20 Cries of the Victim
We do not think of ourselves as victims, to do so would be weak and we are not weak. You are. We are better than you. We do however feel put upon, hard done by and persecuted and it is you that does these things in order to victimise us.
Evidencing our legendary double standards, we do not consider ourselves as victims as this does not accord with our sense of superiority, but we like to portray a victim mentality because doing so serves our purposes.
There are many things that we say which evidence this mentality and when you hear them you should know that we are looking for you to respond. We want reassurance, praise, an admission of fault from you, confirmation that we are brilliant, an apology and for you to do what we want you to do.
Playing the victim card allows us to gain fuel from sympathy and compassion, assistance when we do not want to do something, absolution from responsibility and preventing you from doing something we do not want you to do.
Here are twenty cries of apparent victimhood.
You make my life so difficult.
Why are you treating me like this?
You never try to understand me,
What about me?
What am I going to do now?
How’s that supposed to make me feel?
You are meant to look after me.
It’s not my fault.
I can’t help the way I am.
Why must you be so difficult with me over this?
You never listen to me.
You always make it about you, never about me.
You never do what I want.
You don’t love me like you should.
You never do what I want.
You never let me speak.
You always treat me like a fool.
You are the reason for all of my problems.
You are trying to ruin my life.
Why do you do this to me?
Watch out for these comments from our kind because they are the foreshadowing of further manipulation of you.
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H.G.
Hope your night is going well.
I’ve just finished reading “The People Of the Lie.”
Have you read it?
The author takes the stance that narcissism is a true embodiment of evil, where mature individuals grow out of it as they age.
He says evil is live spelled backwards and evil wants to destroy life. Like breaking a horse in or a child’s spirit.
Have you ever known of a narcissist to be defeated by love, the truth?
If a narcissist was ever backed into a corner where there was absolutely no chance to escape and the truth was forced upon him, and he internalized truth from others and then ultimately truth from himself…what do you think could happen?
(I’m not personally planning to do this btw)
I have not read it C54, but based on what you explain as the stance of the author I would recommend burning it and never recommending it to anybody because it is wrong and misleading.
Narcissists do not “grow out of narcissism.”
Evil is a matter of perspective and therefore it can certainly be viewed as an embodiment of evil, indeed I reference it in similar terms to enable people to understand it when viewed through their world view, but there is no objective standard of good and evil. I have made these points previously and will not be expanding on them further.
No narcissist will ever be defeated by love. No narcissist will be defeated by “the truth” again because there is no objective truth.
No narcissist will ever be backed into a corner because the narcissism will not allow this to happen and Your Truth (since there is no The Truth) will always be rejected because that is what narcissism always does. You cannot break through it.
Dear Coffee54,
Good grief, that’s M Scott Peck
I read his book The Road Less Travelled when it first came out in 1978, sold over 10 million copies
Obviously I gained very little from his book haha
He was a spiritual psychiatrist and died in 2005
I believe he had an abundance of childhood issues
He also had an appetite for alcohol, marijuana and extramarital affairs (interesting life)
He should’ve consulted with Mr Tudor and would’ve been on “The Road Best travelled” 🤣
Luv bubbles xx 😘
How true your words are 🙂 realisation is the first step forward towards the path of recovery from the narc.