The Expanded Narcissistic Truths – No. 2


There is a vast emptiness inside of me.

Whatever was meant to be there is not there and instead this chasm remains, an expansive void that is dark, deep and perpetual. I remain ahead of this void because it wants to consume me and in so doing consign me to oblivion. This relentless black hole wants to devour me, breaking down all that I have achieved and crushing them into nothingness, a final insult against me as I disappear without trace. A terrible matter to contemplate that as this extinction is aimed at me is the prospect of never having mattered, never having existed and never having made a mark on the world. To be erased in an instant, obliterated and deleted.

I am fearless in all that I do, save that is this void, this nothing which is the architect of one total fear. It is against this constant fate that I drive forward. You see, hurled into this void is The Creature and he is scrabbling to escape it so that with dreadful suicidal intent he can wrap his sinewy arms about me, his yellowed and sharpened teeth plunging into my neck, his venom paralysing me as he gurgles and giggles, hauling me backwards off the precipice and into the void, the pair of us plummeting into oblivion.

That must not happen.

In order to keep him deep, deep down in the void it is necessary to imprison him and keep his vile and seditious whispers silenced. This means filling the void. Imagine he lurks at its very deepest point. He wishes to keep the void as it is. Vast and empty, since by doing so he will be able to then clamber out and grab me, dragging me down back into the void. He needs the void to be just that. He needs emptiness so he can reach out of it unhindered. He needs the void to be just that. He needs emptiness so he can destroy me through its unrelenting absence of anything.

I cannot have emptiness.

This void must be filled and it is filled with fuel. Each piece of fuel places a layer within the void and behind each layer The Creature becomes imprisoned. Oh he will wail and protest but as those layers become thicker and more numerous his wretched cat calls become muffled and then silenced. He cannot break through these layers, he cannot reach out and burst through the constructed layers to sabotage my existence. Each layer differs in depth, strength and duration in accordance with the type of fuel that I am able to gather and place within the void, fashioning my construct.

The smile from a stranger is a thin and ephemeral sliver. The admiration from a newly acquired primary source is a dense and durable slab that protects me and makes the construct strong. Piece by piece, layer by layer, each segment of fuel, positive and negative, reinforces the construct, fills the void and keep The Creature at bay.

One cannot rest for these pieces dissipate and melt away through time. The Creature picks at them, claws at them, raking through them. Your treacherous criticism punches massive great holes in them allowing the mocking howls of The Creature to echo to me. See now why we hate criticism so vehemently?

Fuel fills the void. Fuel creates the construct.

The fastest way to gather fuel is to show you what you want to see for then you will pour forth with your love, your delight, your admiration and your appreciation. Marvellous, edifying and filling is your fuel. If I show you the very thing that you want to see, namely yourself, you will give me this fuel more readily, with such potency, often and in huge amounts. I have not time to build something of substance for you to fall in love with, to admire and desire. I must create it with due expedience and what better way than to use that which already exists, namely you. Thus, I show you yourself through my mirror and you fall for that image believing it to be me, believing it to be my essence and substance.

You do not realise that you are seeking yourself and indeed you do not see yourself when I mirror you back at yourself. You are conned by my fakery into thinking that it is my substance that you see and it dazzles and enchants you. I care not. So long as you are providing me with that fuel, I will hold up that mirror to you and let you fall in love with yourself. It is an artifice, a fabrication and fakery but it is necessary.

I give you what you want. It is not real but it seems so real to you and thus your responses are in fact real. The delicious fuel flows and I want you to pour it into me, filling me up, creating a barrier of salvation between me and the Creature as you are chief architect in the plans to frustrate and defeat his attempt to dethrone me.

This is why when you are installed as primary source and your wonderful fuel flows you truly are everything that matters to us.

You are our salvation and if holding a mirror up to achieve this salvation is what must be done, then it will be done.

10 thoughts on “The Expanded Narcissistic Truths – No. 2

  1. blackunicorn123 says:

    This is one of my favourite articles, in terms of both the image and the content. The first two sentences in particular, now I know what I know, are particularly illuminating. I can truly see now to what degree fuel is a salve, as it’s really all about the void.
    As an ACON I have some understanding of the void because I’ve been trying to fill my own void all my life, only I used substances rather than people to do it. My void also had elements of self-destruction whereas HGs does not. And crucially, in polar opposite to HG, I did still feel things, so my void was not as acute as HGs. Well, I know it isn’t, because we all get a taste of HGs void when we go through devaluation and disengagement, and I can testify that that void was way worse than my own. I’m just very glad I have the capacity to overcome and heal from that horror….and I’m not excusing narcissism, but if that void I felt post- narc is how you feel all the time HG, I can see why, in your eyes, anything justifies alleviating that feeling.

    1. NarcAngel says:

      What a great comment offering both introspection and understanding.

      1. blackunicorn123 says:

        Thanks NA! x

    2. foolme1time says:

      Blackunicorn this comment is exactly why I am happy you contribute to the blog. Thank you.

      1. blackunicorn123 says:

        Thank you FM1T, that is really kind of you! X

        1. foolme1time says:

          There is no need to thank me blackunicorn, I simply spoke the truth. 😘

  2. foolme1time says:

    And when you are all finished with us, leaving us lying there in bewilderment and pain, broken once again by someone we thought we could trust, someone we only wanted to love, protect and cherish. A person we would have supported and loved until are last breath. Lying there now, it is us trying to live with that void.

    1. Lorelei says:

      Yes the dysfunction shifts like a snake shedding skin onto other people.

    2. Tamar says:

      So sad.

    3. blackunicorn123 says:

      Well said!

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