The False Exaggeration of the Victim

THE FALSE EXAGGERATION OF THE VICTIM

 

We would struggle without those twin helpers of exaggeration and embellishment as we make our mediocre achievements impressive and our decent accomplishments spectacular. Good for all occasions, a healthy and liberal sprinkling of exaggeration makes us far more appealing and alluring. Embellishing what I have done ensures I look far better than you and means that I remain the superior individual. Like salt and pepper at meal times, exaggeration and embellishment are never far from our kind. We make everything bigger, better, bolder, brighter and more brilliant. We love to magnify and multiply in order to convey just how great we are, yet, generous souls that our kind are it would not be fair if we did not allow you an opportunity to be seen to exaggerate and embellish, to make a mountain out of a mole hill and blow things out of proportion. Of course, when we provide this opportunity to you, it has none of the self-aggrandizing effects of our behaviour for ourselves but it used as an opportunity to make you seem hysterical, unreliable and someone who is trying to pin the blame on us unfairly. We use exaggeration to inflate what we are but also as a means of attacking you. Here are twenty examples of using exaggeration and embellishment to undermine you.

  1. You are  always hypersensitive
  2. You always over think what has happened
  3. You always read too much into what I say
  4. You are always paranoid
  5. You always  see things which are not there
  6. You always make things up up
  7. You always have to be melodramatic don’t you?
  8. You always make out your are iller than you are
  9. You always over react
  10. You always make a fuss over nothing.
  11. You always lose your sense of perspective.
  12. You always take things too far at times
  13. You always go over the top with things
  14. You always press the panic button too soon
  15. You always make something out of nothing
  16. You always respond in a disproportionate manner
  17. You always get over excited about things
  18. You always lose your sense of proportion
  19. You always put two and two together and making eight
  20. You always jump to conclusions

 

When you hear these comments being made by us, you should become aware that we are using such a comment to deflect what you are saying by trying to trivialise it by suggesting you are exaggerating its effect or importance. The use of phrases such as these are stock tells by us that you have landed a blow against us and we need to reduce its impact promptly. The easiest way to do this is to not only diminish the import of what you have said but then to make you question your own behaviour by making the conversation about you, rather than us. This will also provoke you by frustrating you. You are being denied the opportunity to advance your agenda and this will increase your emotional response. This not only gives us fuel, it also means that you lose sight of your point as you are derailed by conducting the discussion in a logical fashion as you are pushed by us into the territory of emotion. Once emotion has taken hold of your thinking we are far abler to exploit this to our advantage. Recognise these comments and understand their significance when you are engaging with our kind so you are able to withdraw from or neutralise their effect.

One thought on “The False Exaggeration of the Victim

  1. Asp Emp says:

    This image still makes me laugh…….(I’m still giggling!).

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