Tell Tale


We have cast you aside after subjecting you to a litany of abuse, mistreatment and the full horror of our manipulative and disorientating repertoire. You have your absolute all in the pursuit of what you believed to be our perfect love. You have endured humiliation, denigration and belittlement yet you still hung in there, desperate to cure and to heal. You wanted us so much that it hurt and it still does. Not only have we discarded you with a callous disregard for your welfare and sanity, we have added to the pain by parading our latest conquest for all the world to see. You are no longer the recipient of our burning desire. You have been removed from our grace and favour and a new beneficiary has been installed. The monument to our supposedly everlasting love has been razed to the ground and on that once sacred ground we have erected a new edifice, lauding our new, shinier and much improved interest. What was once promised as lasting forever has been smashed into pieces and erased from the history books.

Your hurt, anger and indignation are tangible. The traitorous behaviour we have subjected to you has torn you apart. It is awful enough that after everything you have done, everything you have given and everything that you have endured, you have been struck from the record. The insult has been magnified and multiplied by reason of our infatuation with your replacement. How dare we do this to you. It is utterly unfair.

Your desire for retribution is immense. You want to cause our come uppance and warn the world about the monster that you see us as. You feel that all must be told about the awful toll that you have taken from our treatment but greater than that, you have that irresistible sense of needing to protect and warn. The empathic nature that made you such an attractive target to us has survived notwithstanding the mauling we have given you. You need to save our conquest from what you have been put through. Not only must you rescue the poor innocent from our toxic touch this will enable you to exact a delicious revenge on us. By taking away the thing that we crave, you know that triumph awaits. Our fresh acquisition may work out what has happened, but that will take too long. No, you owe it to her and you owe it yourself to intervene, to educate and warn. It is time to expose us for what you say we are.

You call us for the perfidious behaviour that we have engaged in. You decry our stories of your hysterical and unreasonable behaviour and yet here you are, ready to spread such lies about us to our new love. You hold yourself out as being a person of good nature and compassion yet you are hell bent on ruining our new-found happiness. You were not good enough for us. You let us down and thus you had to be moved to one side replaced. Out with the old and in with the new. That is the natural order of events. The appliance does not work anymore, therefore a new, faster and more effective appliance must be brought to the fore and installed. Why complain about that? Had you been fit for purpose you would still be the object of our affection, but you failed. We gave you every chance and yet you still came up wanting. You are to blame. You only have yourself to blame. Yet, exhibiting the malice that you laughingly accuse us of you go running to our new interest and tell tales about us.

Your poison-laden tongue weaves its malevolent words as you whisper fabricated stories in order to discourage our new love from remaining with us. Do you not understand that this is the very reason why we had to let you go. We tried. We really did, but you would insist on railing against us and not submitting to our will. There was no hope for it other than yo remove you from our lives. As people of substance and rigour, we have not gone with our tales of lament to others, seeking to draw sympathy from them. No, that is not for us. We chalked off our time with you as a mistake and we learn from it. Now we have found someone better. So what that we moved with what you regard as unseemly haste, we are entitled to drive forward. You should take heed of our capability in that regard, instead of remaining mired in what might have been. Imprisoning yourself in a tomb of melancholy is not the way of progress. This only underlines our superiority to you. We have moved on. If you cannot, then that is your problem and not ours.

We act with honour and do not stoop to your level. We know that our character speaks for itself with this new person. We allow them to make their own mind up and the extensive groundwork which we put in place has ensured that this person is impervious to your unsavoury behaviour. We know that our impregnable façade of magnificence cannot be pierced by your savage and twisted lies. Run to our new love, run to them and seek to pour your poison in their ears and we shall watch smiling as they turn to you and shake their head. They are immune to your campaign of smears. They know that we are truly wonderful and that you had your chance but you destroyed what we had as a consequence of your quite frankly unhinged conduct. She tells you how magnificently I treat her and you try to explain how it was like that for you in the beginning but your words are lost in translation. You are told that your jealousy has skewed your outlook, that your paranoia has warped your view of the world. Your craziness has been well documented. We have done the protecting. We have done the warning and as always we got in first.

Tell your tales but all you do is reinforce our brilliance and the reason we were oh so right to be rid of you. Nobody likes a tell tale. Nobody likes you.



  1. My ex narcissist has managed to hoover back his ex wife which amuses me no end seeing as she called him out for being an abuser. She is a very private person but thanks to him I know her most private and intimate secrets. I don’t think there is much point me telling her he told me she was masculine in the bedroom and he thought she might be a lesbian as no doubt the “crazy ex” would be making up lies. I do think it shocking that she’s fallen back into the trap after a bitter divorce and 4 years with me?

  2. Thank you! I did take down the stuff on my facebook page– trying to lure her in to me— to yes tell her — and yes hurt him– and yes make me look crazy and obsessed! Thank you!

  3. Yeah, I did not attempt and have not attempted to warn my replacement NISSs as I know it will go nowhere and only backfire on me.

    I did talk about what happened with a common friend who is still part of his coterie and who I knew had experienced something similar because a couple of years before, in a way, she tried to warn me. Back then, I was troubled by what she told me and raised it with my narcissist. He got upset and asked me never to talk about him with this friend because, although after being discarded she was admitted back into his group a year later, “she liked to gossip”. He never responded to what I raised and I found myself doing damage control for bothering him over a “trivial” matter in contrast to what he was dealing with at the time (his father had recently died). I later felt terrible for having raised what she told me at such an inappropriate time and obediently then later opted to ignore what she said and not discuss it with her again.

    That is, until a couple of years later when it was my turn to be discarded. She and I then really compared notes and realized he would say the similar stuff to us and how problematic his behavior is. She also told me she had discussions with other women who experienced something similar.

    She nevertheless has decided to remain in his group after being admitted back like 3 years ago and, because they are now more distant “friends”, she has not had any issues with him. She said that if my narcissist ever asks her if we’ve talked, she will just lie and say we haven’t as she does not want to “serve herself on a platter” and have problems with him.

    She even told me that she thinks my narcissist would like me back in his group, but on his terms. That is, if I apologize, praise him, let him know I can’t live without his association etc. But I can’t and won’t do that, especially after the horrible shit he has said to me.

    She may have decided to return and continue in his group although she agrees with me that he is a narcissist, but that won’t happen in my case.

    1. “She even told me that she thinks my narcissist would like me back in his group, but on his terms.”

      Anyway, my sense is that he is way too proud to approach me after what he said to me, and due to the place I had in his fuel matrix as a NISS, that is very unlikely, I think.

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