Why Does the Narcissist Compartmentalise Appliances?



As narcissists we often engage in compartmentalisation. This articles concerns how and why we compartmentalise various appliances in our fuel matrices.

We view our lives as a series of compartments. The compartments are linked and there is an archway from one compartment to another but this archway has been bricked up by us and only we know the secret word that will open up the archway and admit us to the next compartment. You will try and search for an opening so that you may move from one compartment to another but your search will be fruitless. You will rhyme off all the passwords you can think of from ‘open sesame’ through to ‘abracadabra’ but none of them will work. There is a simple reason for that. We want you to stay in your compartment until we come back to it. We do not want you interacting with any of our other compartments because then it makes each area harder for us to control. A greater need for control mean more energy expenditure which will mean that there is less available for me to use to gather fuel and that is not something I can allow to happen.

A blissful domestic set-up will be in one compartment where I play the role of doting husband and caring father. To the external observer who looks in on the scene through the Perspex it appears to be a picture of harmony and good relations. Yet the observer cannot hear the shouting nor listen to your sobs as you are on the receiving end of another tirade. The fearful cries and the scathing admonishments fail to air beyond this compartment. You are not able to escape to another place and reveal what is really going on in this compartment. As soon as I depart to the next one then the brickwork closes behind me with lightning quick speed, trapping you where I want you. Of course I will tell you all about what is happening in the other compartments when I return, so that you will be subjected to tales of my magnificence in the work place and anecdotes about the new ‘friend’ I have in order to create some triangulated jealousy from you.

My work compartment show me as all conquering and masterful yet those that have been subjected to my brutal put downs and suffered from my repeated dumping of work on them as I breeze around town are forbidden from escaping this compartment to pollute the carefully constructed image that I have made for myself.

The members at the golf club who find my boasting odious and have seen me mark down a lower score than that which I had achieved on my score card are unable to blacken my name to my admirers beyond this particular place. Instead I depart the golf club and scurry to the bar where I regale my hangers-on with another story of my five under par round which won the competition. They coo over my success oblivious to what has actually gone on.

Home life, work life, mistress, friends, club, family and more are allotted these compartments. In each one I am a god. I rule supreme able to do as I please so that I can carry forth my stories of heroism into another compartment and there drink deep of their admiring fuel.

I spend much of my time ensuring that the inhabitants of each compartment know about one another, to multiply my fuel of course, but rarely shall I ever allow them to cross paths. This might lead to someone squaring the circle and working out what is behind my carefully orchestrated campaigns of divide and conquer. A must never speak to B who must not be allowed to tell C what really happened. I must maintain my constructed world where these people are little more than dolls in a huge segregated dolls’ house. I put them in poses and play with them so that I can create a scenario by which I can brag to others in the next room about. If they ever escaped and managed to follow me through these archways so they could compare what I have said with what has actually happened I would be truly finished. Sometimes this happens and then the compartment must be set ablaze, scorched from the record and denied an existence. Next time this compartment will be refurbished, repainted and with new dolls put in place. I must control everything around me. Everyone in their place and a place for everyone.

3 thoughts on “Why Does the Narcissist Compartmentalise Appliances?

  1. Asp Emp says:

    RE: Harry’s Wife Part 85.5 We Are Coming To You!

    I read this video about The-”Royal”-Couple-That-Resides-In-America and it was another insight to the instinctual brain-wirings of narcissism.

    As I read the part in relation to narcissism and compartmentalisation, I thought to myself, why did I not think of this before – it is not just people that narcissists put into ‘boxes’. It can be anything ‘tangible’ (an object, or environment) that is a ‘threat’ to their control.

    But to compartmentalise a whole country, or even a continent, is like WTF. I can understand it but it is still a WTF.

    I laughed at the suggestion of them visiting Japan and the fact that Japan has a culture in relation to politeness and etiquette. Oh, that will be interesting, very interesting indeed.

    Great Britain is obviously a HUGE “problem” for her. Go on, Megsie, grow a pair of your own and get your ass over here!

    Having said that, a non-narcissist person who may have had a bad (ie a traumatic) ‘experience’ with say, a medical centre, they may ‘avoid’ it in their future. This person (child – adult) could be an ACON, or someone with Aspergers, or even CPTSD? The location can be an emotional / mental ‘trigger’. So, it could be suggested that non-narcissists may also do ‘compartmentalisation’, from an ‘avoidance by dissociation’ aspect.

    Some people can ‘face’ their fears, some people can’t. The ‘damage’ may have been too great for that person. And they may not be able to talk about it.

    In this article, HG talks of ‘interactions’ (or not) with people, after all his work is about educating narcissism and the fact that narcissism affects ‘relating’ with people more than affecting anything else. Yes, a narcissist can create a ‘system’ that in their perception, “works” for people, or go by their own ‘rules’ but at the end of the day, it still impacts people and / or the environment around them, not necessarily the narcissist. Sometimes, not often, a narcissist’s “system” can come back and bite them in the ass (the boomerang effect).

    Thank you for that, HG. It was good to ‘expand’ my mind, think outside the ‘box’ and think on ‘compartmentalising’ further.

  2. Asp Emp says:

    Because it is easier for them to ‘maintain’ their construct that they have created.

    Maybe it is also to ‘lessen’ the ‘risk’ of ‘exposure’ but the majority of narcissists do not know what they are yet they may ‘wear’ a different ‘mask’ for each ‘box’ of their lives. Some ‘boxes’ get disposed of, or ‘shut away’.

    So, when a narcissist experiences a ‘reality gap’ the whole warehouse of shelving units with the neatly organised ‘compartments’ gets thrown into a large pile before it is magically and quickly re-organised into a slightly different ‘order’.

    A similar ‘re-shuffling’ of a narcissist’s compartmentalising is when major changes are made to their fuel matrix.

  3. Brigid O'Sullivan says:

    Pater Narc bought big houses so we could all be shut into our rooms. He also had rooms no one was allowed in, ever. Thank you for the clarity.

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