Thank Tudor It’s Friday! #1-3


I really do spoil you all, you know that, don’t you?

Not only do I answer your questions on this blog, brilliantly curate the best articles about narcissism in the world and now I record answers to more questions so you have HG in your ears just in time for the weekend!

What more could you want?

So, pump up the volume and get your Friday Fix of Fantastic Freedom courtesy of HG.

Thank Tudor It’s Friday #1

Thank Tudor It’s Friday #2

Thank Tudor It’s Friday #3

49 thoughts on “Thank Tudor It’s Friday! #1-3

  1. Claire says:

    When is your next Friday segment?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      On A Friday.

      1. Claire says:


      2. Claire says:

        I bet you are socially awkward HG!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Far from it.

          1. Claire says:

            Haha! Not Aspergers-like? Lacking social cues? Couldn’t help it..

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Not at all.

          3. Claire says:

            Would your narcissism prevent you from knowing? Ok I’ll stop!

          4. HG Tudor says:

            No. How do you think I’m so effective?

          5. Claire says:

            It occurred to me because you are so bright. I don’t like to think of you as “effective.” I’m hoping you are actually less effective these days and employing kinder means of carrying on. I do get it though—the concept.

          6. HG Tudor says:


  2. Lori says:

    I think I asked this somewhere but I dont remember where. With regard to the fake friend requests when they have completely blocked you? I get that normally those would be indirect Hoover’s but if they gave you blocked completely and rhey know you won’t accept the request then what’s the motive ?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is aimed at gaining fuel and information whilst maintaining plausible deniability that it is them making the request.

  3. Whitney says:

    I loved these videos HG. You sound wonderful and positive. I felt so happy listening to you.

    I don’t agree about going no contact with a narcissist son or daughter. I think it’s situational but that is so extreme for a parent to cut off their child. As a parent you are the one who taught your child what love is.

  4. Star says:

    Im on vacation in a very beautiful , tropical place While drinking very fruity and very strong alcoholic beverages I sat back on a sandy beach and listened to this:) So informative HG as usual. Love love these audios, and damn that beautiful voice of yours! Thank you so much again!

  5. TY says:

    HG, Just listened to these. Your audios are excellent. I hope you will consider every Friday becoming a TTIF! Thank you so much for everything you do!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

  6. WhoCares says:

    “…once the fuel crisis is abated by the provision of fuel the construct recovers to its pre-crisis condition.”

    Thank-you for that HG.
    That is interesting.

    I think I can see a specific instance where alcohol dependency is a problem for a narcissist who is consistently experiencing fuel shortages…the alcohol consumption itself causing long-term health issues of course – and just imagine how *suddenly* – once fuel sources are readily available again – one can magically be ‘on the wagon’ again.

  7. Claire says:

    Where is the control/cope video? I am having no luck..

    1. HG Tudor says:


      The search function is your friend!

      1. Claire says:

        Thanks! I did search but I didn’t find it so I’m a bad investigator!

      2. Claire says:

        Alright.. Makes perfect sense and I looked and found the written arrangement and recalled reading it—it just means more now as it comes together more cohesively. The understanding you provide makes it difficult for me to be angry with those in my life that have been (we shall say) unpleasant. Even the worst being the marital entanglement. My father and so on.. I doubt you will answer this but you have expressed contempt toward your mother. Knowing what you know and fully understanding what you know—what point is revenge? It’s a defense mechanism and she has zero insight I still think my father did the best he could and many things he did well. It doesn’t discount his flagrantly sexually inappropriate overtures that I had to dodge—it was very uncomfortable. I just can’t think “he was all bad.” I have a strong distaste for my spouse but even he is really just pathetic and broken. Why punish the punished?

  8. WhoCares says:


    Does repeatedly losing their primary source (or having been often left in a fuel crisis) have a long-term, cumulative, deleterious affect on a narcissist?

    By the way – love this Friday’s recording! Great questions by readers and very clear, concise answers from you. Also, I found it personally very helpful to hear about the ‘red mist.’

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Good question WC, it might in the sense that if repeated fuel crises result in say the narcissist being injured, locked up etc those naturally impact over time (weakened physical health, criminal record, diminished financial circumstances) but once the fuel crisis is abated by the provision of fuel the construct recovers to its pre-crisis condition.

    2. Geminimom says:

      My EXN worked overseas for a few years and didn’t know the empact of what it would do to his health being separated from me. I’m the ipps and he literally was in contact with me the time he woke up to sleep. He would be heading to appts and contacting me. His health went down to the point he developed a permenant disability. It was a huge shock to all of us. He was unable to recover from that disability but he absolutely recovered as much as he could after returning home. He was actually in great shape according to the dr. Fast forward to our divorce and all it entailed he now is back to falling apart from the permanent no contact I have maintained for over a year. His health is not good and I found out it really isn’t and to the point of possible five years of life left.

      He is ensnared by his sister who is a higher narc (a viper) than him.If I didn’t know the secrets of her schemes I never would have divorced him. I’m a codependent I think and just knowing he will die is hard for me to swallow. But I am staying zero contact despite all my emotional thinking.

      I thought my EX was a greater but I am sure now he is a possible lower or middle mid ranger and the sister upper middle ranger or greater of some sort. She controls the family dynamics. She convinced him to give her access to our savings. She didnt spend it she worked it to be in charge when he or we die. I complained about it and he raged. Blew my mind. Now that just angered me writing that..

      So, that’s my take of it and hg is right. They do bounce back.

  9. blackunicorn123 says:

    Love it!!! You make me laugh!!

  10. Mercy says:


  11. Kiki says:

    Aww Hg yes you do.
    I’m going to double check the review s on your books at Amazon and make sure I have given you the great reviews you deserve for each book.
    Exorcism is my own favourite go to book.
    A piece of brilliance.
    I’m too scared to read sex and the narcissist though.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you for doing so. Don’t be scared of SATN, it is a game changer.

    2. NarcAngel says:

      Don’t be scared to read SATN. It explains so much and answers so many questions. Answers can never be scarier than floundering in the dark.

      1. Twilight says:

        You know every time I see SATN I read satan I always stick that darn A between the T and N.

        1. NarcAngel says:

          Haha. I see it too and wonder if it wasn’t intentional.

          1. Twilight says:

            Narc Angel

            It probably was intentional.

      2. FYC says:

        “Answers can never be scarier than floundering in the dark.”

        NA, brilliant and so true.

        And I agree, SATN offers excellent information and surprising revelations even for those not in an intimate relationship with a narcissist.

      3. Claire says:

        It was not an easy read—I still don’t like thinking about a few things in it.

        1. NarcAngel says:

          It’s often the case that something worth reading and absorbing ever is. This is a case where the (perceived) risk is outweighted by the information that educates and arms you about past, and against, future manipulation. The medicine that cures but tastes bad scenario.

          1. Tappi Tikarrass says:

            Well said and agreed NA

            I once felt like some other readers feel, I couldn’t face SATN but after a few months of reading on here, I summoned the courage and read it.

            It’s not on my favourite HG book list though the information provided is pivotal in helping quash emotional thinking surrounding sex with a narcissist.

            Helps build logic defences.

    3. J.G THE ONE says:

      Hey, read it, you’ll be dead. It was one of the hardest books I’ve ever read.

      1. NarcAngel says:

        Haha. Well that read as backhanded encouragement! But encouragement all the same.

    4. Bibi says:

      I have been spoilt! I too fear SATN and I do see the Satan in that, lol.

      Was talking today about that 1976 film The Omen where the creepy nurse jumps from the side of the house saying, ‘This is for you, Damian.’

      Filmed in the UK, even. That film scared me as a kid but I just find it funny.

      I like ’70s horror.

      In any event, thanks for the answers, HG!

    5. Mercy says:

      Kiki, SATN was the first book I bought. Still haven’t read it. I understand your fear.

      1. Tappi Tikarrass says:

        Read it Mercy.
        I promise it will help you xo

      2. Kiki says:

        Yes I don’t think my self esteem could take the blow of reading it.
        My self esteem with men is already very low. I think I’ll never gave a true loving relationship if I read satn I think I would end up internalising it and some way blaming myself. it’s something I do which is not good

      3. Kim e says:

        Mercy. What is this book Satn? I have looked for and can’t find

        1. Lou says:

          Sex and the Narcissist

          1. Kim e says:

            Lob and NA. Thank you. Bought it long time ago.

        2. Mercy says:

          Kim e, Sex and the Narcissist. I started it this morning. It’s not so bad.

        3. NarcAngel says:

          Kim e
          Sex And The Narcissist.

  12. Laurel says:

    Nawwwwwww!!! Yes you do spoil us, HG. You have a loyal and ever growing following. I’m grateful, and I speak for so many others who are too. There’s only one HG Tudor and your work is unsurpassed. You already know that, but you deserve to hear it 🙂

    Happy Friday – have an awesome weekend with the SM. Xxxx thank you for everything xxxx

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