The Geyser Empath
The Geyser Empath is an individual who is empathic in nature with the additional tendency to fountain with emotion. All empaths are emotional, it goes with the territory but some empaths are far more emotional than others.
This type of empathic tendency is marked by high energy levels. One might even go so far as to say that shades of hyper activity start to appear with the Geyser Empath. He or she is always on the go, heading here and travelling there, seeking out people to see how they are and to exhibit their significant caring side with plenty of suitable expressions of concern, empathy and understanding. The Geyser Empath is very useful for our kind because of how expressive they are with regard to their emotions. Their responses are exaggerated. This does not mean that they are false, far from it, the exaggeration appears as a heightened response which is very useful for us to witness and then allows us to mimic it.There is no subtlety involved. When the Geyser Empath is happy it is shown as a torrent of joy, their concern is grave and focussed and their hurt is not of a silent tear but the wail and tears of the tortured. Such displays may seem melodramatic to some, but they are not, they are exactly how the Geyser Empath feels.
The Geyser Empath, owing to the high energy levels talks often about how he or she feels but this is not a case of them explaining that because it must be all about them, but rather they will convey those feelings in order to help others by causing them to better understand. When someone talks about being in despair, the Geyser Empath will relate how they know despair only too well and will articulate that feeling in order to demonstrate that they understand how the listener feels.
This person has a tissue thin skin and is highly sensitive. They are very easily hurt and when we lash out against them, they respond with a fountain of emotion. If they are praised, their thanks will gush from them with greater intensity than a Gwyneth Paltrow Oscar acceptance speech. If they are denigrated, the tears will not flow but they will cascade along with that trembling bottom lip and a near histrionic response to the pain caused by wounding words. The Geyser Empath is unable to put on a brave face. Whilst the Carrier Empath is dogged and stoic in the face of adversity, focussing their empathy on resolving the situation in a practical fashion, the Geyser Empath will dissolve in a bubbling mess of tears. They are completely unable to conceal their emotions, even for a short time. A Carrier Empath can do so because they shift their feelings on to solving a problem. The Geyser Empath does not have that function. They are excellent at tea and sympathy, kind and comforting words flowing, but of little use practically.
Unlike the Magnet Empath, the Geyser Empath is better dealing with intimate and one-on-one situations rather than handling a crowd. The Geyser Empath loves nothing more than finding an individual as their project and wanting to use their biggest asset in order to resolve issues; their utter devotion to love. They are the greatest love devotees of all empaths, they truly believe that with love everything can be solved. Love conquers everything, all you need is love, love will save the day. If you were to ask them just how this happens, they could not answer, but explain that love works in mysterious ways and by being loving, showing love and acting with love in each and everything they do, this will resolve problems, heal hurt and bring happiness to all.
This devotion to love means that the Geyser Empath is big on romance and will readily fall prey to overt exhibitions of passion, love and romance from our kind. Any narcissist which presents as the knight in shining armour will have the Geyser Empath’s attention from the beginning as he or she believes they have found a kindred spirit. The Geyser Empath’s overt displays of emotion make our task of mirroring so much easier. He or she will wear his or her heart on their sleeve and they will suffer repeated heartbreak. Notwithstanding this outcome, the Geyser Empath is undeterred. They will suffer misery and pain from this broken heart and they will then affirm their belief in love and bounce back. No matter how devastated they are following the shattering of their heart, they will piece it back together and will do so with greater speed amongst the empathic types. They may suffer considerable pain and they will exhibit the effect more greatly than other empathic types but they also re-charge with a greater speed as a consequence of their devotion to love. Their belief is unshakeable. No matter how many times they are let down, hurt, cheated on and so forth, they will soon bounce back. They are not naïve but rather have an undimmed and undented belief in the power of love. This capacity for returning to the arena of love so promptly after heartache means that they are ideal candidates for post discard and post escape hoovers as they ‘refuel’ so quickly.
The Geyser Empath is highly sensitive and will be moved to tears regularly be they tears of joy or tears of pain. There will often be a need for a tissue when this person is around. One might be moved to consider them as someone pathetic but that would be an inappropriate label. Yes the Geyser Empath is very easy to manipulate into spurting out fuel and because of their beliefs they will suffer repeated hurts but their strength lies in their unwavering belief in love and how they soon bounce back following their set backs. They will do Misery 2.0 when they are wounded and hurt, the sobbing, the wailing and the tears will be extensive but it will not last. They do not wallow, but wipe away the tears, reapply the mascara, smooth down the rumpled clothes and climb right back on to their Unicorn of Love and Hope and gallop into the fray once again. The Geyser Empath can exhibit unpredictability of response. There will always be emotion, which suits our kind, but the extent and intensity of it may at times be so startling that it actually affects the standing of the narcissist with third parties who look on and witness what appears to them to be histrionics and melodrama. Exerting control over this emotional output can at times prove difficult for all save the Greater Narcissist.
The Geyser Empath lacks the serenity of the Magnet Empath and there is no cool deliberation of the Carrier. The Geyser will erupt with emotion with squeals of delight at the good news of a friend who is to be a parent, the triumphant praise for a colleague who has secured a promotion and the devastated collapse following the death of a loved one. The Geyser Empath believes that everyone has the capacity to love and that once they do, all their ills will be solved.
This person appeals to all schools of narcissist because of the high fuel content that is provided and the ease by which it can be provoked. They are easy to seduce but tend to suffer swifter devaluations than other empaths because they shine brighter and thus run the risk of our kind becoming familiar with their fuel in a quicker time so that the potency loses its lustre sooner. As explained above however, they are prime candidates for hoovers and often the hoover bar is lower for them as a consequence of the narcissist knowing that so much delicious fuel will become available with the added bonus of it being hoover fuel and furthermore because the devotion to love means that the Geyser Empath has a greater susceptibility to giving second, third and fourth chances.
The Geyser Empathic tendency is evident in all of the classes of empathic individuals. This tendency is often seen amongst the Co-Dependent class when this tendency manifests in an extreme form. Its presence will exist in Empaths but tends to be mixed with other empathic tendencies as well so the effect will be slightly diluted but not muted. With regard to the Super Empath it is unusual to see the Geyser Empathic tendency because of the Super Empath’s inherent resilience to both a sudden devaluation and being hoovered, however it will be seen amongst those who are borderline personality disorder as their displays of emotion and tissue thin emotional skin exhibit when their empathic side is unleashed and the resilience of the Super Empath is demonstrated when they lash out and withdraw.
The Lesser is drawn to those with this tendency because the effort required is so minimal to prompt a response and thus accords with the Lesser narcissist’s lower energy levels and reduced cognitive function for manipulation and machinations. The Mid-Ranger will also be attracted because of the fuel on offer and the ease by which it can be harvested but the emotional volatility can become wearing to the Mid-Ranger because he will struggle to assert control to achieve some of his aims. The Greater revels in those with Geyser Empathic tendencies finding the sudden eruptions amusing and playing straight into his portrayal of the individual as unbalanced and unhinged. He or she will take a perverse pleasure in provoking the Geyser into giving more and more fuel.
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Interesting… I always assumed I was a magnet but this may be me as well.
However my “go to”
Emotion for outbursts is anger. Not tears. It generally takes a long time and things being built up for all of my anger to surface… but when it does it is raging.
Is it possible a geyser uses anger for their shield instead of tears?
Hi Empath007, I’m a Geyser and my go to outbursts is anger as well. Fighting is my defense mechanism. Crying is more for cleansing or catharsis and usually happens when I am alone or if in public, around people who doesn’t know me. I would never allow an enemy see me cry unless I think that there is hope that this enemy has a heart and there’s a chance for mutual understanding. I also cried in front of an enemy once, my narc sister while she was accusing me of being selfish and that was because I didn’t realize at that time that she didn’t have a heart and I was at that time trying to gain her affection.
Interesting. What’s good about this though is I now see that my anger should typically be in private as well. I regret getting mad at the narc all the time because that is exactly what he wanted.
I agree Empath007. No reaction is the ideal reaction. But in my case it is a challenge to stop myself from reacting. I was able to pull the ‘no reaction’ strategy to my narcs and it has offended them more than my confrontations with them. My EMMRN sister went GOSO at me once I started ignoring her and responding to her in a very cut and dried way with no emotions. I thought that those were my Super Nova moments. But I guess my narcs just got too spoiled by my reactions that when I consciously stopped giving it to them they couldn’t handle it. I should also clarify that confrontation is a more appropriate word to describe my outbursts than anger. Then during the confrontation I am unknowingly giving them more opportunities to provoke me so the confrontation turns into anger. So I am the same, trying to discipline myself into not reacting at all. But also, unfortunately my face is so transparent. My husband tells me that even when I’m, quiet my eyes tell everything. So the best option for me is to completely avoid narcissists as best as I can. 🤷♀️
Mommy Pino: My eyes are the same way! That is why I never went back around the Narcissist and his 4 Lieutenants. My eyes would have told them that the gig was up. The party is over. And for my own reasons, living in NYC, I did not want to cause Narcissistic injury or wounding or fury to any of these people. There would have been no benefit for me to do this. I just wanted out. I just told them that I was ill and I never went back. And I changed my gym location. If I encounter any of them, I will have to keep it short and not make eye contact as best as possible. It is best for me to not let any of them know that I know about their dynamic. Our eyes can give some of us away.
So true PSE. I wonder if it’s an empath thing. I have been trying to train myself in spotting narcissists just by their pictures and they say they have hard eyes even when they smile. My stepdaughter kinda has hard eyes even though she has a beautiful smile which she has perfected since she was a model. I also have a posed smile but when the pictures are candid and I’m having fun I look like a ham. In person my narcy stepdaughter sulks a lot and her ayes are either hard or bored or glaring with contempt. My narcy stepdaughter never has a picture where she looks like a ham.
PSE I agree with avoiding them especially since you are transparent like me. It’s best to be around positive people so that even though we have transparent expressions at least we have nothing to hide because we genuinely love their company.
PSE do you already know your cadre?
PSE, do you know much about Hugh Grant. I don’t know much about his personal life but he’s one of those people whom just by looking at his pictures, he looks like a narc to me. His eyes are so beautiful but there’s no depth in them and there’s coldness and detachment. His smiles are those posed smiles even though his smiles can be big at times, the energy from his eyes don’t match his smile sometimes. He is very expressive in his acting but they just look very shallow expressions. I don’t know if he really is a narc but looking at his eyes and smiles make me think that he is.
I completely understand I find it difficult to not react either. Anger is a good emotion because it protects us, tells us when something is wrong. But I find even with non narcs it’s never the best way to resolve conflict. I don’t know if there is any such thing as right or wrong… but I want to get better at reigning back my reactions as they please people more then convey my emotions to them.
I agree with everything empath007. 👍
PSE and MP, I don’t know the eyes thing is a hard one.. my narc had a VERY expressive face. When I would actually “strike a chord” his face would give it away… when I told him I thought he met the criteria for a sociopath his face was just washed with this look of “your figured it out” so I pressed and he admitted it that day. There was a few other moments where his face would totally change… it was amazing how much I could tell from his body language even though 99% of the time he was calm and cool while lying through his teeth etc.
So it just depends on the person if their eyes/face give them away I suppose.
Wow empath007, that is creepy that he seems aware of him being a sociopath. I have thankfully never encountered someone like that. I guess it’s really different for each narcissist.
I have read comments by people all over the internet where they say you can see it in their eyes. I was comparing Hugh Grant and Epstein and Hugh Grant is definitely very expressive while Epstein was not. Epstein had this empty cold eyes but also his whole facial expressions were pretty much the same in all of his pictures. I believe that Epstein was a narc. Hugh Grant, I’m not sure is he’s a narc. I have read more about him and he had done some stuff that makes you wonder if he is. He fathered three kids from two different moms in a span of 15 months and bought the moms houses about a mile from his house. He was an eternal bachelor until last year where he married one of his baby mamas. He also said in an interview that he’s very narcissistic that his pad is full of his pictures and all of them when he was young. He also said that his movies make it look like he’s nice but he’s actually very vile in real life. It seems like he has a lot of red flags. He’s definitely very expressive, but his eyes always seem detached. And his eyes when looking at people looks more like he was analyzing or reading them instead of being totally unguarded or vulnerable.
I know. The fact he knew still leaves me wanting to ask him so many questions. But I wouldn’t recieve the truth from him at this point and he’d probably deny saying it. He was a greater… I am sure of it. He also never has an IPPS just operates with many IPSSs. Also just the way he carries himself was different then the other narcs I’ve met. In terms of his “success” though I am actually ahead of him there. I make more money and have far nicer things then him. So he has nothing impressive to offer in the realm of material items.
As for Hugh Grant I’m not sure… but it would not surprise me at all if he was a narc
It sounds like he would have been more dangerous if he was more successful or wealthy. The narcissists in my life all believed themselves to be good people. I think that makes them less dangerous as it puts some limitations as to what they are capable of doing.
MommyPino: I think the eyes are not just an Empath thing. It is also sometimes called a `tell.` Some people flush, some wring their hands, or play with their hair, or rub their eyebrow or have a twisted little smile, a sort of stare, etc., all that they are not aware of. I was watching a movie once, I forget which movie, an old movie, and there were some people that could study these `tells` on gamblers and thus they knew when the gambler thought he or she had a good chance to win their game or not.` And then these watchers would bet opposite of these gamblers, something like that, and finesse these gamblers and beat them in the game, all by knowing their body language and their tells. The twist in the movie came when one gambler knew this was happening, and he faked a `tell` all night. And then later on, when the money to be won was incredible huge, he faked his tell, and they bet against him and they lost and he won that super huge pool of money by faking his tell. And then he scooped up all that money and chips, and management all looked at each other with a hostile look in their eyes, because of course the gambling house was going to beat him up later, or kill him and take all that money back. I at least I know when the tell is there in my eyes. The problem is, it is difficult for me to hide it when it is there. So, it is a problem. It feels sort of like a tiny bit of pressure in the back of my eyes, or something. I know that people can notice it. So, I hide it when it is there, by avoiding much eye contact. I felt if I saw those 4 Lieutenants the fire would have come out of my eyes and burned them up. So, I just never went back. I never did anything odd like that before. My feet refused to go back.
PSE, I think I know when the tell is in my eyes. I have observed in myself than when my emotions are high, whatever that emotion might be, it shows in my eyes. The trick that I did when I was successfully unable to show no emotion or reaction to my narcissist is when I am able to change my perspective on them. When I am able to pause and look at things from a distance and see that they have more effect on me than they should. I also adjust my perspective by giving them less value in my eyes, demoting their clout in my mind. Once I am able to do that, I am not reacting to them anymore. All of a sudden I become the doer or the puppet master. It takes a lot of mental preparation and discipline though especially since just like what is said in the Geyser article, I really do wear my heart on my sleeves. I am a 💯 genuine person, what you see is what you get. So I have to genuinely change my mindset in order to change the way I act. But it wasn’t impossible because I was able to do it with both my half sister and stepdaughters. And their “tell” totally gave me immense satisfaction that they were incredibly offended and affected by my indifference to them.
MommyPino: I have seen Hugh Grant. I have always felt neutral about Hugh Grant. He is charming. Now, I know what to call that behavior. Cognizant charm, then. A facade. It works for him, that is for sure. I am sure he could explain how he is going to kill you, and make it sound pleasant, as you both chuckle together. I wonder if he is as charming to British audiences as he is to American audiences, though. Now that I think about it, British accented actors often play the enemy masterminds in many American films. So, there is an association with Charm and Intellect that includes danger. I would not be surprised if Hugh plays the villain in roles when he becomes older and he is not able to win the leading man roles any longer. That would be great! Most actors loathe playing the villain when they are young, if they are presented with a choice of roles. When they are older, they often do not have the choice if they still want to work, unless they slide over to direct and produce films and cast themselves in the leading man roles. However, now, after talking to you about this, I do not like Hugh Grant.
Mommy Pino: I like this ideas that you replied to me, and I will work on it: `The trick that I did when I was successfully unable to show no emotion or reaction to my narcissist is when I am able to change my perspective on them. When I am able to pause and look at things from a distance and see that they have more effect on me than they should. I also adjust my perspective by giving them less value in my eyes, demoting their clout in my mind. Once I am able to do that, I am not reacting to them anymore.` MP: now if i can just do this when the `tell` lands in my eyes, I will be progressing for sure.
PSE, We might be different but for me it only works if I did it before the ‘tell’ lands in my eyes. I have to condition myself before I even see them in person. I have to plan out ahead of time how I am going to be before I see them. HG assessed me as a 57% Geyser and I have been thinking what it means for me. It’s too easy for me to forgive and one of my eternal secret wish is for everybody to get along. So if I did not decide ahead of time that this person, no matter what happens, should not be allowed back into my life because this person will never change, I can be vulnerable to a benign hoover especially if things are going wonderfully in the other aspects of my life. My default disposition is ‘happy’ and so if I’m in that happy disposition and the narcissist hoovers me by a benign hoover, my automatic tendency is to go back to providing positive fuel again and even residual benefits. So I have to decide ahead of time to never care about the narcissist no matter what and I am able to stick to it. It also works for malign hoovers, once I demoted the person in my mind, I don’t even pay attention to their provocations.
MommyPino: I have not been assessed, yet. Do you have an assessment for yourself? Only if you are comfortable saying, of course.
Empath007. I agree with you that the eyes do not give every person away. Mommypino and I both know that our eyes give us a way. It is good that we know, but it is still a problem for us that we have to work to manage for our own self preservation.
PSE and empath007, I agree with both of you but part of me doesn’t want to give up on looking for clues that will make it easier for me to spot narcissists just by their eyes or countenance. (And this is probably as hopeless as trying to produce gold by combining different chemicals.). Although I wouldn’t make it final as our expressions and countenance can be affected by other factors such as our physical and emotional health, but I can add it as a red flag and look for other red flags that are present in that person. Sa of bow I tend to think that empaths can have their face expressionless but their eyes can still give away what they are inside while narcissists can have a face full of expressions but their eyes are still detached and not letting people in.
Narcissists smile with their mouth but not their eyes.
Thank you NA!! I agree. And even if they manage to make their eyes look like smiling, there is still a lag.
“The Mid-Ranger will also be attracted because of the fuel on offer and the ease by which it can be harvested but the emotional volatility can become wearing to the Mid-Ranger”
This paragraph makes so much fucking sense to me right now. Especially the use of the word “wearing”. I’ve lost count of the number of times he’s told me that my behavior makes him him “weary”.
HG the Genius; the Pioneer and Great Thinker has explained the underpinning of my personality which is my belief in love.
HG my heart is filled with love for you. I can’t even say what I want to do to anyone who’s ever hurt you. You are special beyond words.
Thank you.
HG, was Jade Goody a magnet/geyser? or an N?
I was watching the documentary about her the other day. It was truly sad and disgusting how the press treated her in the beginning. Sickengly disgusting! But she turned it around and everyone loved her. Her life was incredibly tragic, she always seemed happy on the surface and bounced back quickly but I suspect there was a hidden emptiness.
What I hated about it the most (if you step aside from her tragic upbringng) was how the press and some celebrities were incredibly damning of her, it was the public who turned it around and said ‘we love Jade’. Then all of a sudden the press and the celebrities who damned her were now her new ‘best-friend’. The press at large are true MRNs and this example serves to demonstrate what you said in a comment a while ago how MRNs piggy back off of others.
I’ve observed that several times happen to other in my own personal life. Before I knew what an N was I would always support them if they were the ‘underdog’ and not well liked. Help them to increase their popularity. I stopped doing this some time before I found out what an N was, because I also realised there was no loyalty from some of these people. I didn’t understand why at the time.
Back to Jade she certainly had amazing strength!
I have no interest in Jade Goodie.
hmmmmm you’re making me wonder if she’s a Magnet SE now. Nice deflection HG hahaha
If pressed I be leaning towards narcissist.
Yay, okay thank you. Now I don’t need to feel sad for her any more.
I always find a solution for you AS2016. I wouldn’t waste your time on that particular individual, besides you need to spend more time at the dentist apparently.
Hahaha well thst was an old picture I sent you. My priority at the moment is to see the bariatric surgeon. Oh god and the hair transplant surgeon. I just hope I can save up for it with my benefits, but I just keep smoking and drinking all my money away.
Once that’s all In place I’ll get my teeth sorted. I’m close to 70 now so hopefully, i can’t achieve my goals quickly.
Ooh one more thing HG, any tips on dealing with bailiffs?
Yes, pay your debts and then you do not have to deal with them.
Good advice. Thanks HG! Just need to get off the fags and booze! No more happy hours for a while!
Stay out of Wetherspoons.
ugh that’s Where I get my staff discount!
It’s second only to McDonalds – you can sneak in your own bottle of plonk if you’re clever about it. You should try it some time HG. It’s lots of fun! All that excitement of not knowing whether you’re gonna get caught or not whilst gettin smashed off your face!
I will let you get back to your tin of sticky sticky.
Wayne’s been hogging it!
The last word 😂
Did you mumble something? Shouldn’t you be down the precinct throwing chips and arguing with the pigeons?!!
Hahahha oh that made me laugh so much you can have the last word. I’ll allow it – see how nice I am.
I always do.
I don’t understand why people send HG pictures….
Not judging… I’m young but I am very conservative with my views on things like that hah.
It was not a real picture, it was a joke. Plenty of people do send me pictures, for various reasons.
Don’t worry E007, I haven’t sent HG a real pic. It was just a little fun. I really like your choice of name by the way.
Haha! Well that’s good 🙂 to each their own if they want to send real pics… But I ain’t sending nothing to a narcissist sociopath 🤣 it took me months to get the courage to interact on the blog 🤣 haha.
Alexis—holy shit get ahold of yourself and brush your teeth or whatever else you need. Are you wearing deodorant?
Loool Lorelei. Thanks for the advice. I’m fully narc proof now
Not for a lower lesser, you are simply attracting the lower of the group!
Ah god damn it! I didn’t think of that Lorelei! You’re good at this.
Right. I’m going to hold my breath until I stop breathing.
I’m surrounded by lower lessers. Right now. They fail to notice a more discerning approach as beneficial to a more productive gain. Admittedly, they can be quite amusing.
Oh I love the leasers, I don’t come across them too often, mainly at the gym, give them a bit of praise and they carry my weights to wherever I want them and are very protective of me. It’s a perfect combo.
Ah Bugar! jimmy Saville crew! Will we ever be safe?
“Plenty of people do send me pictures, for various reasons.”
…Nudes, correct?
Some nudes, some clothed, some pictures of places they have visited, some interesting pictures of occurrences and places, the range is vast.
I’m Replying to the RE: “some nudes, some clothed…” Just shaking my head… I realize I am stuck in a conservative mentality when it comes to things such as this… but I just think this world has gone completely insane. I wouldn’t even send sexy pics to my narc.. mostly because we worked together and I could tell he bad intentions for them.. he couldn’t hide his bad intentions that well. And he always thought I couldn’t see right through him. What an idiot.
She is NOT one of mine!
Awww I felt really sorry for her. But no need to any more.
I have this and it is so annoying. I have a very hard time concealing emotion and I feel as though this quality has resulted in others not taking me as seriously as they should.
HG, what type of empath do you prefer to target?
Ones that are breathing.
Magnet super empath.
I want a re-diagnosis! I’m pretty sure I’m just a boring normal.
The diagnosis is helpful Alexis—to an extent. The most important element is just knowing to stay away from people incapable of authenticity.
Thanks Lorelei. Yes, you’re right staying away from toxic people as much as possible is the best way. I’m about 5 years post N. I followed all HG’s advice until I was fully healed. Of course I do still have some degree of addiction to Ns in general and my ET isn’t always under control, but it is the vast majority of the time.
I hope it’s kinda like McDonalds food. What I mean—when I was a kid I lived for the occasional treat. It’s gross now right?? Same with narcissists. It’s my goal—to not have any affinity that overrides my sensibilities at least.
Trust me, you have lived until you’ve eaten there! But you can’t beat a Maccy D’s though – I have to keep my weight up somehow!
That’s a great goal Lorelei. It sounds like you’re doing really well x
“Ones that are breathing.” Nice HG. Good to see the inclusiveness you provide!
Just see it as a manifestation of me wanting it all.
Haha—we all kinda want it all HG. I’ll give you a pass here.
Oh and by the way—I’m absolutely now 100% convinced you aren’t just pretending to be a narcissist as part of an elaborate ruse to “break into” the narcissist business!!
I have a guess about the different dynamic with the SM.
She has children. Young adults or well on their way to young adulthood. You will be directing the majority of your malice towards them… for use of triangulation, perhaps isolation and so on and so forth.
Just a thought I had while
Reading some of the new SM
Thread comments that are popping up.