The Narcissist´s Desiderata




Go create the noise and haste

And remember what cruelty there is in silence

As far as possible never surrender

Be on good terms with all in the façade

Speak no truth often and wildly

And listen to nobody

They are dull and ignorant

And have no story

Embrace loud and aggressive persons

They are fuel to the spirit

If you compare youself with others

You will become envious and jealous

But always be the greater person than them

Exaggerate your achievements and always plan

Cultivate interest in your career, never be humble

Falisfy your posessions, keep appropriating fortunes

Exaggerate accomplishments in your business affairs

For our world is ripe for trickery

Do not be blind to virtue

Many empaths strive for high ideals

And everywhere is full of fuelling opportunities

Be someone else

Especially you must feign affection

Cynically exploit the notion of love

For in the face of dwindling fuel supplies

It is reliable and necessary

Take kindliness for yourself over the years

Gradually causing the surrender of all things to you

Nurture strength of manipulation to defend you in sudden treachery

Create distress with your dark imaginings

Their fears are born of fatigue and loneliness

Exercise a ruthless discipline

Be focused for yourself

You are the centre of the universe

The tallest of trees and the brightest of stars

You have every right to rule here

And it should now be clear to you

That your plans unfold as they should

Therefore, be a god

Whatever you conceive rule as your own

And commandeer their labours and achievements

Maintain their confusion to keep hold of their soul

With all your sham, skulduggery and breaking of dreams

Create a false beautiful world

Be powerful

Strive to be the powerful.

10 thoughts on “The Narcissist´s Desiderata

  1. Asp Emp says:

    HG, thank you for permitting the video (4 Ways to Upgrade Your Mind) I shared on your blog. It is not as if one can insert the ‘disk’ into one’s mind physically (even though it is far quicker and easier 😉 ). Thank you for what you do here X

  2. Wendy says:

    Oh, how distorted and disturbed from the narcissist point of view!

    But this, this is as it should be!


    Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

    Max Ehrmann, 1948

    1. Alison says:

      Funnily enough, my husband is a huge fan of the original and gave copies of it to several of his exes and women that he was trying to seduce. He read it aloud to me early in our relationship.

  3. Asp Emp says:

    This is really good, it reminds me of some of APJ Abdul Kalam’s own motivational sayings / quotes. Just like HG’s work yet from a different approach 🙂

    In my opinion, the majority of the words in this article are not necessarily narcissistic.

    “As far as possible never surrender” – aim to be a weaponised empath.

    “They are fuel to the spirit” – words of wisdom, motivation, support, care from other empaths can give ‘fuel’ (positive thinking).

    “Do not be blind to virtue” – be true to yourself and others.

    “Many empaths strive for high ideals” – the aim is to win (manage it better) against the addiction to narcissism.

    “Be someone else” – not the person you may have been ‘conditioned’ to be, find ‘yourself’ again and be the person you’d like to be.

    “It is reliable and necessary” – RE: HG’s work – absolutely.

    “Nurture strength of manipulation to defend you in sudden treachery” – turn your weaknesses into strengths. Manipulate your mind to reduce ET and strengthen LT to weaponise yourself better against treachery from those who do not have your interests at heart.

    “Exercise a ruthless discipline” – in obtaining your freedom from narcissistic ensnarement(s) and building your defences against narcissistic influences.

    “Be focused for yourself” – on your goals on achieving freedom.

    “You are the centre of the universe” – you need to be strong for yourself, so that you can be strong for others.

    “The tallest of trees and the brightest of stars” – strive to strengthen your ‘inner’ self.

    “You have every right to rule here” – swap the word ‘here’ for ‘your mind and your emotions’.

    “And it should now be clear to you” – HG’s ‘message’ via his work is clear and accurate. It works.

    “That your plans unfold as they should” – to succeed in obtaining control of your addiction to narcissism.

    “Whatever you conceive rule as your own” – take control of your own mind, take back what belongs to you and no-one else.

    “Be powerful” – have courage.

    “Strive to be the powerful” – add the words ‘Weaponised Empath’ that you can be.

    I read this video today and found it motivating and in some way, it is similar to HG’s resources on managing our ET and improving our LT.

    1. lickemtomorrow says:


      Bravo to your wonderful and creative effort in bringing all these thoughts to light <3

      It's absolutely what empaths need to focus on for their own healing and empowerment x

      (I will take a look at the video when I get a chance later).

      1. Asp Emp says:

        LET, thank you for your compliment 🙂

        1. lickemtomorrow says:

          AspEmp, I watched the video, too. Very inspiring <3

    2. jasmin says:

      Thank you for your motivating and encouraging words Asp Emp! Very appreciated.🤗

      1. Asp Emp says:

        jasmin, thank you so much 🙂

  4. k mac says:

    I wish I could unread this.

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