The Final Battle : How to Stop Thinking About the Narcissist



The hardest part of achieving freedom from the narcissist and the effects of the narcissist is stopping thinking about the narcissist.

Whether it is the endless whirring mind of questions, the desire to plot revenge against the narcissist, worrying about being hoovered or contemplating the golden period over and over, there are a multitude of ways in which the narcissist stays in your head.

Not any more.

This Assistance Package addresses :-

Why the narcissist being in your head is The Final Battle of No Contact

What drives you to keep thinking about the narcissist

How those thoughts manifest

How the process of such thoughts happens and how their duration is governed

How thinking about the narcissist is detrimental to your interests

How thinking about the narcissist leads to further risks from the narcissist

A comprehensive example of the dangers of thinking about the narcissist where you are taken step boy step through the process, why it is happening, what it means and the effects

How to implement techniques to prevent you from keep thinking about the narcissist

How those techniques work with examples

The impact of those techniques on your thought processes, Emotional Thinking and emotional well-being

This Assistance Package is unique and effective and is an essential part of your No Contact Regime and achieving freedom from the narcissist

14 thoughts on “The Final Battle : How to Stop Thinking About the Narcissist

  1. Some days are good days; today is not one of those days. 52 days GOSO

    1. Violetta says:

      Have you seen the video for “Jar of Hearts”?

      If that’s too subtle, try blasting “Glad to See You Go” by the Ramones.

      1. Blackcoffee30 says:

        I did watch Jar of Hearts. It too perfect for this situation.

        1. Violetta says:

          When I heard it for the first time on the car radio, even before I saw the vid, I felt it put into words what I had been dealing with. I’m not sure if I had settled on the term “Narcissist” yet, but I knew what a soul-stealer was.

          I had supposedly gone on with my life, moved out of state, got through grad school despite one of my committee members’ best efforts, even dated again, though not seriously, but I still felt like a failure. Should’ve done this, could’ve said that, would’ve been able to have that life instead of this life, blah blah.

          Despite all the reading on sociopaths and Narcissists I had done, I don’t think I really accepted the fact that NO ONE could have made it work until I found Narcsite. The people who maintain the relationship through marriage and children are just going to face a different kind of torture, as well as inflicting it on their hapless offspring. I knew this objectively, but that’s a far cry from accepting the reality of it. For too long, I was parroting Colette’s Gigi: “I’d rather be miserable with you than without you.” Surprise, surprise: I don’t have to be miserable at all.

    2. Kim e says:

      Bad days happen. Let it wash over you and be gone
      And just remember your bad days are making way for the good. Proud of you girl. Any GOSO days are a win ❤️💕🌹🎉

    3. Alexissmith2016 says:

      52 days BC you should feel incredibly proud of yourself. It’s no easy task. You’re doing really, really well though.

      I can remember how crap I felt at times and the good times would return little by little. Then I’d feel largely good with the odd bleak day. You get over the bleak days quicker each time they happen and they also become further and further apart until it’s just all good days.

      Big hugs, you’ve totally got this and you’re much stronger than you realise. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. We’re all rooting for you. Xxxx

    4. MB says:

      Well done BC30! 52 days is awesome! I’m sorry it was a bad day. The further you maintain NC, the good days outweigh the bad more and more. You know the best day of no contact? The day you look up and realize the narcissist didn’t cross your mind at all yesterday. That’s when you know with all your heart that No Contact works and it pushes you to keep going. You got this!

    5. blackcoffee30 says:

      Thank you for all the support, it’s made a huge difference for me the last couple weeks. I’ve further strengthened my resolve.

  2. Fiddleress says:

    This is one of my favourite Assistance Packages.
    It certainly is the hardest battle to fight, this final battle, but the “tricks” that HG gives us to win this battle are valuable, and very effective.

    Not to spoil your fun (because there is fun to be had too, when you listen to this file), but I will just say this, as a teaser (HG please edit or do not publish if this is a spoiler of any sort): I took to giving my N the finger (even if he couldn’t see me) every time I drove past the exit I used to take to get to his place. It felt great, and this, among other excellent advice, worked wonders – I do not need to stick my middle finger in the air to him anymore when I drive there, but I do smile to myself remembering those times when I did, when I still needed to!

  3. Bubbles 🍾 says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    I’ve just stopped thinking, period !
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    1. FoolMe1Time says:

      Oh Bubbles! I have missed your sense of humor and your sweetness!! I can honestly picture you laughing at yourself as you wrote your comment! 🤣😘💞

      1. Bubbles 🍾 says:

        Dearest FoolMe1Time,
        You are the loveliest, thank you beautiful
        I was seriously cracking up when I wrote that 🤣
        Cos I just don’t waste my precious time “thinking” about “them”
        Or anything for that matter 🤣
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

        1. FoolMe1Time says:

          Oh Bubbles, I adore you!!🥰😘

          1. Bubbles 🍾 says:

            Dearest FoolMe1Time,
            You’re too generous n kind ☺️You’re making me blush ☺️
            💋Mwahs n hugs 🤗 FM1T
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

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