You v Her



I have grown weary of the incumbent primary supply. The fuel that ought to be provided at a premium level has become diminished in quantity and quality. Whilst it still flows as part of the devaluation that continues, the time has come to audition for your replacement. I am courting you following my usual preparatory work once you have been targeted and I have now commenced your seduction. You are not alone. I am seducing someone else as well. It makes sense to have an insurance policy after all. You won’t know about this competitor (at least not yet) but believe me that when you are in the early stages of being seduced by our kind, it is highly likely that I was seducing someone else. In order to identify the best source of fuel so we choose the most effective primary source, we will set a number of tests. These tests are not so arduous that they will risk the seduction failing, but are designed to ascertain which of the two, or more, competing prospects provides the best fuel. This current performance amounts to a strong indicator of future performance. Here are ten of the tests that are commonly utilised.

  1. Sending the same text message to both prospects to see who responds the fastest.
  2. Sending the same text message to both prospects without concerns as to the speed of reply but as to which provides the best fuel-laden response.
  3. Arranging a date with both prospects and then cancelling (with a view to re-arranging of course) to determine who is the most disappointed and which of the prospects tries to keep the date alive by making adjustments and alternative suggestions.
  4. Calling both prospects in the middle of the night to see who answers.
  5. Sending the same gift at the same time to see who thanks us the fastest and in the most appreciative manner.
  6. If sexual coupling has occurred at this early juncture, then sleeping with you both in the space of 24 hours (or less) in order to determine who is the more fuel accomplished lover.
  7. Feigning a minor emergency and seeing who responds the fastest and with the greatest concern and compassion.
  8. Suggesting a date when I know that the prospects have something else on to see who will break their existing engagement in order to see me.
  9. Having a lieutenant try to arrange a date with you to see if you rebuff him and make mention of me.
  10. Holding a social media challenge to see how many likes, re-tweets, comments each prospect applies to my postings in a three-day period to see who posts the most and provides the most fuel.


Not only does this contest between the two prospects provide us with plenty of fuel coming from two fuel lines, it enables us to determine who we should focus our greater efforts on to ensure they are seduced and become our intimate partner and primary source. If the contest is too close to call after the ten tests above, then additional tests will be applied and the ten above will be re-run also. The winner becomes our intimate partner but the loser does not go home empty handed, not at all. They are likely to be awarded the status of inner or outer circle friend and they will be kept within our sphere of influence as a supplier of fuel. They also a future role to play in a prospective triangulation and there may even be a promotion in the offing at some point….


8 thoughts on “You v Her”

  1. Skc8130

    Im not good at comforting people like some on here but I’ll offer these thoughts.

    She likely stayed because:

    He is smearing you and presenting you as a crazy stalker. He will likely use your Facebook scouring and contact with her as proof.

    It will not work for them. HGs articles tell us this over and over. They can never be happy and it will end with her as it has with you (although he will hoover you both and all others that you two know nothing of yet).

    She does not leave because she has the same emotional infection that you do and also wants to be The One.

    Yes you are jealous but you have no need to be. Jealous of what? The person he painted himself to be with you (and now with her and whoever after) does not exist. He was fabricated, and thats why he has no staying power and has to keep moving around. Trying to hold onto him is like trying to smell the number 9. Impossible and not worth your time and frustration.

  2. I am not in a place where it is ultimately “me vs her”, bc I am in the process of NC currently.

    The last time I had contact with the ex was in nov 2017. For some reason he contacted me in Feb 2018 and I was weak, textbook weak and replied. He happened to have the flu and was home sick and we spoke for 2 hrs on the phone. He mentioned a gf and a break up. He proceeded to text me a barrage of texts over the next week. Only to not answer on Saturday night and on Sunday was very flighty “swearing to God” he was not out the night prior, but home sick.
    I created a fake FB profile to look up his “likes” bc his friends were hidden.. I hit every single one w a girl. Lo and behold there she was, changed her FB pic at 1201 a with him and her. I immediately forwarded her all his texts via FB.
    she and I chatted over the course of the next week, I gave her all the info I had about him. What was weird, or maybe not weird is that we look similar too.
    He of course would not reply to my texts at this point.
    She stated she was leaving him and couldn’t believe that he would do all that. In one of the texts he said he wanted to Marry me, missed me, loved me and wanted to taste me VOMIT
    I sent her all of these texts.
    she didn’t leave.
    I don’t get it and I don’t know why it’s so upsetting to me that she is staying by him. She even told me he told her a few weeks ago that he missed me. But later told her that he was only trying to get her back.

    I since had to block him, block her, delete my fb acct. I feel so sick.
    I don’t know why I care so much that she stayed or is staying. I guess I fear that It will work for them and I am jealous? sickens me to even think that, more less type it.

    HELP? I’m worried about the recourse.

  3. And sometimes it makes me all too sad
    This inevitable life you have to live
    And the fear we share : the sense that it’s not going to work

  4. OMG. Every one, from one of my ex’s. The worst, most obvious one who I could care less about now. He gave 3 of us engagement rings in the same week. This actually makes me laugh now. Except for the fact that he tried to get some other guy to rape me, too.

    1. You don’t get to make the narcissist do anything, the narcissist chooses, all you can do is look to maximise the potential opportunity.

  5. I knew it! Scumbag. This ignites my fury. Too bad that doesn’t empower me. But oh so happy I left him during that gold-medal race.

  6. One of those times when I am sooo very grateful for having failed a test (or two or three) 😉 xx

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