A Letter to the Narcissist – No. 11



Life around you has been the proverbial dog chasing his own tail.
Each and evey moment..you ..manipulating me and others. I have stepped back,watched and went along with you calling me names..you yourself really are….
“faults”…you yourself needed to fix.
Impossible tasks, jumping through hoops,….all has to be accomplish being a better person. All except YOU. You just told me..you are going to kill 2 more people..then called me..a terrible person and woman…wow.
I watched you throw that red phone in the creek years ago to get away from killing people.
Heard calls from the CDC. Listened to you..and you..and you..you..you..All the while ignoring what I wanted and needed.
You act strangled…yet at times you..strangled me to the point u GPS ED me. Snatched and destroyed phones out of my hand. Told me who I could or could not see.

Here is the “All you have done to me list”.
I lost thousands of dollars..because of you.
Child support. Over once again you getting in my business with my daughter.
You verbally assaulted a minor..telling her that her father was a piece of crap.
Assaulted me while drunk many times.
Told good people..I am violent..stalker..psycho..while not telling them..you are violent and have cheated on me an all the women you have used.Bragged about being a Master Stalker to kill people for hire.
Controlling..telling good people I have tried to control you.
Lied about how many times you were married.
Lied about seeing your Ex.
Lied about being a plant manager
Lied about cheating on your Ex with a married woman.
Lied to others about your violent behavior to women..stating I was Violent,when you have been.
Betrayed me with Brenda.
Told me Brenda was a psycho
If you did this, though the years how many others did you lie to me about?
Betrayed me with Tom, Ted, Todd, Mike, and  many others.
Lied about land/money deals/drugs/past.
You used times I was down an needed you, to pull rug out from under me..then wonder why you have been investigated and researched.

I looked in your safe and saw dui papers. condoms and man up pills, also cucumbers in your dresser drawers and going camping at Nolin, with your intent to use them…on me…without my wishes.
Let me speak this again….without my wishes.

Never did I ask want or need cucumbers /vegetables or life like penis dildos for the enjoyment of sex. Apparently…you needed them.you needed them.you needed them.you needed them. Or just wanted to punish me.

If you asked..that would have been different.you did not ask.you felt you were above asking.   It was a big deal. You being the incredible brain you state you are ..you knew this.
What are you going to say about it?

Assaulted me and went to Jail for it..
Threatened me after Jail…

Locked me out of the trailer and I slept in the cold car during Winter. While you slept drunk as a baby. All while I paid rent.

Told me to use other men and you and it was okay.
So you could use it against me like a weapon.

Tried to talk me into threesomes.

Tried to get me with you, to kill my Ex husband

Tried to get me to buy Countetfeit Money.

Gave me Counterfeit money..without telling me

I have seen  you so drunk you were a big fool.too many times to count. Snort pills like their is no tommorrow.

I have had sex and felt afraid around you..especially you demanding bj,s for rent.

You cracked my tailbone, choked me against my car an your truck.

You pulled me by the hair and put cold water all the while threathening me if I did not give you a great blow job…

All this when you said..you LOVED ME?
So..I betrayed you?

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8 thoughts on “A Letter to the Narcissist – No. 11

  1. mollyb5 says:

    HG ..this is the real deal. This person is the IPPS . This is what secondary sources (other young women ), never see or hear or understand. When secondary source women fall for “ my ex is a bitch” statements and go out with the man anyway. That statement isn’t always said , but the narc will say something like ..we don’t have sex and it’s her fault (whatever is attached).
    The narc will say whatever works to get the other person to like the narc. He may say the primary is too religious, he may say , “she’s mean to me “ Women fall for it …..the younger the more gullible and if the new young one needs money the narc will lend , and act like a friend , etc …whatever works for that particular woman. The narc will say my ex spends all my money etc , he will say she doesn’t like to give bjs …etc . I’ve heard all sorts of men in my past say that……..It’s complete bull shit! The narc who is a victim narc will say anything …and they all will use whatever works and the new woman is still sitting there by him….in his mind it’s all working . if the woman is still listening and still picking up the phone , still answering the text . It’s over time how the secondary finds out …after she’s already fucked the guy …or gave the bj . It seems the young ones always fall for the stories . That’s why a narc goes younger and younger.

  2. Caron says:

    The things we put up with. Love to you, Empath. I hope you are free.

  3. Asp Emp says:

    Woah. Sounds lot like the b’stard from many years ago. He was nasty – accusing me of all sorts when in fact he was the emotional blackmailer. Oh the things he said to me. Made me feel like nobody. I didn’t know myself anymore after this narc. Took me long time to ‘find myself’ again. And finally, when I did, I unfortunately met another narc. Oh dearie me. Won’t be happening again cos learning all about them. Friendships only from now on with narcissists.

    “banana’s letter”
    “cucumbers in your dresser drawers”

    Ah bless. It’s good to laugh, even if it is just a couple of words.

  4. Eternity says:

    Wow,,in feel so sorry for this person and what she has gone through. My heart goes out to her !
    HG not all Narcissists are violent this way with some you cant even tell.
    May I ask was this Narcissist a lower lesser?

  5. Karen maher says:

    Every thing comes out a lie and illusion

  6. Leela says:

    I think there´s no narc who is not lying about their exes. Either the ex is a “vicious manipulative person” or there just are no exes and they stay very vague about that. I think victims will never find out the whole truth about the narcs ex-wives or ex-husbands. They just lie or stay vague!

    This is just one of the red flags, described in the book “Red Flags”: talking badly and mostly just lying about the exes. A huge red flag that they are very probably abusers.

    1. Violetta says:

      I think I need to get Red Flags. I’m getting the impression that one or two of these behaviors doesn’t necessarily mean you’re dealing with a Narc, but when there are enough to indicate a pattern, that’s when you need to be on the alert. Not sure how many = critical mass.

      1. mommypino says:

        Red Flags is a really helpful book Violetta.

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