How to Handle a Parental Narcissist
How To Handle A Parental Narcissist
Are you the Adult Child of a Narcissist (“ACON”)? If so, you will have lived with the effects of this for all of your life.
– In need of protecting your relationship from the impact of the Parental Narcissist?
– Do you have children who are being adversely affected by your Parental Narcissist?
– Family being torn apart by the behaviour of the Parental Narcissist?
– Do you dread family get togethers because of the behaviour of the Parental Narcissist?
– Want to put an end to the interference of the Parental Narcissist in your life?
If so, this brand new Assistance Package from HG Tudor is absolutely essential to address the above and more.
Receive over 2.5 hours of incisive and effective material through HG Tudor´s unrivalled expertise and final understand how to handle the Parental Narcissist. This material includes:-
Learning precisely what you are dealing with
What you should have had but did not and why
The central principle of Loss of Privilege of Title and its application
What does the Parental Narcissist want from you?
What is your role to the Parental Narcissist?
Can you have a meaningful relationship with the Parental Narcissist?
How does the Parental Narcissist manipulate?
Common ways your are misled into being manipulated and abused by the Parental Narcissist and why this happens.
How to protect your own family from the Parental Narcissist
The steps you can take to handle the Parental Narcissist and how to implement them through the TNC Regime
The steps you can take (and the associated risks) to handle the Parental Narcissist through the ANC Regime
Practical steps to implement and how they affect the narcissist
How to address collateral issues arising with regard to the non narcissist other parent
How to address pressure brought by members of the family coterie
How the Parental Narcissist retaliates to the TNC and ANC Regimes
How to deal with matters involving disputes concerning the Parental Narcissist and issues such as social care, inheritance, property, financial matters amongst others.
Plus much more constructive material.
This is crucial information and help for anybody who has a Parental Narcissist.
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This is possibly my favorite assistance package. It really lays out the information that is so necessary to heal from and deal with narcissist parents. I have been surprised many times how precisely HG understands and can convey to us what we’ve experienced and also how to handle it. This one really brought his understanding home for me. Excellent material.
HG,
My parental narcissist has passed away, but I’m still living with residue of her abuse emotionally and mentally. How do you deal with the abuse that’s still there, in your mind, after the person has passed? Thanks
You speak to me about it.
I’m looking forward to speaking with you about it next week.
HG,
One of the last conversations I remember having with my mother was over dinner at a restaurant. My husband was with us and my mother was addressing him, in front of me. She was telling him about the time she put me in the hospital. She had attacked me, while in a rage and gave me a concussion. I was 6yrs old and I remember everything up to her attacking me and then I remember waking up in the hospital.
She was retelling the story and I was shocked she was admitting to it and telling him. To this day I don’t know why she told him, it always confused me. I spoke to my husband yesterday about it. He told me she sounded like she regretted it. He said he heard remorse in her voice. I didn’t, I just heard her recalling it in a matter of fact way.
She told him, in front of me, that she had thought she killed me and she didn’t mean to hurt me that much. Could she have been sincere, or was it a way to get sympathy from my husband? Was it not rude to discuss it like I wasn’t there?
I remember the doctor showing me my skull x-rays and telling me, this is what your head looks like under your skin. I remember being awed and finding it scary looking at the same time. I asked the doctor, Is that really my head? And I was feeling my head and found my bruises and swelling. He said yes, and you’re going to have a sore head for a little while. He said, you have to be more careful on the stairs next time. Evidently my mother told him I fell down the stairs,how unimaginative was that? She got away with everything.
HG,
It was after this incident that I stopped trusting my mother. Anytime she would try to hug me in front of people, because it was the only time she would try to hug me, I would pull away from her or stiffen up and wait for the hug to end. I learned to watch her moods too because I was afraid she’d attack me again. Could it be this is when I developed my extra senses,as a means of self defense? I think it was what created how I am today. I can go into what lead up to her attacking me, if you want to know? I have memories of a lot of my early childhood, still remember addresses and phone numbers too. My memory is long and vivid,some I wish I could forget. I remember dates and where I was living and what grade I was in at the time. I remember the day my mother died, the time, what happened, what everyone did, how they responded, what they said and the same when my dad and brother died. I remember it all and wish I didn’t. Nothing, but pain and sadness attached to those memories and I envy the fact that you don’t experience regret and sadness. 💔 These are the memories that haunt me sometimes ,especially when I’m sad and feeling sentimental.
Rebecca, reading your comment here, sounds similar to what I also experienced when I was around 10 years old. I did pass out but not end up in hospital. It goes to show how dangerous a narcissist parent can be when they are the only adult in the house and two young children. I never asked Her about it. She certainly never apologised, nor mentioned it. My sister didn’t see it but heard it. Maybe this incident was a contributing factor as to why I hated her. I had wondered about the lasting impact of the incident (from the neurological aspect). My ET is ok as I write this. It was interesting to read about your story, thank you for sharing it.
Rebecca, I can totally understand your circumstances. It is entirely different when it comes to the aftermath of a narcissist parent compared to one not a narcissist, when both parents have passed. Muvver died 15 years ago. It is only now that I know I am finally ‘free’ of any ‘residue’ of what she ‘instilled’ in me, only because I found my way to HG’s work and applied it.
It is not an easy and quick process but it can be done. As HG has suggested, consult with him. I believe you have the strength and understanding to be able to work through this ‘process’ on the aspect you have asked about here.
Asp Emp and AV,
I’m looking forward to the process of getting my mother out of my head…the things she would say to me about myself still plays in my mind,especially when I make a mistake or have difficulty with a task,usually technical, and I’m calling myself names just like she did. ..stupid, idiot, moron, good for nothing…..and I just mentally beat myself up. It sucks and I’m sick of it.
Rebecca, I hope you’re able to get her messages out of your head, those messages do stick and they do make it lives more challenging. They are really awful and I think made worse because she was supposed to love us, our mothers. The cognitive dissonance is real.
Thanks AV for your understanding and Asp Emp too. It’s not often I can relate to someone so well and I found two of you and probably more, the more I stay here. ❤
Thanks Rebecca. You are more than welcome, good to read that you are finding it beneficial being here on KTN blog 🙂
Rebecca, you are welcome, it is the least I can do to pay it forward for the understanding and help I received upon arriving here (and for my thousands of comments). Someone recently said something about a common understanding here, we’ve all been through the narc fire in one way or another, so we can relate, it is a very supportive and amazing thing.
I think I always wanted to write something about parental narcissism vs. empathic-normal but I never had the courage. Now I feel ready to do so cos I feel more connected to this forum than ever before. I grew up as an only child with a normal mom and an empathic dad. Lots of unconditional love, sacrificial love and understanding. When my mother died way too early my father never really got over the loss. He never remarried and he suffered from depression. Seeing other family members and friends growing up with narcissistic parents I swear I wish I had a narcissistic father too. I love him and wish he were happier. I would be happy if he were a narc, even if he had to care less and I loved him less.
Lucycita,
I had a narcissist mother and I wouldn’t wish her on the meanest person in the world. The pain I still carry from her abuse is not something you would want to live with. I wish I had a loving mother like you did. My dad was very loving and protective,but even he couldn’t protect me from her. He was so in love with her,he couldn’t see the truth of her. When she died, he grieved for the rest of his life,even in death she still hurt us. I tried and I tried to help my dad get out of his depression. He was starting to get out and do things again, when he passed away. I wouldn’t wish my mother on anyone and I mean that with empathetic understanding of what I feel you think you missed out on, but trust me, you’re better off with the mother you had. ❤
Hi Lucycita, I think I follow your train of thought here. It might help you feel better to know that narcissists are never really happy so it wouldn’t work to help your dad be happier, and having a narcissist for a parent is never a good thing, there is no way it can end up good for the child. You likely already know these things, if so please disregard my comment. You were very blessed to have the parents you did. I would give my eyeteeth for parents that weren’t narcissists. I am sad for your father though, and for your heart hurting over his pain.
Lucycita,
You wish your father had been a narcissist? I think I understand why you say this, and it’s touching that you are wanting to take away his pain at the loss of your mother, but trust me, narcissistic dads are no fun. If you had had one, you just would have been made to feel shitty all the time, and this, I believe, would have got even worse after losing your mum. This way, at least you do genuinely have each other for emotional support xx