The Ultra Narcissist met his victim in a club.

She agreed to head home with him.

How did they both get what they wanted and needed?

Understand the power dynamic between the two.



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  2. Cloudy says:

    Thank You HG

  3. Cloudy says:


    Is there part 2 on SPANKED?

    1. HG Tudor says:


  4. CINDERELLA says:

    Hey HG! Is “Spanked” an audio or text file? I am still having problems playing the audios. Thanks.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is audio. The audio files are very simple. You download it and play it through Google Drive.

      1. CINDERELLA says:

        Yes HG! I finally got the first two audios I ordered from you to play. I just ordered “Spanked” through PayPal and am waiting for it to arrive. Thank-you.

  5. DoForLuv says:

    Oh wow ! Hahaha I’ve never ever wanted to be Spanked or head home with a stranger .
    So I guess I’ve to buy to understand it.

  6. njfilly says:

    Mesmerizing. Mr. HG Tudor weaves his spell over me.

  7. Renarde says:

    Thought I’d proffer an extremely odd occurrence that happened just the other day.

    Why back in the autumn of 2017, I met a Dom Technically very good. Probably UMRE. He used two implements, one was a horse hair flogger.

    So it was a but of a shock to find one of the hairs on the table. I’ve long moved house since then, cleaned many many times but yet there it was! And if course it was ever presence.

    Makes you think.

    I’ll be buying this one but cannot at present as am having card issues.

    1. Twisted Heart says:

      You know what I like about you? You are one of the most weaponized empaths and you are always open about the fact that you still engage with narcs from time to time. It’s incredibly difficult to avoid them and I don’t want to lock myself up in the house but you have a way of interacting with them without allowing them to take your power. I really really admire that about you. It’s kind of a fun way to approach it. Like they don’t see us coming. I’ve learned a lot from you and NA in that way. And of course our Ultra Dom HG.

      1. Renarde says:

        Twisted Heart.

        So so kind of you to say these words. Very kind.

        You are correct, we must engage. The realm of the poison pill, middles who havnt really got it but do wield positions of some power are all over the place.

        She had the voice, soft but there was no warmth. I found her almost bullheaded attitude to not signposting me to their complaints procedure. That it wasbt her fault (No one is saying it is).

        To dance around the kack of training in her junior and attempt to fly it back onto me, that I was blaming her; she got it.

        No, I’m blaming you for not training her properly. Pure challenge fuel. She started to get angry. So did I. But still wasnt getting anywhere.

        She then AGAIN broke her own procedure. Honestly, it was pathetic. Then she personally attacked me. The next recourse – I just simply cut off the call. Not interested. I did however get another person contact me who was lovely and I secured my appointment.

        Funny what be nice and polite can do?

        One of the things she kept on doing was attempting to talk over me. People do this but it’s usually ok. Because they dont have to be told to stop doing it. They will usually back down in the case where the other person is disclosing extremely distressing information. Then magically, no anger. You check yourself and move on.

        Point is, I never assume someone is a narc. Not until more evidence presents itself. Not fair otherwise. But its taken me 24 hours to realise this about her.

        Complaints procedures, so hard. You never know who you are dealing with. My ex would say, complain complain! But all you are doing is opening up even more avenues to leave yourself thoroughly and utterly exhausted. Rare that you get anywhere. And whi has the time for that?

        We all are on our paths. But the thing that knits us together is NPD and Empathy.

        Back to the horse hair. He told me he loved me abd I certainly loved him. It was a whirlwind. He attempted to manage this, I refused. We had a small fight then it was over.

        He came back on the Hoover of course.

        Ahh another ramble. HG will laugh but that’s it for me now. I’d far rather devote my life to helping others and keep that LT in check. I do know that helps. But I’m being attacked for it. Its a fact of life but sometimes rather difficult to take.

        I’m always here for anyone who requires advice on this most niche role. X

  8. Kimberly manning says:

    50 Shades of HG? Lol

    1. HG Tudor says:

      How dare you.

      1. Renarde says:

        Ha ha!

  9. Mercy says:

    If there was a clue or a lesson in there I’m sure as hell am never going to figure it out. Is there a part 3?? Can I request the video version?

    A very multi-layered thank you HG!

    1. zwartbolleke says:

      Hey Mercy

      I’m still with you on the “she” matter, I have been so very ill, I only got out of bed for the Q&A thing, and didn’t perform anything else this week, still not feeling better…
      I have a lot to catch up I guess in the forum, I didn’t look there this whole week neither.

      I still haven’t read about Karen though, (3 that got away), I’m so afraid to read it and then feel miserable…

      I will read it soon (tonight?) Wish me luck!
      I want to continue our quest for “she”! (Or has that been solved yet?)

      1. Mercy says:

        Z, I’m sorry to hear you are sick. I was wondering where you’ve been. Don’t worry about “she” or clues or Karen. Just get better. We will fill you in when you’re feeling better. Rest and recovery is most important. Take care dear

        1. zwartbolleke says:

          Mercy, I read Karen…

          I will come back to the forum asap, but: read again the last sentence of the text (3 that got away). The last sentence, so after the story of Karen. Mr Tudor ends with a conclusion that you have to read again. Word for word!
          It is (in my opinion) a very important sentence.
          The conclusion is (in my opinion) NOT about the 3 that got away (only 2 of them, so there is another, I guess that is “she”).

          1. Mercy says:

            Z, I read it again. I think I know what you are referring to. I’ll wait to hear your thoughts.

      2. Violetta says:


        Don’t know what you’re sick with, but I hope you feel better. Chicken soup has a protein that heals better than other liquids heated to the same temperature-someone did a study. Order in if you’re too tired to cook.

        Or perhaps you’re already on it–HG sent me part 7, and someone is definitely cutting onions around here again….

        Thank you.

        1. zwartbolleke says:

          Dear Violetta

          Thank you for your kind advice, I’m still very ill after a week of pain and being ill. I know I have been working too hard (and for too long), my body is exhausted and this is the price I have to pay. So no complaining, I caused it myself. My body is also too tired to recover so it is a perpetuum mobile of cause and effect.
          I know very well I should eat meat to get stronger, but I prefer to not eat meat… so, this slows down recovery, I only eat fruit and vegetables, combined with working too much: recipe for disaster!! 🙂

          Throw those onions away sweetheart, I involved you into the series and so I take you in it until the end.
          I haven’t been in the discussion forum this week due to being ill, but this forum is very much my thing, I like to engage my brains and consider all the different possibilities! My respect for Mr Tudor has only grown as a cause of the series, what a genius, what a genius.
          Have you ever listened to Bach?
          I am an addict to Bach, he was also a genius. There’s a lot of similarities between them.

          Bach has hidden many many secret messages in the scores, there are so many layers in Bach’s music, there’s so much more than only the music that you hear (a lot of mathematics for instance), it’s the same with Mr Tudor, there’s so much more than meets the eye, fascinating.

          1. Violetta says:

            I lurrrrve Bach. HG is definitely more of a Bach than a Vivaldi: the one personifies precision; the other is the antithesis of it. (Granted, I’m influenced by a job-from-hell where the manager kept piping in Four Seasons on repeat, and I shall always associate it with resentment at being patronized and aching feet)

        2. Mercy says:

          Violetta, I mentioned that we could use your help on #7. I’d be interested to hear your thoughts.

          1. Violetta says:

            Mercy, I’m not even close to #7! I had to deal with a bunch of Unemployment screwups, thanks to my last employer, F.U.:

            1. They screwed up the last date of the term. TWICE.

            a) we were supposed to get in our grades by the 10th of December. The system ate grades for everyone teaching a section of the course I was teaching. They eventually found most of them, but I had to fill in the last few on the 11th.

            b) the payroll office downtown told them the end of term was a few days before Christmas–which it was, downtown.
            I was at a branch campus, where the term ended several weeks earlier.

            2. Meanwhile, I had called payroll to find out how much I was supposed to be paid each week. (You file the week you do the work, not when you’re actually paid for it.) They couldn’t tell me. They referred me to some base rate + x times number of students plus y times credit hours, and since I not only teach English, not Algebra, but had also been told I was getting a flat fee for the entire term, this was worse than useless. Explaining the flat fee did not produce so much as a dent in their thick skulls. I took the flat fee, divided by (the number of weeks of class + one week for grading), and reported that.

            Then I had to look up my.stubs to get a discount on medical treatment. I found out they’d been giving me different nets every week, usually by a few cents, but on one check, by a few dollars. I had never heard of such a thing, and I’ve worked hourly, salary, temp, and long-term! I contacted Unemployment, and they verified that as long as my weekly reported gross added up to the flat fee I had declared, I was okay, but the woman I spoke to said of their net payments, “This is very confusing.” I replied, “You’re telling me.”

            So I have more time to catch up on my Narcsite library now, but I’m wondering if I should anonymously tip off the IRS that there are Financial Irregularities at F.U. The place is malfunctioning so thoroughly that it might be overkill; someone’s going to nail them on something eventually.

            Would this make me a whistle-blower or just a fink?

          2. Mercy says:


            “Would this make me a whistle-blower or just a fink?” No I think this make you fed up with incompetence. Maybe if they are held responsible they wont overlook the incompetent people working for them. This is a huge pet peeve of mine along with phone trails. Passing the buck from one office to the other to get answers. Its so annoying.

            I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. What a bunch of stress. I must have misunderstood, I thought you told Z you had listened to number 7. The way it was written made me think of you

          3. Violetta says:

            Mercy, I was just touched at Z’s kindness. Until I had cleared up all the lovely bollixing up F.U. had done, I listened to HG’s shorter vids on YT and read updates. I wanted to hear each segment of the KHG series without interruption or being distracted.

            I have finished “Three That Got Away,” however, and the one that hit me hardest was the photographer. She’d have done better if HG had been there to siphon up all that fuel; instead, it turned inwards on her. Who’d have thought that feeding a narc’s appetite might save you?

            (HG, please edit as needed if I gave given away too much.)

        3. zwartbolleke says:

          “Granted, I’m influenced by a job-from-hell where the manager kept piping in Four Seasons on repeat, and I shall always associate it with resentment at being patronized and aching feet”

          Are you familiar with Max Richter, Recomposed Vivaldi Four Seasons (&Daniel Hope)? If you can find it (it’s on Spotify), I can recommend it to enjoy The Four Seasons again 🙂
          This was the soundtrack when I discovered my father is a psychopath (3 ys ago). I cried and cried and played this version (Max Richter) for months and months, very powerful is: Summer (when the thunderstorm and lightening are rageing over the heated land) and Autumn, the hunt, (the music is the chase after a deer in the hunting season in autumn), that’s how I felt, I suffered panic attacks and felt like a deer who was hunted, nowhere safe.
          Oh how that music comforted me…
          Throwback time when thinking about it again 🙂

          And Stabat Mater from Vivaldi, Andreas Scholl as contratenor, ow yes Vivaldi is refined magnificence, very much, but JS Bach, Bach is beyond comparison, he’s the Master, as much as Mr Tudor is the Master. It wouldn’t surprise me if Mr Tudor has written classic music, it would surprise me if he didn’t 🙂

          1. Violetta says:


            I once heard a version of “Four Seasons” on the radio, played on some bizarre instruments, something like a koto and an oud or items equally unexpected. It did give me somewhat of a fresh hearing of it, but as my vocal coach put it, Vivaldi kept writing the same music all of his life. From my perspective, he managed to sound more limited by multiple octaves, keys, and time-signatures than the Ramones did when they had only three chords to work with and the same “1-2-3-4!” count to introduce them.

            I’ll look for the Richter version.

            But yeah, Bach could eat him for breakfast.

  10. Hope says:

    Side note- I wonder who posed for him? And who took the picture?

  11. Hope says:

    We are all entitled to our opinions and preferences. While I cannot say how she felt, as I am not her, I would like to share my thoughts and hear others thoughts:

    (Post edited as it included numerous spoilers)

  12. Claire says:

    OK, my curiosity is triggered. Let me see if
    a) the linens were ironed afterwards. Apologies if someone is offended, but I find this amusing.
    b)I going to find another clue .

  13. Em says:

    HG – What is an Ultra Narc? First time I’ve heard this term.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is me, Em, me.

      1. Em says:

        Of course!!

      2. Narc noob says:

        What is the difference between the Ultra and Elite or do you use both terms interchangeably? Is there an UMRN Elite/Ultra?

        Many thanks for your time, HG

        1. HG Tudor says:

          No they are not used interchangeably. One is the school, the other is the cadre.

  14. MB says:

    For the sleuths out there, you will find a clue in this one. This reinforces what is written in ‘Sex’. It’s not about sexual pleasure for the narcissist. Curious about HG as a Dom? Fill your boots!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Indeed MB, it is a multi-layered piece and yes, for those sleuthing about me, it contains some further clues.

      1. MB says:

        I’m still ruminating on it. It’s not what I expected.

  15. Chihuahuamum says:

    Is this in a continued story format or explaining the dynamic of the original story? Spank you very much 😄

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It continues from the original however it provides more insight into the dynamic. It is multi-layered. People will draw many different aspects from it, it is a beautiful piece of craftsmanship.

      1. WhoCares says:

        “it is a beautiful piece of craftsmanship.”

        For me, this particular statement – in itself – is more titillating then the subject matter or the image.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          It absolutely is.

          1. WhoCares says:


            I believe you.
            It is definitely on my ‘to buy’ list – however, at this time I need more logic than I do titillation.

            And I will be accessing some logic bulletins later today.

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Jolly good. Logic prevails.

        2. njfilly says:

          Mr. HG Tudor is a Master Craftsman.

          1. WhoCares says:

            I agree. I want to read this one simply because of HG’s particular description – not because I feel the need to know what happened following ‘Who’s Your Daddy.’

          2. njfilly says:

            Yes, that was quite descriptive of his ability.

    2. Kim e says:

      Chi…what was the original called? I dont remeber it at all

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Who’s The Daddy.

        1. B. Beni says:

          The love that one! Now this makes sense. Thank you HG.

  16. MB says:

    This day goes down in blog history.

    1. Kim e says:

      MB…Dont faint!!!!

      1. MB says:

        Too late!

        1. theletterafterj says:


      2. theletterafterj says:

        Kim e
        Quick, get the smelling salts ready!

      3. Chihuahuamum says:

        I fainted but im ok now 😁😂

    2. WhoCares says:

      You guys are too funny!

      Hope you’re okay, MB…MB?

      (All I am actually curious about, at the moment, is how many are off to purchase a gift credit card so “Spanked” by HG Tudor doesn’t show up on their purchase history.)

      1. Violetta says:

        Given the crap sold at any Barnes and Noble, let alone Amazon, I doubt anyone cares anymore.

        1. WhoCares says:

          No doubt Violetta, in one instance it’s only between you and the cashier, in the other example someone could just mentally file it under ‘personal interest’…or ‘erotica’ …but within a group of purchases from HG, this one would stand out, and might fail to support the conviction: ‘Honestly, I was just consulting an “expert”…’


          1. Violetta says:

            “She’s not an Empath, she’s just a very naughty girl!”

          2. WhoCares says:


          3. Renarde says:


            I do like you. You’re very funny. I hope you didnt take my asking about your name as an intrusion? It’s just so very rare and I called myself it. But only for a few months. You see, I was with someone who really hurt me, in fact, I’d never felt emotional pain for a man before on that level.

            So the name became an aspect of ever presence that had to go.

          4. Violetta says:

            Renarde: If I didn’t want to discuss it, I wouldn’t. A friend once referred to my bedroom as “a shrine to violets.”

            So why did you temporarily choose it?

          5. Renarde says:


            I saw the Opera. Covent Guarden it was good but Don Giovanni was better. It struck me, her, Violetta.

            And I do very much love violets. My daughter would pick them for me.

            It was also a test. I used to deliberately place ‘traps’ on my profile and this was one. Can you name her? Who was she?

            Only one ever got it. But of course this was faulty logic because I was only weeding out the stupid ones!

            Now, I dont engage in any of that nonsense. Still get it. I called a man out for being a prick. Tame for me. Hes then PMd me wanting us to ‘talk and discuss things further’. This is entirely a result of Turkey Boy at Xmas. The one who wanted to buy me? Jesus.

            They blunder in, despite ZERO encouragement and just assume it will be OK? It’s like poking a stick at a snake. And they are just too dumb to see it. Bizarre

            Anyway, lovely name.

          6. Violetta says:

            Because she allowed her ex to think the worst of her when she was actually cooperating with his dad’s plea not to ruin the young man’s life, or his sister’s chances of getting married, with her scandal? Do you see yourself as sacrificing everything for a guy who’d throw a pack of cards in your face?

            Btw, the Teresa Stratas one is especially gorgeous.

          7. Renarde says:


            Nilhlism has been very much in my mind recently. Including decks of cards.

            The Smear is so overwhelming and prevents us from acting. You literally in that place of ‘Cant do right for doing wrong’. Then you ARE being forced into which is the ‘less bad option’. When THAT hand is forced; you’ve already lost because you are making concessions.

            Invariably it means YOU will be sacrificed for whatever version of the greater good happens to be in favour with the narc black/white mindset. Does this make sense? It’s always about the children. Always.

            Funny this is, I’ve also been thinking about the kobayashi maru scenario. That there is not unwinable situation You just need the balls to cheat.

            What do you think, V?

          8. Violetta says:

            If you read Dumas fils’ source book, The Lady of the Camellias, the father’s appeal to her was particularly strong because he was dangling in front of her the kind of approval she never got from her own father.

            The Opera and most stage versions of it have the lovers reuniting when she’s on her deathbed, but in the book, he only learns of her sacrifice after she’s dead and buried. See the Stratas movie, because there’s something in the last few camera shots that’s absolutely heartbreaking.

      2. MB says:

        WC, luckily it was early this morning I listened and have thankfully mostly recovered! Fair warning…it’s pretty intense.

        1. WhoCares says:

          “It’s pretty intense.”

          I have no doubt.

    3. zwartbolleke says:

      Pfieuw, 🚿

      I have not yet read SATN, what an introduction 🙂

      1. Renarde says:

        Read it zwart. It will open your mind.

        1. zwartbolleke says:

          Yes Renarde, I will,
          time… I need 48 hours in one day 🙏🏻

          1. Renarde says:

            I know the feeling! Or I used to.

            Its vital that women read this book. It’s very hard to pin down accurate studies on the percentage of women that are affected by sexual dismophia. I think that’s the right term but essentially I mean that absolutly normal human sexuality functions in females.

            A lot of females hold sexual trauma in their bodies. Some are traumatised by their partners. This book shows you how and why it happens. Read on and it also shows you how to defeat this very powerful manipulation.

            I would argue that pretty much all sexual dysfunction is the result of some kind of abuse. There will be exceptions, geuine biological exceptions but they have to be in a small percentile.

            And dont forget, enjoy! My best bit is how his brain rattles through the fuel calculations during the act. Bloody brilliant! Yeah so possibly read ‘Fuel’ as well if you havnt already.

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