The Relational Tower



I sit up on high in my Relational Tower. I can see so much from this throne.

I look to the north and see the golden and shimmering lines which extend from me to my loyal subjects across the land. I see my supporters, my followers and my coterie going about their daily lives but all the while connected to me. They feel such privilege to be linked to me, their liege and I feed on that sense of privilege and the admiration and that adoration which is entwined around it.

I look to the south and see yet more lines of sparkling gold which link between me and my most devout lieutenants. From my vantage point I can signal to them and they will obey, carrying out my commands, executing my diktats and honouring my instructions. It is a source of great comfort to gaze in their direction and observe their industry on my behalf.

I look to the east and frown at the assembled legions which march towards me. The malcontents, the rejected, the fools and the idiots, all those who have taken up against me and now march in the expectation that they will unseat me. Yet further lines span out from me to these traitors. Dark purple lines, nearly invisible against the glowering firmament, these multitudinous lines which have those transgressors permanently attached to me and through which I pull, twist and yank. They moan, they wail and they lament their fate but there is no hope for any other for these are those who bear the stain of betrayal, the putrid stench of sedition emanates from their shambling frames. Let them come, let them advance towards me and I shall watch them as they break against my tower, like waves against the rocks as they are sent scattering and dissipating into so much spray. I watch them from afar, sometimes commanding my lieutenants to enter the fray to cajole and direct, a myriad of gold and purple shimmering and glinting as the lines combine. From time to time the purple becomes golden as by my most glorious bounty I bestow the wondrous joy upon the select few.

I look to the west and there I see you. You shine with such glory, the golden line between you and I fizzing with effervescence. A thick line which coils about your wrists, torso and throat, sending that precious essence towards me. There are days when that connection will dim to the purple of guilt, the thick line becoming stretched and thinned, but never ever breaking. I watch you as you journey towards me, face upturned, eyes rapturous, hands outstretched as the light burns brighter and those who are less than me would struggle to gaze upon you, but I always will. Though I may turn my face away from you from time to time, my dark eyes will always look for you.

I watch you all as you journey towards me, the supporters, the lieutenants, the outcasts and you. I can see it all from this elevated position as I organise, direct and orchestrate. I know what you want. I know what you all want, each and every one of you.

I am attached to you all, you are bound to me, some tighter than others, some with those chains which bite and burn, others who raise no objection to their silken bondage, but all are bound to me. I made it so. I wanted that. I am connected to so many of you. I have a relationship with each and every one. Our relational proximity varies from stranger to intimate partner, from minion to inner circle friend, from colleague to family member and so on. Relationships. I have them by the hundred and create more each day, reaching out with my tendrils of gold and purple in order to remain exactly where I want to be – at the centre in my tower.

I know why you all head towards me. You want to enter this tower and thus gain admittance to me. You wish to unlock the vast gate and pass through the imposing portal to enable you to climb the winding stone steps, each time passing without hindrance or complication through the many doors and gates which guard my inner sanctum.

I know you want to enter my inner sanctum.

Some of you want to cradle what you find there. Some of you wish to possess what your eyes will rest upon. Some of you wish to claim a portion for yourselves and be forever imbued with its effects. Some of you wish to release what is in this inner sanctum. Some of you wish to understand what lies there. Some of you wish to destroy what is revealed.

Whatever it might be, the hundreds of relationships which I have, no matter how long, how strong and how tightly bound or otherwise these may be all seek to enter my Relational Tower and penetrate the inner sanctum.

This cannot happen.

I made this tower. I built it high. I built the walls deep and thick, constructed from the stones of denial and the slabs of deflection all held in place with the mortar of fuel. I fashioned the thick timbers of the door from projection, the timber bolted together through triangulation and the lock created from a steely gaze and iron resolve. The heavy bar that is set against it arose from the blame-shifting. I have set many traps and pitfalls within this tower in order to prevent anybody reaching the inner sanctum. The stone steps are smeared with vitriol, the walls spiked with character assassination, cauldrons wait to pour their heated fury onto you and cast you in deep pits of despair. The stone is so thick that there is only ever silence here, it as if the very walls are giving you a cold and baleful stare. Everything that I have learned will be used to impede your progress, hamper and hinder you so you may not ever reach that inner sanctum.

I know you all want to go there. I know you want to reach deep inside of me, into my inner sanctum but I must not allow it. I dare not. I cannot admit anybody. Ever.

I built this tower high. I built it thick. I made it impenetrable.

I built it to keep you out.

I built it to keep me in.

We are always connected but so long as I remain in my Relational Tower in such splendid isolation then my inner sanctum remains preserved and so do I.

29 thoughts on “The Relational Tower

  1. Dorion says:

    This is one of my favorites from you HG. Of course, for the usual reason, how I relate to a lot of it myself. I also recognize these features and orientations in many people I typically like, who are socially, emotionally and yes, relationally avoidant. It is usually easier for me to get along with people like this. It is my habitual go-to. I find always find it so interesting that narcs tend to navigate toward the other pole… yet still unable to move very much toward them.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you.

      1. Dorion says:

        One of my exes had me read the read the whole Dark Tower series by Stephen King. I didn’t understand why at start, but the more I got into the books the more I related to the protagonist and the whole metaphor… and the “outcome” in the end. I think he was also a normal with high narcissistic traits, but not NPD. This Relational Tower of yours remind me of SK’s novel every time I see it.

  2. Leigh says:

    Is it just me or is no one seeing the comments anymore. The last comment I see is from February 26. I’m wondering if there is something wrong on my end.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is because no comments have been moderated whilst I have been away, doing other things, professional things, important things.

      1. njfilly says:

        Can you tell us what important things you were doing? I missed you.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          No, that cannot be disclosed.

          1. njfilly says:

            Ok. I understand. I started wondering though, if you died, we would never know.

          2. Lorelei says:

            HG—were you with James Corden?

          3. HG Tudor says:

            Check if he is alive, if so, no I was not.

          4. A383 says:

            Welcome back HG x

          5. HG Tudor says:

            Thank you A383.

      2. Violetta says:

        I hope to the God you don’t believe in that one of them has been an intervention with “Just Harry” but you couldn’t tell us even if it was.

      3. leighwarren17 says:

        Glad to hear you are ok. You were definitely missed!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Thank you.

      4. theletterafterj says:

        Important things like: running faster than a speeding bullet! More powerful than a locomotive! Able to leap tall buildings in a single bound and catching the bad guys.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Something like that!

          1. theletterafterj says:

            Excellent, I can sleep safer tonight because of you. The search bar works very well BTW.

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Jolly good.

          3. Intrepid Traveller says:

            Did you go and pick up Meghan?

          4. HG Tudor says:

            I did not.

          5. Violetta says:

            K and Intrepid:

            You know, she wants to be a superhero now.


            The comments are classic.

        2. Lorelei says:

          Hi K!

        3. Lorelei says:

          K—he says he goes where angels won’t go. But. I’ve been to a few bars.. I dunno, I think I got HG beat.

          1. theletterafterj says:

            Hello Lorelei!
            Hahahaha…some bars can be down right nasty! Enter at your own risk.

          2. Lorelei says:

            I’m fairly particular these days K.

  3. TJ says:

    This one is so true to the man I know.
    It ran right through my veins!! It was chilling!!
    He says he will take so much hurt to his grave.
    His younger years made him the man he is today.
    Even though very successful, his tower is built so much in the way you have described.
    Thank you HG for such a realistic description.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are most welcome TJ.

  4. Hope says:

    It would be so cool to see this in animation.

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