The Narcissist Corrupts : Truth Seeker

 

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Truth seeker. The pursuit of the truth. A noble ideal indeed is it not? It sounds as if you ought to be armed with your sword of justice and your shield of purity as you make your way through the badlands in order to find the truth. In fact, this is what you, as an empathic individual is unwittingly doing when you become engaged with our kind.

You are all truth seekers. The empath, the co-dependent and especially the super empath. You want the truth and you will apply your indefatigable spirit to acquiring it without understanding the toll that this misguided folly will have on you as whole. The need to be told the truth, to find it and to know it is a core empathic trait and as you would expect, it leads you into the trap of being ensnared by our kind and is heavily exploited.

Being a truth seeker is a trait of the empath which we corrupt and we are aided and abetted by your emotional thinking. . Those who are empathic tell the truth, but that is because of that other empathic trait honesty. The empath must always establish the truth of a situation, the truth at the heart of an individual and in so doing the allows them to reconcile their own truths.

The empath must know the truth. He or she must not only need to understand why somebody is as they are, but they have to be satisfied that this is the truth of the matter. This desire for the truth makes an empath extremely vulnerable to us since we trade in lies, deal in deceit and all our currency is counterfeit.

Take, for instance, at the outset of the narcissistic dynamic, when we begin our seduction of the empath. He or she wishes to know that this wonderful person is true in their intentions and whilst the empath might be pleased that others talk about how enamoured the narcissist is about them, or how the narcissist seems utterly smitten, the empath must establish the truth form the narcissist him or herself. This of course opens the empath up to the charm, magnetism and allure of the scintillating narcissist as we are only too happy to tell you what you want to hear, to show you what you want to see and to do what you would have us do.

Oblivious to who you are dealing with (until otherwise educated) the empath will, through his or trusting nature and propensity to deal honestly with others, accept what the narcissist says and does. That amounts to the truth. The narcissist is skilled through his mirroring to reflect back at you your own truths and thus as you seek the truth, you are shown it. What you do not realise is that you are looking at your own truth, but since it is your truth and not ours, it is so utterly convincing. The adoration that you exhibit towards us is mirrored and reflect back at you. You wish to seek the truth of that adoration and what do you see? An adoration that is on the same par as your own – how can that then not appear to be the truth. In seeking the truth but looking for it from one who lies so effectively and defrauds with ease, all you find is your own truth, but you fail to recognise it as such and thus you feel you have found the truth and you are convinced that what you see is genuine love, is genuine passion and is genuine adoration.

You might liken it to a person who carries with him or her one half of a precious gem and seeks the other half. This person encounters a mirror, but does not know that it is a mirror and thinks that they see the other half stood before them since it looks so convincing, yet try to touch or grasp or find any depth or substance to this supposed other half and it will not be there. This is what eventually happens when devaluation occurs as you see the reflection and it dawns on you that all you are looking at is what you already had, being made to appear like something more.

Thus in wanting to find the truth and being shown your truth and not ours, you are utterly convinced as to the legitimacy of our love, passion and desire for you. Your truth seeking has made you vulnerable to our deceitful manipulations from the very beginning.

Yet, the matter worsens. Your pursuit of the truth leaves you vulnerable to perhaps one of the most confusing and bewildering aspects of the narcissistic dynamic, the need to establish the truth during devaluation. Once the array of machinations are wheeled out against you, the gas lighting commences, the lies, the insults, the intimidation and so much more is used against you, your quest for the truth has you stuck in the quagmire of our manipulations for a considerable time.

Firstly, you do not accept that this monster which now prevents you from getting a good night’s sleep, erupts at the slightest criticism, becomes demanding over apparently nothing, is the person who you fell in love with or who loves you. This is not the truth that stands before you. The truth must surely have been the person who first seduced you. You know that to be the case because you sought the truth then during the seduction, you saw it and you established it. It is that magical, wonderful, adoring person who seems to have vanished and in its stead you now see some grotesque version of the person you love. That is not the truth that shouts at you and belittles you, that is not the truth that turns each time you want to go out with your friends into a battle and that is not the truth that turns its back on you every night in bed. You want to find the true us, the one you saw and established during seduction and that need, that desire and that pursuit of this truth means you remain in situ, not escaping and allowing our abuses to rain down on you again and again.

Secondly, you experience the downside of our pathological lies during the devaluation. You were lied to, naturally, during the seduction, but that does not matter. You thought it to be the truth and you established it as so and besides, those lies felt good didn’t they? Yet know, the lies wound and hurt, they scar and mark, as we tell you lies about what we have been doing, where we have been and who with. You are no fool, or so you think, for you have followed us, had others report to you and you know the truth of what has been happening. Now you must establish that truth with us. You must seek the truth from our lips without you realising that we will never do such a thing since to do so would be to cede control to you. You have not yet grasped who you are dealing with and thus you remain unaware that we use lies to achieve so much of our aims. Those lies are used to make you dizzy, make you cry, make you exhausted and we keep on going and will not concede to the truth.

How many times have you heard yourself say:-

“Just tell me the truth, that is all I want you to do.”

“Please, stop lying, just tell the truth.”

“If you would only tell the truth.”

“I want the truth.”

“Give me the truth. Please I am begging you.”

Are those phrases and those of a similar kind echoing about your mind now?

Your desire to get to the truth, to hold the truth in front of us and get us to acknowledge it means you become drawn into the circular arguments, the endless arguments, the denial, the switching and the deflections which leave you shattered, mystified and spent. Why can he not see the truth when I do? The Toxic Logic of course, but you are not privy to such information at that time and so you gird your loins, climb back on your steed and ride out once again in the pursuit of the truth. It is no surprise that you then gallop into the swamp and become bogged down by lies, untruths and mendacity.

Thirdly, during devaluation it is often the case that you will turn to others to seek confirmation that the truth you once witnessed is indeed the truth and you can find it once again. You seek the truth from our coterie, our minions and our lieutenants. You go to them and need to ascertain that we are surely a decent person, who is loving and caring are we not? You walk straight into the facade and its false truth. You hear the answers which you want to hear, we are lauded for our generosity, we are praised for our kindness, we are complimented on our good humour, easy charm and reliability. There it is, you have sought the truth once again and you have found it, yet you fail to recognise it as the false truth and the false hope which it engenders. Instead of trying to escape from this devaluation, you remain in place, taking comfort from that the facade has told you and redoubling your efforts to find the truth with us. Thus, you remain and exhaust yourself tilting against the windmill that is us when you think you are slaying the dragon.

Accordingly, your empathic trait of being a truth seeker makes you vulnerable to our seduction and extremely vulnerable to the effects of our mind games, manipulations and habitual lying. Were this where it ends, but your quest for the truth has a further blow to administer to you.

The empathic trait of being a truth seeker heightens your susceptibility to the post escape and post discard hoovers. When we open those shutters and allow the bright, shining light of the golden period to fall upon your face you instantly see that the truth has returned, that false truth which you were shown what feels like such a long time ago. Yet, all is not lost, the truth has returned, it is in your grasp and all you need to do seek it out and embrace it is to return to our fold. By seeking our the truth once again you fall prey to our hoovers and our control over you is increased again.

The desire to seek the truth is noble indeed but seeking it from one who scorns the truth and takes refuge amongst deceit, lies and fraudulent intent can only result in this character trait of yours gaining the epitaph of being something which we, the narcissists, corrupt.

11 thoughts on “The Narcissist Corrupts : Truth Seeker

  1. I never took in the story of the precious gem the first time I read this. How truthful it is.

    “You might liken it to a person who carries with him or her one half of a precious gem and seeks the other half. This person encounters a mirror, but does not know that it is a mirror and thinks that they see the other half stood before them since it looks so convincing, yet try to touch or grasp or find any depth or substance to this supposed other half and it will not be there. This is what eventually happens when devaluation occurs as you see the reflection and it dawns on you that all you are looking at is what you already had, being made to appear like something more.”

    Post disengagement and a lowering of our emotional thinking, when the reflection is finally taken away and we see the mirror for what it is, it is possible to finally comprehend that which lies on the other side is emptiness. The emptiness of the illusion. It’s why it’s no longer painful to think about the narcissist because there was nothing of substance to lose. Exactly as stated: “you are looking at what you already had, being made to appear like something more.”

    Understanding this is a great way to counter the sorrow that inevitably is joined with narcissism.

  2. Rebecca says:

    My truthseeker trait got its laps with LMRSOMATIC. I was so deep into finding his truth , that I lost sight of myself and fell down the rabbit hole. Everything was magical,like in a good dream, everything seemed so perfect, but yet I had a nagging feeling, all is not as it seemed, something was off…I had to dig, to find the truth of him….He would show me glimpses of his true personality, where he would be callous about someone’s bad fortune and be harsh and dismissive towards their pain. As an example, A fellow co-worker was talking to the both of us and he was upset because management was going to let him go after Christmas. I was upset, by his news and worried about how’s he going to pay his bills etc and I expressed concern to him. The LMRSOMATIC kept quiet, but when the co-worker left, LMRSOMATIC spoke up with me. He said, “Why are they waiting until after Christmas to get rid of him? He’s a lousy worker, they should get rid of him now!” He laughed and walked away. I was left feeling confused by his callousness and wondered what was wrong with him. I thought something upset him and he was having a bad day. I thought about what could have upset him, anything except, the idea that he’s just a jerk and showing his true self. I didn’t see that then, I do now. Yeah, he was a jerk and I know, still a jerk, but at least now he’s one jerk I don’t have to talk to, or see. Good riddance

    1. WhoCares says:

      Rebecca!

      “Yeah, he was a jerk and I know, still a jerk, but at least now he’s one jerk I don’t have to talk to, or see. Good riddance”

      Did you get out? Did you escape!?
      (Sorry if you’ve already reported on this and I missed it.)

      1. Rebecca says:

        Hi WhoCares! ❤

        No, I wish…still working on it, sorry to say. MLSOMATIC is my husband, LMRSOMATIC was my co-worker/friend/ he wanted to be my lover, but chaos struck him in the head(some friends got involved, long story) and he was out the door! ONE DOWN, ONE TO GO! So there’s that, some good news. 😁❤ I’m still alive and still fighting here and there with MLSOMATIC, being a pain in his ass, I’m sure, in his perspective anyway….

        What’s new with you?? How were the holidays? Mine had no fighting in it this year. Yay, go me. 😆🤣

        1. WhoCares says:

          “! ONE DOWN, ONE TO GO!”

          That’s the spirit!

          I am glad your holidays were free of fighting.
          To answer your question, mine were quiet. I had a flu bug, so no socializing or making turkey for anyone other than my son and myself.
          Sadly (but what a relief) it was the year my son stopped believing in Santa Claus.

          1. Rebecca says:

            Hi WhoCares!

            Sorry to hear you were sick over the holidays and your son stopped believing in Santa….Oh, I hope Christmas will still be magical for you both, in the years to come….I’m relieved I didn’t have any drama over the holidays!

            Here’s to another year! Let’s hope it’s a better one and things get moving, forward!!

    2. WhoCares says:

      Oh Rebecca, I just saw the thread on “Something Doesn’t Feel Right”, and I got the answer to my question. I’m so sorry that your plans with your friend didn’t work out.
      I hope my inquiry didn’t add to your difficult feelings – I just get so hopeful when I think someone has left.
      Best of luck with the new plans. ❤

      1. Rebecca says:

        Thank you WhoCares and no worries, you didn’t make me feel worse. Xoxo ❤ Plans change, always good to have a Plan B.

  3. Kim James Aumais says:

    This article is a work of art. So beautiful in its accuracy and composition. I experienced every situation as an empath. The truth explained so wonderfully. Thank you

  4. Joa says:

    Is it the same here?

    1. annaamel says:

      ‘The desire to seek the truth is noble indeed but seeking it from one who scorns the truth and takes refuge amongst deceit, lies and fraudulent intent can only result in this character trait of yours gaining the epitaph of being something which we, the narcissists, corrupt.’

      I think it definitely pays to keep your wits about you whenever you interact with anyone who fits the description above.

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