Why the Narcissist Downgrades


“HG, I am decent-looking, have a good job, I am intelligent, caring, fun and interesting. I dress well, I am a dab hand at cooking and nobody has ever complained about my bedroom skills. He has left me for THAT! Why?!”

It is a refrain I have often heard.

Why, when the narcissist could have you, did he go? Why did he choose somebody who appears inferior to you in so many different ways?

What is so good about her or him?

Where have you gone wrong?

Why on earth has he chosen her over you?

Why has the narcissist downgraded?

This gives you the answers. It will not only help you understand, it will make you feel a whole lot better too.

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2 thoughts on “Why the Narcissist Downgrades

  1. Cindi says:

    My ex Narc explained it in a rare moment of honesty that he even admitted he was with her. She was “happy” to see him and all I do is “fight” aka refuse to see him and let him use me to get his fuel. Plus I make him “feel bad” about his life and giving up and just doing drugs because “I made him the way he is”. Never mind the truth is I found him homeless and on drugs. I felt sympathy because he has brain damage from a car accident – sad situation. He is, and always was a Narcissist. I knew what he was when we were younger and dated. As a Empath I even warned the “downgrade” he would be physically abusive and will cheat/lie on the time, he loved it and though it was jealousy of course, but I felt bad for her. Felt no happiness, only sadness when it happened. My light doesn’t shine like others he claims every 3 weeks when he attempts reconnection. I laugh now…. yeah he used the I’m not shallow line. He is extremely shallow and berates women over their looks all the time.

  2. Empath007 says:

    Haha ! I did not have this experience. My narcissist goes for fairly average looking women. I liked this about him. Genuinely thought it made him seem less shallow 🙄 oh boy… what a rabbit hole that was… yes. Less shallow. Interested only in the empathetic traits he could exploit. However in the aftermath seeing who he’s been with… I keep thinking that he somehow manages to rope in these awesome, beautiful, intelleget, full of life women… just so he can suck the life out of them. What a waste of time for all of us when our light could be shone towards something or someone else !

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