Angel Assistance Fund : A Direct Plea From Sara
A direct message from Sara seeking your help.
Dear fund givers.
My story (I’ll keep it brief)
I help people in work keep their employment when they make mistakes and/or when they are treated badly by others in the workplace. The irony is that I work for a trade union in the UK and yet the “organisation” has ignored the treatment towards me by a person that has displayed every single type of behaviour that I have read about in this resource. (to individuals like we were on a conveyor belt)
I suffer with disabilities which I kept hidden, unbeknown to me the day I reported what I saw as disturbing internal behaviours towards someone else I was done for and because I think it reflected badly upon him as the leader it has been a never ending vicious cycle of abuse so he can gag me and disregard me.
I have purchased some materials but the three I need I think are to know if he is a narcaccist – to known that I’m not because this question crossed my mind in a full on battle I had (before I found this site) and how to handle this workplace problem. But it will cost hundreds of pounds and I genuinely do not have that to be able to find out.
The reason is that I am taking my employer to court to prove what he did (not just to me, but others) was so cruel and I am suffering with PTSD amongst other things like depression, anxiety list goes on – but to continue the work I do to help others I need to tell me story (legal costs and not working equals reduced salary) but I can’t walk away but I hope to give back to funds like this so it continues to help others if I can prove this person was so abusive and callous it caused personal injury.
I am sure you hear this all the time but I am honest and did not deserve to watch people including myself want to end their life because this person decided they wanted to have fun with people – hurting each other and he pretended to be there to help, yet all the time fuelling the problem, smearing, gaslighting on and on….
I think I need to know who he is (and his supporters) also who I am because I have lost myself and then how to deal with it all. I have signed out of work to go no contact despite this pulling at me because I am having to stop helping others which is not in my nature but I have to take the advice (head over heart) if I am to get through this turbulent and life changing time.
Thank you for taking the time to read, regardless of the request outcome (I understand there is probably others who you may feel need it more than I). I will continue to support your work and quest because it truly is invaluable. If only I knew then what I know now I think I could have saved myself a least a year or so of pain and suffering and probably saved a person who I tried my hardest to protect but couldn’t as he isolated and destroyed her – although
I cannot thank you enough – during my journey I chose two people (yourself – which took me a long time to get through the first podcast when I knew you were a narcissist- that was incredibly difficult, now I am probably addicted to it like a sponge & a clinical psychologist. I think both have complimented the other, one got me base level understanding when i was disorientated but your work got me deeper insight and I think it helped me survive longer.
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I recently dealt with a narcy workplace, a child care center promoting its “loving, intellectually stimulating environment” where both employees and babies were bullied and resented by intellectually stagnant staff with more power. HG identified my most annoying co-worker as a Lower Mid-ranger, and I was able to spot when she was pulling one of her triangulations, although there wasn’t much I could do besides not give her the emotional reaction she wanted. She was enabled by a manager whom I’m pretty sure was a mid-ranger. These people are absolutely trying to destroy your confidence in yourself, and they will be oblivious to any hypocrisy.
In addition to doing consults with HG or buying whichever packages are relevant (I bought the Narc in Court, but there wasn’t time for a consult before the hearing), I would suggest listening to his free yt work on topics that might not seem directly related. I was listening to the Boris Johnson recordings just for education and some entertainment value, but when I learned more about the hypocrisy of Party-gate, it clarified something that had made no sense to me. I had been reprimanded for leaving an area without putting my mask back on, but my colleague had pulled up her mask to sniff a baby’s food out of curiosity as to “what made it orange” without a word from anyone. She had also tossed another baby’s blanket into the dirty laundry by mistake (it was supposed to go home with him every night), and she yanked it out and gave it to the parents without explanation, instead of telling them what happened and either putting it in a bag or offering to have the center laundry wash it and send it home tomorrow.
The manager was no help, which astonished me: even without a pandemic, baby bodily functions are messy and there would be a problem with transmitting germs.
I now understand it wasn’t about transmitting germs. It was about asserting control–just like BoJo.
I’ve been bouncing between part-time jobs, so I couldn’t contribute as much as I’d like, but I hope you reach the amount you need soon, if you haven’t already. The Tudorite Angels have helped me when I needed it. You are not alone!
Dear Sara, I am sorry to read the difficulties you have to contend with. I understand exactly RE: “conveyor belt”. Reading your words here, I can relate to and understand what you are experiencing. It sounds awfully similar to the last workplace I was at, where some other staff were reduced to the level you explain here (severe stress, not being supported etc). I hope you have accessed support for your health concerns while working alongside with learning about narcissism on KTN site. Once this court case has been dealt with, things should get easier for you and your physical health should improve. You mention disabilities that you kept hidden, which is understandable (to avoid it being used against you by this employer), would you share this with the legal advisors? In the UK, there is something called ‘Protected Disclosures’ in relation to Employment Law, I am not sure if this would be of any use or whether there is anything similar ie in the policies of the employer in regard to this particular area? It is so good of you to continue to want to support what sounds like vulnerable people. I hope that you will find ‘yourself’ again and that your journey becomes easier for you. I wish you all the best in achieving what you aim to do 🙂
Dear Sara, I am so sorry to hear of your struggles. I wish you the very best in your path to healing and moving on N free.
Dear HG, I purchased a Narc Dectector quite some time ago, yet never used it. May Sara use mine? I will also make an additional donation to help all the angels. Please advise if this is acceptable.
Yes, that is agreeable.
FYC, that is really generous of you, bless you for doing that. 🙂
I am so sorry this happened to you! Wishing you peace and healing and all of the understanding you will gain by having access to HG’s work. It is powerful and will allow you to regain the strength it will take to fight. There is no other voice or teaching out there that can come close to the knowledge you will gain here! I am happy you made your way to him and my thoughts and prayers are with you!