The Heart Hooks – No. 6

i love you (and i always have)

Did the narcissist say this to you? If so, when was this said and how did it make you feel? What was your response to hearing it?



  1. Yes I have heard that to many times to count
    Guilty for being angry sometimes relieved and happy but mostly confused at how they could be so awful to me and love me at the same time I also thought that it must be something I do to cause it especially because it was a lot of people that I heard it from it like I have asshole magnet tattooed across my forehead if there is a narcissist in the room they will find me. I have got to the point where I don’t want to let people in that way they cannot ruin my happy space I would rather be alone than that

  2. Yes. It is that any surprise? as mine was apparently designed in a narc factory.

    Due to the timing of when he said it…This one… I wouldn’t say I believed it, but I soaked it up. I was wrapped up in the fantasy playing along. And I enjoyed being able to say it to each other. The sad part is … we actually both hate each other.

  3. “We have something special”. “We’re so much more than just friends”.
    Sometimes I get the (juvenile) emoji with the hearts. I hate those most. Lol That means nothing to me. What are we, 12?

  4. ‘No-one will ever know how much I love you’

    …. I get it….. I get it……

    I fuelled him enough to send a rocket into space!!!

  5. Never with the word love, but “I’ve always liked you.” “I liked you forever, I just never thought you’d give me a chance.” Whatever!

  6. After the painful discard, he said,”I love you. I always did and I always will. No regrets. If I could do it all over again I would”.

    When I pointed out, that I, infact, was happy to do it all over again, and the opportunity was there to move forward, and to continue whatever we were, and whatever we were doing…. he shut me down by saying that he meant, “In the same circumstances, I’d do the same again, but it’s not, so goodbye…. out of respect for my new supply, never contact me again…. “

    Yep…. okay. Way to make me feel shit lol.

    Welcome back H.G….. you’ve been missed!

    Mai x

  7. Mine has had a friend in the past tell him to not tell me that he loves me so much ? One friend in particular , he was always giving him advice on how to control me bette?

  8. He told me “I love you” 5 weeks into the hell I would come to know as our “relationship”. I remember thinking that it had come way too quickly and early. He then repeated it 2 weeks later. I still thought this was over the top. Thanks to HG I know my LMV narc was just putting ornaments on his shiny new web. I cannot thank you enough, HG!!!

    1. That’s not way too quickly, Geyser Empath, don’t feel bad for falling into it. I was more pathetic. His “I love you” came on the very day he confessed he had a crush on me. Crush and love all at once, which would have been enough to alert someone normal that he is confused about his feelings, to say the least. Did I suspect? NOPE! He asked me if I was bothered by him saying I love you and I said that I actually liked it. There we go! Madame Bovary to the rescue of impossible lovers!

  9. Somewhat similar. I got, ‘I love what we have.’ (Even though he barely knew me and we had nothing but shallow exchanges.) Also, the Mid Ranger convinced he he still ‘cared’ deeply about me because, ‘I’m still here, aren’t I?’

  10. Almost, mine was “I love you. And I always will.” So it’s basically the same BS plus a little of future faking on top. Or of malignant obsession. Or both.

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