Sex and the Narcissist

No holds barred and no strings attached

The only unnatural sex act is that which you cannot perform

Read about how the narcissist views and uses sex and how you are central in that

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AUS e-book here

Also available in paperback on Amazon

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  1. I found a way to read the chapter about “What are we thinking during sex” without distraction. I imagine John Cleese reading it out loud as one of his Monty Python characters. Makes it more amusing and takes the distraction right out of it. 😉

  2. The last thing I need to think about is sex and my narcissist… definitely deprived in that area right now. It’s not a fun time.

  3. An engrossing and ground-breaking book on love, sex and relationships from respected authority on NPD, HG Tudor. You’ll be catapulted into another realm where things are not as they seem, and once you’ve been there, you’ll never see the world in the same way again.

      1. You saved me from a hotel interlude (by the way) when I first read this! Give me another six months and I’ll join the Catholic Church as a nun in full costume!

          1. Hotel interludes? A habit? Haha—I’m afraid the behavioral tendency isn’t far from an innate habit of mine! Tempering it with good judgement is a better initiative but one I’m in no way prepared to handle. By far. Unless it’s Idris Elba—in his case he needs very up close observation to determine all aspects of his character.

          2. I know—it would have been too many uses of the word “habit” in one comment! It crossed my mind! Haha

          3. Welcome to my world NA! 🤣 She does this all of the time. 🤣🤣🤣😘

  4. I got it. Still need to read it. I am saving it. Once I do, I will surely share my impressions. I need to be in the right mindset but I am certain I will enjoy it.

    As a side note, I still can’t believe that 50 yrs ago today humans were on the moon.

    1. Bibi—it was effective enough to completely paralyze my ability to have any casual adult relationships because I’m disgusted by being objectified by a lack of authenticity at this point in life. Seriously. I could easily be sleeping around discreetly on occasion—I’ve done it my entire life. I just can’t do it now and it’s extremely healthy by comparison. It’s given me a huge opportunity to shift the focus from sex as a quick fix to getting really real and having internal dialogue.

  5. I Unliked, even though I secretly Liked, just because I don’t want my family to think I Like these kinds of books. I don’t like it for the words, anyway, just the pictures.

    1. Believer—I had trouble ordering it months ago and had to chat online with an Amazon person and tell them the title! They were probably shaking their head.

        1. I can’t believe I’m actually saying this but it didn’t top the dialogue with a customer service interaction with Lelo on a warranty.

      1. Ha ha … that’s funny, Lorelei. Awkward. I probably would’ve offered up some explanation, like, “Yah, I’ve just been having to deal with this Narcissist, and everything… its such a bummer”. .. (so, Amazon wouldn’t think I was weird, or anything).

        1. It is symbolic T’mara! Tomorrow is hopefully the day I’m released from the chains of this legal entanglement.

      1. SP, How many different angles can you get on a single err member? Does he put different costumes on? Maybe various locales kind of like selfies? I’m trying to understand how you tell them apart. Don’t they all look the same?

        Question for HG: Receiving I get, but how does an epsilon semi moron get fuel from SENDING a dick pic?

          1. And the N RECEIVING pictures is all about control. I realized that way early on. Even before I knew what he was. (Didn’t stop me from doing it though.)

          2. The problem with the pics is this—morons send them which rules them out yes of course. But who wants to waste time getting to like someone and finding a small one? It’s a real and frustrating issue.

          3. Is it any wonder he fell for Lorelei? Look at that adoring fuelling gaze of hers focused solely on him while he plays to the camera lol.

          4. I was really tired and a little hung over. We had a big party the night before. Surprised I had any fuel to give. I was cautious to mark out his face and put up a side view of mine, although admittedly I don’t always follow HG’s rules.

        1. They all have different backgrounds, MB: cock on vacation, cock at home, cock at beach house (with bunch of dirty clothes on the floor), cock in bathroom, cock reflected in mirror. Some are “animated” and you can hear his voice. He always says the same, very poor monologue. I must admit it gets boring after a couple.

          1. SP, thank you for sharing. I raised two boys. I remember a stage they both went through around the age of 3 where they were quite fascinated by their penises. Maybe some never grow out of it? (Maybe none of them do, they just don’t make it so obvious?) Is “your” SN’s member really that much more interesting than any other? I think not, obviously he believes it to be the most awesome cock on the planet! You should consider yourself privileged for be allowed access to its grandeur!

          2. Haha, MB, “grandeur” is definitely the word. It’s pretty big. But like I think I’ve said before, that’s all he is: a big dick (literally and figuratively).

      2. Are they your own pics, or someone else’s? I cannot tell by your name? What are they doing in the pics?

        1. Believe Her, are you asking me? I’m referring to my narc. He loved sending dick pictures -of his own dick- to me and probably the rest of the world at the same time. They are not exciting, just his dick standing in the middle while he’s holding it with the same hand where he wears his wedding band (classy, huh? Lack of boundaries, entitlement). Nothing special really. He sent the first one within a week of having just kissed. Hooray.

      3. SP,
        Me too. My favorite was when he’d send one first with obviously different lighting or background. (meaning it was not taken in the moment but saved on his phone). Then a few minutes into the “conversation” he’d send a real time pic of it.
        Obviously it took him a while to get hard and send me a real pic….loser

        MRN: sends shirtless pic followed immediately by dick pic
        Me: I’m at work
        MRN: silence
        MRN (several hours later when I gave no fuel from ST): sorry about that I was just really horny.
        —this convo probably occurred almost verbatim at least 50 times— lol

        1. Supernova hahaha! “My favorite was when he’d send one first with obviously different lighting or background.” The mystery of the teleporting cock!

      1. I held my ears, and hummed when you said the “f” word. Plus, I covered m. Y . Eye s. too.

      1. Hi strongerwendyme
        Nice to see you. You were testing out the dating waters last we spoke. Anything you care to share regarding the current dating climate?

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