Character Trait Acquisition

19 thoughts on “Character Trait Acquisition

  1. D Wise One says:

    Ive always thought this was like stealing my energy. Ive seen it from Narcissists, its uncanny how they become you. Ive actually seen a few copy me in a weird fashion. This phenomenon is really difficult to understand and even verbalize.

  2. MGM says:

    HG, this was so good! So glad you are doing audio, it’s mesmerizing to listen. Ignore my other comment asking about character trait acquisition. I just found this video after.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you and you are welcome.

  3. A Victor says:

    This video helped a lot in understanding about the narcissist and character traits, I have had many questions about this. It’s one I have watched a couple of times already and will likely a few more times, different things stand out each time.

    1. Asp Emp says:

      AV, when you say “will likely a few more times, different things stand out each time” – similar concept for me when I re-read articles when they are posted months apart. It is interesting to be able to see the difference in your ‘thinking’ over that period of time.

      1. A Victor says:

        I agree. It’s good to see growth in our knowledge.

  4. lickemtomorrow says:

    I appreciate the image on this one as it pertains understanding the acquisition of character traits.

    I’m not a “glory supporter” (just thought I’d get that one out of the way šŸ˜› )

    And I find this fascinating. Only because we all in some ways will take pieces from others to become who we are. We model ourselves on others, in terms of having role models, and much of what we learn is by imitation. I do understand that narcissists will take experiences which aren’t theirs and superimpose those as a means of bolstering their facade. I find it hard to accept they believe they have had those experiences, though in order to be convincing I’m sure that’s the case. So I guess the same goes for character traits which they ‘steal’ from others, too.

    In an interesting development, Miley Cyrus’s current boyfriend, Cody Simpson, has decided he now intends to become an Olympic swimmer and is currently underway doing trials. That one stood out to me in terms of a big jump from music to sport and while he looks fit enough it seems like an odd transition. Not to say career changes are not possible and sometimes necessary, but these are both high profile areas and so I don’t know if his ‘star’ is fading in one arena causing him to search out another. Anyway, these two will be on my list for you, HG. I still don’t get the point in her marrying Liam Hemsworth, her sexuality becoming fluid upon separation, and not long after becoming involved with this guy who seems to having some kind of early mid life crisis. I feel sure Miley is a narc. She’s also been very exhibitionist sexually in terms of some of her performances. Miley might be one for the Tudorscope.

    Anyway, I’m just wondering if this is a shape shifting act on the part of Cody Simpson, which seems to be a rarer form of character trait acquisition. Also, these two both found fame young and everything appears to point in the direction of the two of them being narcs.

    And how do we tell the difference between the narcissist’s desire to garner character traits from others and the natural inclination we all have to develop different interests at different times depending on the circumstances? I’m not sure I understand the difference between empaths and narcissists in this respect.

    1. Asp Emp says:

      LET, you saying – “Iā€™m not sure I understand the difference between empaths and narcissists in this respect” – as we go through life, we ‘pick up’ life ‘experiences’ as we process through the various stages of our lives (from young age through to teenage years, through the young person period before becoming an adult then going through the mid-life crisis before reaching the older years). These also occur when we go through ‘circumstances’ during our lives.

      So, in that respect, that happens to every one who goes through life. A narcissist will also go through life in the same way BUT the difference is, they pick up ‘character traits’ (in ways that HG has described in the video) compared to empaths that don’t. Empaths may ‘develop’ characteristics as they go through life, depending and based on their experiences as they go through life – no matter what age they are.

      That is how I understand, from my viewpoint (and my life experiences as well as my learning on this site).

      1. lickemtomorrow says:

        Thanks for your response, AspEmp. I’m guess I’m thinking more along the lines of when your partner has an interest which is something you have previously not shared and you begin to take an interest as a way to draw closer and also maybe because it’s in your life so you get to know more about it. Or they influence you in that respect. That’s the part I find confusing. It’s not being done to acquire traits per se, so perhaps that is where the difference lies. But the narc doesn’t necessarily know they are acquiring character traits either. Maybe it’s part of a co-dependents nature to ‘fall in’ with the narc and what they like, allowing them to determine the interests you share and influencing that at the same time. So their interests become your interests. But you are not aware or determining that. It could still be considered manipulative in a sense. I’m going to have to think some more on this one. Especially as CoD’s are the flip side of the narc.

        1. Asp Emp says:

          Ah, totally get you. Yes, what you say is interesting. My past experiences is that the narcissists did say ‘Oh, I like them too’ etc. I know what you are saying though.

  5. BC30 says:


    All the brilliant things I now know were stolen from me. Shameless.

  6. Asp Emp says:

    Hang on a second….. I hadn’t quite finished…… where I am saying….

    The Greater or The Ultra may not necessarily have what HG describes as ‘The 404 Narcissist’ moment because of their awareness of themselves, so may not necessarily have the moment of ‘scrabbling’ like the lower echelons will do – as I have seen this in a Lesser & MRN.

    1. A Victor says:

      Asp Emp, I see that 404 look on my mother’s face virtually everytime I talk to her. She’s a LMV. I had not understood it until getting to this site and learning about that scrabbling for the correct reaction. It makes perfect sense now.

      1. Asp Emp says:

        Laughing – every time you talk to her – the 404. Brilliant! You are gaining the knowledge now, to be able to create a LOT more of those ‘404’ moments on her…… (delight yourself with that šŸ˜‰ and I’m pleased for you).

        1. A Victor says:

          Haha, I didn’t say that to be funny but you are correct! Thank you!!

          1. Asp Emp says:

            I know you were just sharing but I wanted to say that you are actually ’empowered’. Thank you too.

  7. Asp Emp says:

    I found this one of the most insightful & interesting parts of my learning. The describing of acquiring various ‘character’ traits from different people to form their ‘construct’ (whether the narcissist is consciously aware of themselves, or not consciously aware) and the reasons why threats to the narcissist’s control and / or wounding causes the narcissist to (I think, in my view, the best way to describe it in the way I understand it) ā€“ ‘scrabble’ for a moment until they get back their ‘control’ via ‘fuel’ (the type of ‘fuel’ depends on the circumstances and level of the ‘threat’ and / or the ‘wounding’). The Greater or The Ultra may not necessarily have what HG describes

    HG, it was a good concept to use a large broken mirror and the shards to aid understanding (as the various character traits from different people) and the ‘glue’ concept to hold the ‘construct’ together. This is a brilliant video, thank you for providing it, HG, much appreciated x

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

      1. Asp Emp says:

        Thank you, HG.

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