(How the narcissist  tells you what you want to hear, but not what you should actually know). I told you I loved you. That was not a lie. I meant it when I said it. I meant it every time that I said it, wrote it, messaged it, voice mailed it, gifted it and […]

      You will have silently asked yourself this question many times. You will have asked it of friends and family as you recount the latest confusing bout of behaviour from us. You may even go so far as to ask us why we make everything so difficult. Your confusion stems from several places. […]

  The infamous hoover is widely-used and once people learn to recognise the various hoovers that we deploy they can often be seen coming thick and fast following your escape from us or if you have been discarded.  Every so often however some people point out that they have not have been hoovered. The narcissist […]

“I have not heard from him in a month, he has moved on hasn’t he?” “I exposed what she is like to all of her family, she won’t be contacting me again that’s for sure.” “I told him I know what he is and he disappeared so I doubt I will hear from him again.” […]

  People always struggle with loss. It might be at the top of the scale where you have suffered a bereavement and lost a well-loved family member. It could be the loss of your home where you have lived for twenty years, owing to damage or repossession. It may be the loss of your job, […]