hoover?

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124 thoughts on “Poll : Have You Received a Christmas Hoover?

  1. Bea says:

    A couple of festive emails in response to mine. They were crumbs of comfort rather than a hoover, but they made my Christmas a little cosier.

  2. Clare says:

    Got mine by email at 5.15 on Christmas Eve. Manipulative drivel from my NMIL. I sent my reply to the whole family with a kill them with kindness response but called out the bullshit to everyone in family. My NMIL response???…. she checked herself into hospital!!!!! 🀣🀣🀣🀣. Back to NC!!

    1. K says:

      Well, there is nothing like a good Christmas drama. Your NMIL reminds me of my MMRN’s sister. A very dramatic pity play. NC is the way to go.

      1. Clare says:

        I have been pretty much NC for 3 years….. as I have been stuck under a smear campaign for 4 years by husbands whole family. I occasionally pop my head up and β€œshame” them by speaking the truth and call out their lies. I have lots of ammo because they all eventually let themselves down. Defo back to NC… and peace. πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

        1. K says:

          Sometimes they shoot themselves in the foot. Shame on them and enjoy your NC. You deserve peace and quiet from the Drama Llamas (one of the many monikers I use for my narcs).

  3. Somewhere over the rainbow says:

    One hoover (message) in November, one on Christmas Eve and another one today…from different phone numbers, but signed. Hope he gets it right this time. No Contact! I’m not changing phone number as I’m not afraid of him, just expect for him to find another “distraction” (fuel source). I imagine how “juicy” I appear by being unavailable/indifferent. I’m not going to put my marriage in danger by “teaching him a lesson”. No drama for me!

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