You’re Always Flirting
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OMG, I confessed!
Haha 😛
He accused me and I confessed … not that I’d done anything wrong in terms of just bantering with another man, but he had me hamstrung with a threat of withdrawal. I was the worst person in the world for entertaining a conversation with another man and so immediately flew the white flag of surrender and accused myself of being ‘inappropriate’.
It was not only a means of control on his part, but also a means of isolating me from others. I had to cut ties in order to satisfy his sense of jealousy and prevent myself from being accused again, and worse still losing him.
Everything is so clear in hindsight. This is such a valuable video to help us gain insight. Bravo!
My exes did not accuse me of flirting, except once in my first marriage when I actually was flirting. I did not see paranoia in my second ex, the first has it in spades. My second ex was never worried about me in this way, and I think realized accusing me might have caused him to lose control more than not doing so. He was an enormous flirt, used to drive me batty. Haha, how he preferred to keep control and gain fuel!
So?
It was good to re-read the various conversations the last time this article was posted. Especially the discussion on some ‘systems’ that were lacking at the time and still are today, ho hum.