I Want


What does the Greater Narcissist want?

I Want

20 thoughts on “I Want

  1. Mandy says:

    Nope. I don’t care what the narc wants. Instead I will continue to ignore him and live my life.
    It’s been a year since the narc who was in my life for 10 years tossed me aside, smeared me, let his flying monkey new supply torture and harass me while he remained silent. I’m so much happier now than I could’ve ever imagined. No contact has and will continue to be my salvation. I’ll never want another word from him again!

  2. jessrnny says:

    I’m waiting for Michael Jackson’s article to come out like a bomb that’s going to drop. Even if it’s never written. Quivering with anticipation is fun.

  3. Interesting. I’ve just been writing a note to myself as I’ve very recently succumbed to his latest hoover after 4 months of no contact. I wrote that I wanted to use him as he’d used me, that I will not fall under his future-faking and love spell again, reminding myself it’s a respite golden period only. That I will never forget what he’s done and said. That I will lie to him as he has lied to me for so long. That I know enough of his personality disorder to play at being a narcissist myself (where he’s concerned only). That I’m engaging because i want to use this brief reprieve to springboard my way into my new life and, when I’m sure my own spell has been cast on him once more and he’s begging me to stay, leave him without a backward glance. And then I read your blog, and it is an anathema to me. I can’t “do” you HG, no matter how much I might fantasise I can, and for that I am eternally grateful.

    1. Getting There says:

      Beautifulmadness, I’m glad you realized what the true you can do and not do! It’s good to embrace who you are, especially in this kind of situation!
      I thought I was able to have a better grasp at the last hoover, control myself and the situation, because I had spent months trying to take in all that HG was giving. I thought I was successful until the end. He seemed to know better than I did at how emotionally connected I became.
      I hope you are doing well emotionally and mentally!

  4. lisk says:

    HG, does “I Want” also apply to those who have been discarded?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      No such thing as a discard.

      1. lisk says:

        Hmmm…okay…though I could have sworn you have used to term “discard.” I know there is no Final Discard.

        I’m clearly missing something. Maybe it is that Greaters do not discard but other narcs do?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I have in the formative days of this blog purely because it was a word people recognised so I used it ensure engagement.

          1. lisk says:

            I see.

            So I guess “I Want” also applies to me.


        2. foolme1time says:

          HG did at times use discard, although he never liked doing so. When he became known as the #1 person on the knowledge of narcissists, (I feel he is #1) he called it disengagement because they always come back! It could take weeks, months, or even years, but they come back.

          1. lisk says:

            Merci, fm1t!

            Perhaps this word has also creeped in from my other readings on narcissism, which as you and HG know, never measure up to the stuff found here.

            I shall now discard “discard” from my narc vocabulary!

          2. foolme1time says:

            HG would agree lush! 🤣😘🙃

          3. lisk says:

            I just found this: https://narcsite.com/2019/05/06/house-of-discards-9/

            Will brush up!

          4. lisk says:

            Oh, geez. I actually commented on the piece that I just posted!

            Looks like I did not read closely enough the first time.

          5. foolme1time says:

            Oh list! Lol

      2. FYC says:

        Lisk, if I dare to interpret, I would guess HG would say these wants of the greater are perpetual since the N perceives you as there appliance until one of you dies.

        1. HG Tudor says:


  5. Veronique Jones says:

    Well we don’t always get what we want monarchical never get any of that from me again I am so much stronger than him and I have way more control over my emotions he’ll break before I do

  6. Claire says:

    Remind me not to piss you off HG. Damn. Can tertiary sources grow stale!! Youch.

  7. jessrnny says:

    “I want the clouds to cover your moon.” Ouch. Halloween came early.

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