The Matriarch Narcissist Knows Best
“I love you.”
“I have heard this is a good one for getting a reaction from you because this is what you always want to hear.”
“You won’t ever amount to anything.”
“Not while I am interfering in every facet of your life, controlling you and making your childhood and your adult life one long battle.”
“I just thought I would call you and see how you are.”
“You do not give me enough fuel. You are an ungrateful son/daughter and I regret the day I gave birth to you.”
“It is my birthday next week and I just wondered if you had anything planned.”
“I expect something lavish and spectacular so I can be centre stage. If you haven’t planned such an event you are cruel and uncaring, just as I always thought.”
“I am proud of you.”
“For once you have done something I approve of and now I can take all the credit for it.”
“You were quite a challenge when you were younger.”
“I thought you might resist my cold-hearted manipulation of you, but I broke you in the end.”
“I suppose you have heard the sad news about your Uncle Paul dying?”
“A death! A funeral! Such a wonderful stage for me to dominate and all those relatives to suck fuel from.”
“I am trying to help you,you know?”
“I am trying to control you, stop resisting me.”
“I have done so much for you. All I want is some thanks.”
“I think I have done so much for you. I need some fuel.”
“It was a joke. You take yourself so seriously.”
“It was not a joke. Damn you for seeing through it. I need to back track quickly so I am not accountable.”
“You were an accident.”
“Go on cry and make me feel powerful.”
“Your father and I have discussed this as we think…”
“I have decided….”
“Your father agrees with me so there is no point running to him.”
“Your father knows better than to contradict me.”
“I had such high hopes for you.”
“You aren’t doing what I want.”
“That never happened.”
“It did but you are not allowed to hold that against me.”
“We never thought you would leave home.”
“You were not meant to move out of my control.”
“We hardly ever see you these days.”
“You should be providing me with fuel more often.”
“You weren’t like this when you were little.”
“You were so much easier to control back then.”
“I don’t love you.”
“I don’t love you. I never have.”
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NC,
And so the cycle continues?
It is criminal what your mother condoned.
Simply criminal.
I wonder if she suffered the same type of abuse.
TT, I also jumped to this conclusion on another article. The abuser is often the abused.
Sadly, yep NN
I’m interested to hear more about it although I know it will break my heart.
MB,
I am in the same mind set as you are. Part of me would like to learn more and the other part just wants to shield that sweet boy from having to relive it! I think I have found that reliving it is actually harder then going through it the first time. I hate this for him.
MB and FM1T
It’s heartbreaking for anyone who has endured such a violation. I didn’t mean to minimise anyone elses experience of this. I personallly don’t want to know more about HGs story.
FM1T I commend your courage in reliving the experience… commend anyone who has been subjected to this and their efforts to rise above the psychological and emotional damage. I believe in severe repercussions for this type of crime. It’s infuriating how lenient the punishment for this and rape are in Aust…
Tappi,
Re: I believe in severe repercussions for this type of crime. The person that has caused the most harm and imprinted on me, is now dead. This might sound cruel to some and I’m not sorry in the least for thinking this way.
He died at a young age from a disease that left him wheelchair bound and unable to care for himself. To me that was severe enough.
Good that he suffered. And that he’s dead.
I hope reliving your past was cathartic and healing xo
Damn another good one hg
Thankyou CJ.