The Narcissistic Covenant

There is a covenant which exists between you and I, between our kind and your kind. It is not necessary for you to provide consent to this covenant in order for it to be binding. You do not know that this covenant exists but it does. Its terms govern the relationship between us and you, whether you are entangled with the Lesser of our kind, the Mid-Range or the Greater. It matters not. The covenant applied from the moment that we selected you to be our victim.

There are ten parts to this covenant and they reflect the mind set and attitude of our kind towards you and how you and I interact. The Lesser and the Mid-Range do not know that they operate in accordance with this covenant, but since they are narcissists, they undoubtedly do, their behaviours evidence its existence. The Greater know that these are the clauses which are contained within the Narcissistic Covenant. There is little doubt that in looking back at your entanglement with us you will recognise certain elements of this but whilst you were very much in our grip, you would have no idea that these were the terms which governed our treatment of you.

  1. You were chosen

Our ensnaring of you might have been portrayed as chance, a piece of serendipity but it was not. You were chosen to be our victim. The Lesser will have instinctively recognised your potential without knowing why. The Mid-Range will have applied some thought to the process, potentially dismissing less favourable candidates, but still guided by instinct. The Greater identified you, monitored you and then moved in for the “kill”.  In every instance you were chosen, whether through instinct or through calculation.

  1. You belong to us

You are an object to us. An appliance. Therefore, we are able to assert proprietary rights over you just as we would with some other kind of object or chattel. Since we own you, we choose what to do with you, without recourse to you or anybody else. This is our inalienable right.

  1. You exist solely for our purposes

We are the centre of your world, the heart of your universe and at all times everything that you do should be focused on us, for our benefit and advancement. You do not exist for your family. You do not exist for our children. You do not exist for your friends, colleagues, fellow members of a club or congregation. We are all that matters to you and you must understand that.

  1. This is forever

This covenant lasts for ever. In our minds it is one that exists in perpetuity for we do not wish to contemplate our own demise and care nothing for yours, other than it inconveniencing us by the interruption to our supply of fuel. This relationship transcends all others. You may have told us that you do not wish to be “with us” any longer. You may have broken off the engagement or divorced us. In our mind all that you have done is end the Formal Relationship which is something that people lesser than our kind engage in with one another and that which we accede to for the sake of fitting in. In our minds our relationship exists beyond this Formal Relationship. This is the Narcissistic Relationship and means we remain entitled to effect the terms of this covenant against you at all times until your last breath or our last breath.

  1. This is totalitarian

There is no limit to our power over you. We are entitled to and we will exercise our right to, govern every facet of your life, interfere in everything that you do, monitor you and control you in order to achieve our aims. You must accept that you are entirely subservient to us. We assert total control over you. This must always be maintained and you must not do anything to challenge that control. If you do so, there will be a response as we quash your perfidious rebellion and restore the order of control.

  1. You cannot end this covenant

You have no rights under this covenant. You cannot bring about its unilateral termination. Indeed, it cannot be ended at all. You are not able to state that its terms are inapplicable to you, that it has no jurisdiction or effect over you. Such protestations are invalid.

  1. We owe you nothing

We are entitled to do as we please without challenge, question or restraint. We have no obligation to do anything for you. We have no compulsion to act in your interests, have regard to your opinion, your feelings or your desires. If we do so, it will only be for the advancement of our position.

  1. Fuel provision is paramount

The provision of fuel is above all else. This is in terms of what you must provide to us and also in allows us to seek fuel from other sources, whenever we deem necessary and howsoever we choose. Concepts of fidelity and monogamy are null and void with regard to this part of the covenant. Issues of protocol and etiquette and meaningless.

  1. The Ends Justifies the Means

The covenant grants us carte blanche to do what is necessary for our purposes. This is supported by our concept of total entitlement and the fact that we have no accountability, culpability or blameworthiness for any of our actions. Whatever needs to be done will be done to ensure the furtherance of our agenda, aims and needs.

  1. We are the Victim

We are the victim in all of this. This is why the covenant exists by reason to compensate us for all of the outrageous injustices, misfortunes, unfairness and hardships that this cruel and feckless world has meted out to us.

7 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Covenant

  1. Asp Emp says:

    The painted black nails in the image of this article. I had painted my nails black on Wednesday 7th September. I attended an appt the next day (despite feeling a bit ‘off’ before noon), I wore black clothes. Did a bit of shopping then sat to watch the news……the Queen had passed away. It was the first time I had worn black nail varnish in some years. Coincidental?

  2. Savoy Truffle says:

    How does No Contact affect the covenant?

  3. Grace says:

    Oh man, HG, very well written: This hits hards for me, it is so true with my ExNarc (a former business man) who is going after me now after 7 years I ended the intimate partnership and 6 years I ended the business relationship because I will leave finally to go abroad. I remember now that in the beginning of your intimate partnership he made me write down the reasons why I want to be with him. One obvious reason was that he is 29 years older than me and wanted to be sure I will see this relationship like a marriage without being married. I was “tested” by him in the beginning and again and again in the 9 years of intimate relationship, “Nine years of loneliness- My relation with a Narcissist”, a perfect title for a nowel…

    I could always feel that there was like a contract between us, I felt like binded to a contract without knowing it. And my subconciousness knew that there was no possibility to escape this contract. That is why I did not try to escape although I had this idea first: Putting the rest of my stuff in a van and leaving to find a community in the south of Spain. But in the end I fell crazy in love with an autistic writer and no contact was enough. Now this year in April my ExNarc showed up again and talked to me at the market where I work and in June he was talking on my answering machine and invited me to come to his place and pick the cherries in his gardens… That were the only things I missed when I left him: The gardens and the small river flowing inbetween… And I still miss the black cat with the half tail… Another victim of this cruel world.

    How to end the wars we fight? Not only against our enemies, our competitors, our business rivals, the war to conquer nature but also with the ones that are close to us and the war we fight unconsciously with ourself?

  4. Joa says:

    Ok. There are so many men around me with claims and a sense of law, that I wonder how I manage to endure. I straighten, fix, shake off the weight, it’s light and good, and then the same thing again. And so with everyone at different time distances. One falls, the second comes, the third hollows, the fourth nibbles, the fifth sucks, the sixth suffocates, the seventh is watching. Eternal rotation.

    Today they gutted me to the maximum. Today I am tired. Loneliness heals me.

    A new day will come tomorrow 🙂

  5. Doug says:

    They play their games like a cat playing with a string toy. Until the string breaks and the toy lays lifeless on the ground. Then they bat the lifeless toy around for further amusement. How pathetic & horrifically boring…….

  6. Tom says:

    Sounds like one sick man and his hareem of slave women .

  7. VonnaTay says:

    “ There there Marnie.”

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