The Virtues of Keeping Your Mouth Shut
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Like others here, I learned the virtues of keeping my mouth shut through my childhood with matrinarc. It is my default mode, my defense mechanism. And then, along came hubby, the ONE person I felt like I didn’t have to do that with. Hahahaha, how I can laugh now over that one. Now it’s survival mode, 24/7, bottling everything.
HG,
Oh, this one is a hard one for me. I’m talkative at times, it runs in my dad’s side of the family. We all have the chatterbox gene. Duck tape doesn’t work, we just chew through it. A beaver would be envious. Lol
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Thank you Rebecca
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Bubbles,
Lol I say the craziest things sometimes lol The chatterbox gene is strong with this one and the lead foot. My dad taught me to drive,but everyone on my dad’s side have a lead foot and a motor mouth. Lol
I use to LOVE to talk too, lol and I’m super loud and animated also, lol! In school one year I got Most Talkative. I used to have to sit in the hall ALOT. Since finding narcsite, I’m so reserved now. I don’t want to give anyone fuel anymore. Not one little drip, lol. Now I zip it, lock it and put it in my pocket.
Me too, my laugh is loud and sounds diablolically evil. I sound like a villain off a cartoon. I start laughing and it makes everyone look surprised before they start cracking up with me. I do hand gestures while I’m talking, and physically act out what I’m talking about. Lol
Leigh,
Laugh again, life is too short to let others dictate to you how you should live your life, especially with holding back your laugh to the world. Laugh! Light your fire and let its warm improve your world. Xoxo
Warmth……stupid autocorrect 😑🙄😄
Hi Rebecca, I still laugh, just not around narcissists. Screw them! They don’t get the best of me anymore.
I love to laugh, male narcs are really good at making me laugh…
But, I also laugh a lot by myself over silly things, with my kids, with friends…I am learning…
Laughter is wonderful. There are so many benefits. A good laugh always makes me feel better especially when its silly and fun things with my kids or good friends.
HG and Leigh,
Leigh, earlier HG heard my cackle laugh for the first time. I cackle when I find something very funny, it just comes out sounding like a cackling hyena. 😆😆 Absolutely villian like, as my mother would tell me, but fk her and her shitty words….most people find my cackling very amusing. 😁😄
I meant to ask HG what he thought about it. HG?? Xx
I reached for a gag.
Hi Rebecca,
Cackling is hysterical! I love a good cackle! Its contagious!
Were you laughing at something or someone else other than your mother when she said those things? I would think that would amount to wounding because you were directing your laughter/emotion else where. A narcissist can’t have that. They need all of our emotions poured on them.
HG,
You’re so cheeky in the morning 😄xx
Rebecca, is this one of those contagious kinds of laughter, that makes everyone who witnesses it laugh? 🙂
My sister used to have a laugh like that 🙂
At work I have a friend whose laughter can be heard on three floors of the company. I always smile, when I hear her on my floor 🙂 The domino effect, flows like a fresh breeze, like a moment of breath, throughout the entire company 🙂
Sorry Leigh,
Couldn’t find another reply portal. Xx
JOA,
In response to your question about my laugh…I’ve been told it’s contagious and one can tell I’m in the building from the other side of it. 😆
It’s a cross between a wicked cackle and a hyena laugh, though not as loud as what some people say….I know it’s not possible to hear me from across this huge building, maybe a small office complex. 😁🤪xx
Hi Leigh,
I had to recall some times when my mother negatively remarked about my “witch cackle” as she called it…yes, I was either cackling about what my brother said or did, or it was something someone else did around her that made me burst out in an uncontrollable cackle, which she found utterly ridiculous and annoying…Oh well, she was a Debbie Downer most of the time, so who cares what she thought! 😁xx
I believe you’re right. I think she got wounded because I wasn’t laughing for her, or because of her. My laugh was going to someone else.. I also remember her getting jealous when I was with friends and when came in to get drinks. She’d make me feel bad for having time away from her. Xx
I’ve been like this since I realized my mother would use anything I said against me as a young child. I so wish I could know what I would’ve been like with normal, healthy, empathic parents.
AV,
I feel for you. I had a narcissist mother, im pretty sure she was a victim low range narcissist and she abusive towards me and favored my brother. My dad was the one who made dealing with my mother more bearable. He was supportive and loving to me. The only problem was he was away a lot on Naval overseas duties, so mother was a tyrant. Dad was a Vietnam Vet and had PTSD, but he was still the better parent. So, I understand your pain, I’ve been there too. I total understand you in the bad parent situation. I ended up standing up to her when I was 20, she hit me for the last time that day. I told her, if she ever hits me again, I was going to break both her arms. She never hit me again and I can still see her shocked face.
AV and Joa,
When I was a teenager my mother and I would verbal fight a lot. I started really recenting her around 12 yrs old because I was tried of her control behavior,so I fought back with her. She scream at me,I’d scream back, you could hear us across the street. It was bad,cops would be called by worried neighbors, but still nothing was ever done because she talked her way out of everything. Oh, how she really infuriated me and all I had was my voice to fight back. I was still too scared of her at this stage in my life, teen years. She was always bigger than me, she was 5ft 8in and I am only 5ft 1in full grown and she was over 200lbs and I’m like 105lbs. Sorry I’m American we don’t do metrics lol So, she was very much a bully bitch and I don’t regret standing up to her at 20, wish I could have done it sooner.
Rebecca, thank you for the kind words. I am sad that you had such a past also, it makes life more challenging in some ways for sure. It the reason I am ever more thankful for HG and his building of narcsite, his YT channel etc. I have learned more about myself in the last 16 months than I did in all the years that preceded them. And more just keeps being unfolded, it really is amazing. I am glad that you were able to stop your mother, I thought I had read you said that to her at the age of 12, 20 makes more sense. I am glad she stopped at that time even though it should’ve been that there was never anything that needed to be stopped. I am also glad for you to have found your way here!
Hey Rebecca:
Another shared experience… my father was a total empath to all. Loving, kind, supportive AND a Vietnam vet greatly affected by the war but more depression and sadness and social activation then PTSD. My mother never hit me – so so sorry you experienced that- but she was “ very reserved” from New England, very conservative and I don’t think a narc. I don’t know if I want to know. I have secure attachments so maybe from her? and she can be very loving and she can be generous money not time wise …but she is great at silence responses. Like if something was great and you share, she says nothing where others would be like “ that’s wonderful, tell me more.” Part of it is she is a great worrier and not an optimist like me. She is very practical. Very. Funny we both have Vets and great Dads! Did you do the Empath detector? I am contagious with a matyr cadre ( I think personally that comes from my personal absolute religious beliefs but?) I wonder if we are the same since we both married middle lessers once have great Dads that are vets. Don’t share if too personal. I respect you! Hugs!
Hi Contagious,
If HG is ok with me sharing….xx
My Dad was third generation Vet in his family, my brother was the fourth generation Vet in my family. A good amount of my family was military, from Navy, Army, Marines and AirForce. Did you move around a lot too, growing up? Xx
My Dad came back Normal on his NDC, mother was LMRVN and I did the EDC and came back Standard with Triple Hybrid, I have 3 Schools and 3 Cadres, one being Contagion. I don’t have any Martyr at all, which surprises me too, because I do have Carrier. Xx
I know. Me too. Every once in awhile, I wish I had a real mom & dad.
Yes, trying to figure it all out on our own really sucks. And it’s not only the big things, like choosing a spouse and childrearing, school/career choices etc but it’s the little things also, will they laugh at this joke or should I not tell it or how to clean a toilet, stuff like that and in every area. It’s really a deficit. It has been helped by time, experience and arriving here. I don’t know that I will ever be a truly “whole” person but at least now I am more okay with who I am and how I express that, I have less doubt now.
If you were an observer of my family reunion, you might eat popcorn and roll around laughing.
Basically, there is one rule. The one who speaks louder, more forcefully, with more conviction and with a tone that does not bear opposition is listened to.
Mum, me and my sister have loud, very strong voices. It be interesting 😀 Sometimes a male narcissist let go… 😀
At the same time, we can change the voice to a quiet, subdued, timidly feminine.
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I can also stand aside and be silent. Enjoy the silence I carry within me.
The older I am, the more often it is … until it ignites 🙂 Fortunately, the bomb explodes, sweeps away the surroundings and restores peace and quiet again 🙂 Sometimes the atmosphere needs to be cleared.
Heh, I talk like “my N” …
Joa,
Sounds like I’d fit right in at your family reunion, sounds like a fun place to be. I can be quiet, upon meeting a group of people I don’t know,but as soon as I get comfortable, the gloves come off and the motor mouth starts going. Lol
“Duck tape doesn’t work, we just chew through it. A beaver would be envious. Lol”
Haha!
Wow. I loved that ! “Duck tape doesn’t work, we just chew through it. A beaver would be envious. Lol”. Fooking brilliant ! xx
(I dunno how the fk I missed it previously).
Hi AspEmp,
😆😆Well, I do become talkative around people I’m comfortable with and I feel most comfortable here, on the blog. Here I can be understood, given advice, supported and feel a shared kinship. It’s like nothing else and people like you, make me feel safe here. I’m glad to be here. Xx
Thank you Rebecca. I agree that the blog is a safe place 🙂