Your Pledge To The Narcissist



You signed the pledge. Your tears of joy fell on it and washed away what I had written there revealing instead what has been carved into the stone underneath. It is your pledge to me.

You promise to supply me with the fuel that I need, be it morning, noon or night. You dedicate yourself to loving, cherishing but above all else admiring me. From the moment you wake until the moment you close your eyes and hopefully seek slumber, you will apply your every thought, word and deed to supplying me with the potent fuel that I require.

You swear that you will be cast adrift from everything that you once held dear. You vow that you will raise no complaint nor seek to remedy your splendid isolation and instead you shall give thanks for the opportunity to be beholden to me.

You will agree with me without condition. You will submit to my will and my word. You will be subjugated and dominated and you will allow this to happen with a great gladness in your heart.

You unconditionally accept the dogma of my thinking and you will without demurring or deferring accept my rules even where there are no rules. You shall speak when I demand it and remain silent otherwise. You agree that you will second-guess, anticipate and ascertain all that I require and you shall do so without assistance, hint or help. You will raise no complaint nor identify any contradiction in the diktats that I shall pronounce, no matter how wildly they alter and vacillate.

You agree to remain trapped in the altered reality that shall be created for you and you shall do nothing to seek your escape from it. You agree you shall polish my hall of mirrors and keep the same free from dust, defect or deterioration.

You shall not better anything that I do, you shall diminish anything that you do in deference to my brilliance. You agree to comply with my every wish, demand and command and in so doing recognise that it is for your own good.

You shall recognise that you over-react, forget, fail to remember, blow out of proportion and engage in crazy aberrations of behaviour and you shall give repeated thanks for the tolerance and forgiveness that I allow you in the face of such blatant and sustained provocation.

You willingly and without complaint, claim or seeking redress agree to forgo your self-esteem, your identity and your sense of self. You volunteer to lay your self-worth, reason and confidence as sacrifices on the altar of my greatness.

You will submit to every whim I express, each desire I create and every demand without regard for its depravation, degradation or denigration.

You will with marvellous enthusiasm praise and worship me and with clarion call declare your awe at my almighty brilliance. You shall not suffer others to denigrate my name and instead you swear to defend my honour and reputation irrespective of logic, reason or hypocrisy.

You agree to be coated in confusion, enshrined in bewilderment and driven to demented frustration. You shall willingly strive with every fibre of your being to pander, soothe and placate me save when I do not require such treatment and expect you to realise without indication or clue.

You will go down on your knees and give thanks for the largesse that I exhibit towards you, that you are granted a daily audience with my scintillating superiority and that you are allowed to breath the air that I breath.

You shall cast off all notion of self, forgo your relationships and  betray your friends and family in order to better dedicate yourself to my greatness. You shall relinquish all interests, hobbies and activities in order to devote your life to me. You shall forgo all assets and chattels, delivering them up for my use, abuse and destruction.

You agree that yes means no, no means yes and yes and no mean whatever I want them to mean. You shall always give thanks for the enlightenment that I shall bring to you and do nothing to evade, dilute, diffuse or ameliorate my greatness.

You agree to become my appliance and an extension of my greater glory. You understand that you have only one role and that is to supply me with my precious fuel. You will not diminish nor interrupt this supply on pain of most terrible retribution.

You swear on pain of damnation that you shall never ignore me, never show indifference towards me and never to fail to react to everything that I say and do.

You will sacrifice everything that you hold dear in recognition of the god that I am and you shall do so whilst smiling despite the trauma you will suffer, the abuse you will endure and the horror visited on you each and every day.

You shall say my name with your dying breath and raise no complaint when I forget who you are.

I note you have already signed this pledge. You are learning already.

22 thoughts on “Your Pledge To The Narcissist

  1. Caroline R says:

    And let the dumbing-down of myself to avoid the rages and spite begin…

    (Would anyone like to have this substantial quantity of IQ points? They’re free.
    I’m not going to be able to use them now).

  2. Christopher Jackson says:

    Damn hg …a bunch of bullshit lmao

    1. Jules says:

      But don’t you see? It’s not bullshit, it’s the truth. This is what they feel. Absolutely. You come here to know the narcissist. He is showing you.

      1. HG Tudor says:


      2. NarcAngel says:

        Hi five Jules.

  3. Ivanka says:

    Sounds very much like the Bdsm relationship I had with a narcissist. It’s very convenient for someone who has NPD to use Bdsm as a disguise. I suppose I’m lucky that I was only an IPSS. His IPPS found out about me and had to accept me in the relationship but thankfully I decided to go no contact instead of live that way. Great post.

  4. Kellie Mccoey says:

    You have got to be joking! Here’s the thing, I just might agree to this for a time anyway. But you get bored with compliance. We can never win. We can never be want you want because what you want is ever changing!

  5. MommyPino says:

    I’m just so thankful that my husband is not a narc. Life is so much easier and happier.

  6. pascaleshealingjourney says:

    I guess I should have read the small print before signing the pledge. Next time I will pay more attention to detail.

  7. Mona says:

    No one agreed. You did.

  8. Jules says:

    Again, yes. 🙏🏻✨
    Only for You HG. 💕

  9. Fuel on the Shelf says:

    “You agree that yes means no, no means yes and yes and no mean whatever I want them to mean.”

    Yeah, don’t I know it! Especially no really meaning yes.

  10. Leslie says:

    Narcissistic relationship war crimes

    1. It Depends says:


      That has a nice ring to it!!! 🙂

  11. Findinglife11 says:

    Yep. Accurate. Been there. Living hell. By grace of God i escaped.

  12. Bettina Katsaros says:

    From the day I fled with my baby in the night to every last moment on this earth many decades from now, I shall never be objectified and subjugated again. If I have to sleep a long the rest of my natural life, so be it

    1. Empath says:

      So crazy to see into your mind, H.G. Apparently I mistreated my sociopath to some extent. Sipped the koolaid instead of guzzled it. I say many thanks to my two sons who because of my status as a mother first, I managed to not become completely ensnared. I sure got hurt but feel lucky that it was not any worse.

    2. Empath says:


    3. It Depends says:

      Please take my word as an escapee…Once you discover what they are and take some time to heal, true happiness begins. You will not have to sleep alone the rest of your life. You will be able to spot them and stop them from interfering with your happiness. And, you’ll be able to spot the good person you always wanted in your life but was too busy being under the assaults of narcissists to notice them.

      1. Blue1 says:

        Thanks for sharing It Depends. Glad you successfully escaped! I am still trying to do that. I plan on scheduling a consult with HG.

    4. NarcAngel says:

      That is a great pledge to hold yourself to.

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