The Treatment


We do not seek treatment. The answer to why that is the case is a simple one. There is nothing wrong with us. Occasionally we may be compelled to undergo treatment but that is a different matter. We feel no compulsion at all to volunteer to be subjected to analysis and therapy because there is nothing wrong with us. Yes, we know that our treatment of other people is often unpleasant and has significant downsides to those who are subjected to it but that still does not amount to a good reason why we should seek some form of assistance. The way we behave is the way we behave. Deal with it. We cannot help but act this way because it is the way we have been designed. We must obtain our precious fuel and if that means we lash out and wound others, emotionally and physically then that it is the price that has to be paid. By you.

You must also remember that since we have no concept of empathy, when we see our behaviour injure others it does not affect us. We do not feel guilt, we do not feel shame at what we have done and we do not feel the need to put right the injurious harm we mete out to others. This is our modus operandi and it can never be changed. Add to that our lack of remorse and you have two huge reasons why we will not act to seek treatment to change our ways.

Naturally, there will be times where we will talk about seeking treatment.

“I need help, I know that now. You are the only one who can do it.”

“If I seek assistance for this terrible affliction, will you stay and help me?”

“I don’t know why I do it, perhaps I need help. Will you help me?”

“I need you. Don’t go. You have to save me from myself.”

“I will change, I will go and see somebody, just don’t leave me, please.”

These are all empty promises. Remember, words comes easy to us. We will dangle these carrots of penance and insight in order to get you to do what we want. Once that has been secured and you try to cash the cheque that we have written you will find the bank has not only been closed but razed to the ground. It is not a question of there being nothing to cash it against, there is nowhere to cash it.

Treatment is for the weak and foolish. To submit to it is an admission of weakness. In the rare instances that we will, it is only to enable us to get something else that we want or to prevent something drastic happening to us and thus we regard the pay-off as one worth making. We do this safe in the knowledge that any treatment will not be effective because:-

  1. We use our manipulative wiles to con the person treating us into concluding that there is nothing wrong with us;
  2. We spend the time trying to charm the therapist and this may work or if they are alive to our manipulation they are forced to terminate the work;
  3. We do not want to change and see the therapist’s actions as a direct challenge which we must thwart. Our energy is channelled into frustrating and defeating him or her and not applying ourselves to the treatment.
  4. We treat the treatment as a form of fuel.
This results in it being futile.
The reality is that those who engage with us are the ones that end up seeking treatment. It is most often the case that our bewildering and confusing conduct towards you has you at your wit’s end. You seek answers and if you are fortunate, you turn to a professional who is fully conversant with out kind. They are able to illuminate you to what you have endured, assist your understanding and then hold your hand as they take you through the painful and difficult extrication from our grip. You are blessed with insight from this treatment.
In certain instances, the abuse we dole out is such that it seriously damages the recipient and therefore treatment is needed to deal with the symptoms of our behaviour towards you. The ramifications for you are serious and have long lasting effects.
We do not seek the treatment. You do. In doing so this is often the first time you actually realise what you have encountered and what you have been subjected to.


17 thoughts on “The Treatment

  1. mollyb5 says:

    HG what do you think or know about brain scans ? They type that was developed to read empathy and lobe activity ?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      They have an applicability.

  2. mollyb5 says:

    HG. Do you still see the doctors as a patient? I remember I read you go voluntarily ? I think I read that. Which of course was different from the beginning. Do you find yourself wanting to know more about yourself still ? Or have you surpassed the doctors expertise and knowledge ?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I still interact with them.
      I always wants to know more about myself, I am fascinating.

  3. Claire says:

    How long have you been in therapy, HG? Apologies if my question is too personal and it is OK if you don’t want to answer it.
    Did you notice any significant impact – in terms of controlling your impulses to manipulate? I understand that is is your nature – fuel – control – limited emotions .
    My mind was twisted a bit when I read the article Stargazing with The Shieldmaiden due to the fact that I watched the same day ( earlier) your video Can You Have a Successful Intimate Relationship with a Narcissist.
    I see the connection and the logic between the article and video but my ET makes me wish that a therapy could contribute to an extended golden period and zero devaluation.
    This is not a false hope nor I believe other narcissists can change after a therapy .
    But as some people can survive deadly viral deceases based on their pre existing good health status and the help of antibiotics, in the same logic given your extraordinary intellect and self awareness, perhaps you might minimise the narcissistic behaviour ? In particular, the impact on your personal life .
    If you want of course . The human brain is still terra incognita.

  4. FoolMe1Time says:

    HG do you still see the good Doctors or are you finished with seeing them?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I continue to interact with them FM1T.

      1. FoolMe1Time says:

        Thank you HG

  5. Veronique Jones says:

    Sometimes I almost forget that you are a narcissist and I get sucked in you write like an artist then I read am article like this I really need to watch that

  6. bostongirl13 says:

    I stand corrected. You did have a conscience and empathy. Long long ago. Decades ago it was now. It was stolen. I can’t lie and say it could come back as it was, perhaps some could. Attachment is the etiology. Neuroplasticity decreases with age but doesn’t stop. There is always hope.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      1. I did not.
      2. Hope is misleading.

  7. Joy&Love says:

    Is this the case with your current treatment? After all these years would you say you’re at the same point where you started?

    1. HG Tudor says:


  8. Claire Voyant says:

    Treatment Shmeatment. I have many questions for you…about you. Years ago I thought about paying for a private consult just to ask them. Then I thought…preposterous! I cannot pay HG Tudor, to learn about him. Besides, because you have no empathy, no conscience, I would get no honest answers. If I believed I could? I would’ve. I wish I was sitting in with you and the good doctor. Lucky bloke.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You do get honest answers because it serves my purposes to provide you with honest honesty rather than dishonest ones.

      1. bostongirl13 says:

        Honest honesty, well hell yeah, then I’m all in then. I’ll grab my wallet and get my keyboard ready. I’d like to take a crack at playing your good doctor.

  9. santaann1964 says:

    This makes me even stronger! This is why I love you Mr.H. You give me Fuel. 😜

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