The Narcissist’s Love Letter




“Dear Victim,

I have not addressed you by name because your name does not matter to me. In fact, I am struggling to recall it as after all we have only been together for a week but notwithstanding this I wanted to write this letter for you because for once, perhaps the first and only time in my life I wanted to be honest with you and tell you the truth. Your name does not matter because I do not see you as a person. I see you as an appliance but I know you must be the best appliance. How do I know that? Simple. I chose you. You see, although I have given you the impression that I have met you by chance in a wine bar a week ago (is it only a week, it feels like we have known one another a lifetime) I picked you out. I look out for ladies like you. I know that there is a hospital nearby and many of the staff drink in that particular bar. I use it for many of my victims but I don’t want to talk about them because I only now want to focus on you. I saw you with your friends and saw how you made people laugh and how people often turned to you when you were speaking. I saw your membership card when you opened your purse at the bar so I knew from that you did indeed work at the hospital. In fact, I watched you three times before I came over to speak to you. That was to make sure you were my kind of victim and guess what? Good news. You tick so many boxes and that is very exciting. I am not interested in you as a person. I only want to know what you can do for me. I am of course going to pretend I am interested in you and I spent some time finding your social media footprint and having a good look through. Have you had any friend requests lately from someone you were not sure you knew? You have because that was me. Thanks for letting me in and allowing me to look around your page. Great photographs and you gave me so much material to work with. You have been a busy bee telling the world about all the places you go to. I didn’t like that man who kept appearing in your pictures though. I will be trying to find out who he is. Hopefully it is your brother or a cousin otherwise I will need to have him isolated. He seems far too friendly and may get in the way of what I want to do. So, I knew you long before you knew me, but you soon felt like you knew me. That’s what I do. I trot out so many marvellous and flattering lines They are just devices to make you think that we have some special connection. I know you are into all of that. I heard one of your conversations with your friends as I stood nearby as you explained all about the need for connections with those you fall in love with, your belief in astrology oh and spiritualism. I have already organised two tickets for the clairvoyant who is in town in three weeks. I will tell you about that later, although maybe you already know this given your “special powers”? I will tell you this, they are not as special as mine because I already know lots about you. You think you know plenty about me but over half of what I told you was made-up and the balance was embellished and exaggerated. I am great but not as great as I want the world to know me as, so I tell some lies. Okay, I tell a lot of lies but I have to. That is the way I am. You won’t mind though because they are lovely lies. Pleasant lies. Lies that make you smile and grin, that make your head spin and your heart beat faster. That’s good isn’t it? There is nothing wrong with making you feel good because that is what you need to do for me. I am going to seduce you, you see, in order to have you fall in love with me. You will really enjoy it. I promise you that. You will be swept off your feet and you will end up loving me like never before and you will never again. At least, that is what I hope. I truly hope you will be the one that can fill up this void inside me with your perfect love. That is why I chose you. If you can do that I will always be good to you. It is a transaction. If you let me down, well, hey, let’s not be pessimistic about things, we don’t need to go there. Yet. There is plenty of fun to have first. How long? Oh that is up to you. I will do my part. I will put you on a pedestal and make you into a queen and I honestly do mean it because I want you to love me, adore me and admire me. I want you to praise me and raise me up to recognise I am your king, a prince amongst men. I need all of that. You must understand that for some reason which has never been explained to me by anybody I have this nagging sensation of emptiness inside of me but I have learned that if you show massive amounts of positive emotions towards me I feel so much better. I will be good to you, so you will be good to me, so I will be good to you and round and round we will go. I have lots to show you. I have lots of friends. I am a popular fellow. I charmed them all and if they knew what I was really like they would run a mile, but they do not know, so we need not concern ourselves about that need we? I know you won’t say anything to them and to be frank, even if you did, they have had so long a period exposed to my charm and magnetism they would not believe you. You may find out about that down the line. Sorry, there I go again, being the doom-monger. Let’s hope we don’t have to go there. This is the best part. It is all sunshine, love and romance. I will amaze you. Yes, I will. I will probably want to move in with you in about three months’ time because then we can have an even more amazing time together and also I can use all your resources without paying for them. Come on, it is only fair. I am going to give you everything so I will also take everything also. That is how I operate. What I give you isn’t real but that doesn’t matter because you will think it is and that is all that counts. Hey, if it looks the same and feels the same, why complain right? I will buy you many wonderful things. I will say a lot to you and I will do it all day and through the night too. I am an expert at finding different ways to compliment you but then I have had a lot of practice. Just accept it though, it is better that way, after all, those others were just a trial run for you, because you are the real thing. Look at me, I just cannot help it. That is one of those standard lines right there. Anyway, you might want to spend the next couple of days with family and friends because I will steadily isolate you from them. Oh they are nice enough I realise but I need you to be subsumed in my world and there is no room for them, especially your sister who I think may be a trouble maker. Either that or she’s next if things don’t work out with you. What am I writing, of course they will, we are soul mates, whoops there I go again. I do it so often it is second nature to me, no wonder I end up believing my own lies at times. Anyway, what I wanted to tell you was that you are going to now have the most amazing, scintillating, glorious and breath-taking time which will be beyond anything that you have ever experienced before. I will charm, delight, mesmerise and amaze you. Hang on for dear life as we are going to soaring up very, very high indeed. We are heaven bound. I do want you to be the one. I really do mean that. Please don’t let me down. I don’t think you will. I think I have it right this time. I have studied you well and you are a perfect match for me. So enjoy these words, understand them because once you have they will vanish, but I won’t. I will be with you forever and that is very much the truth.

With love for your fountaining fuel but not you as a person,

With falsity, fraud and fake



10 thoughts on “The Narcissist’s Love Letter

  1. Bubbles🍾 says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    Your first line caught my eye.
    My weasel friend never called me by my name.
    I was known as “there”,
    “Hello there”!
    Yet he referred to everyone else by their name. If we were at the supermarket, he’d greet the staff “Hello Ralph”, “Hello Stella!
    When hed text me, it was straight into blunt conversation . Sometimes, he’d use just the initial of my Christian name.
    Never asked how I was or how my day was. When I pointed that out to him…. he was quite taken aback, as I said it was just plain good manners to ask. He did a couple a times, but fell into his old ways.
    I was always paying him out by replying ….. fine thanks… (without him asking)
    I thought he was just an ignoramus.

    Most informative letter, thank you

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

  2. skc8130 says:

    I read this post yesterday, I listened to a bunch of your youtube videos, I signed up to f/u you on quora.
    it’s all sinking in today and I feel more broken than before. I had an idea he was like you, but I wanted to believe I would change him. I am sure most of us think we will be the “one”.
    I am almost a year of being broken up with him and the pain is still so real. over the past year I have gone back and forth with him. Most recently one week ago and he attempted to woo me back. He made sure to let me know he has a new gf who he met off TINDER and whom he allowed to move in within 1 month of knowing her. Not sure what that says about her either, but it can’t be good.
    Anyhow, he told me he loved me and missed me. I saved the texts, found the new one on FB and like a fool reached out to her. I sent her all the texts and she believed/believes him and is staying with him evidently.
    I feel like I was trying to help her, but I am not sure if I just don’t want anyone else to have him bc he is so charming and fun, aside from all the absolutely horrid and disgusting things he has done to me.

    I feel so sick, he has been successful at making me feel legitimately crazy.

    I don’t even know what my question is anymore, except why? Why do I keep doing this to myself. I know the no contact, why is it so hard?

    I have been crying off and on for months. I feel so desperate and that my life will never change. I have two small children to care for.

  3. W says:

    I LOVED listening to your “Letters To” on YouTube.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you W.

  4. SophieAnna says:

    Would you contact someone on facebook who doesn’t know you? With a fake profile or real profile? Would you comment on their posts to be seen by them?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I assume you mean in the context of my private life? If there was a compelling reason to do so, yes, but in the ordinary scheme of matters, I would not.

      1. Hurt&Confused (but it's becoming clearer) says:

        But you have done so in the past? I am referring to your ‘catfish’ article.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Correct, I have in the past, but I have no current need to do so.

  5. shawn says:

    Sounds about right! Such honesty and truth; awesome love letter. This one gets printed out and put in my narcissist binder.

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