Knowing the Psychopath : The Beauty of Detachment
One of the major advantages of my psychopathy is my detachment from human beings. It underpins so much of what I am, what I achieve and of course how I see the world. There will be some of you who will admire this detachment, likely wish you could adopt it for yourselves, others will be repulsed by it and thankful you can attach and willingly do so. Whatever your view might be, it is fundamental for you to understand this perspective to enable you to gain the necessary insight into my world.
When we think of navigating through life, we imagine the immense human capacity for empathy as a vital compass. However, for individuals with no emotional empathy, our perception of the world is vastly different. Understanding how we with complete emotional detachment perceive the world can shed light on our thoughts, decision-making, and interactions with others.
In the realm of the psychopath with no emotional empathy, those of us with the higher executive function,it is rationality that is the dominant lens through which we see the world. Every situation is analyzed and evaluated with objective reasoning, unaffected by emotional attachments and biases. Emotions are mere abstractions, and we perceive them as superfluous to our understanding of reality. We perceive emotions in others as tools to manipulate or irrational hurdles faced by those who cannot think logically.
For someone with no emotional empathy, relationships are practical endeavors founded on mutual benefits rather than emotional bonds. Our interactions with others revolve around logic, adaptability, and personal gain. We are skilled at observing social cues and mimic emotional responses to avoid arousing suspicion or to attain certain goals. We understand that emotions can be exploited by playing the role of a concerned friend, loyal partner, or supportive colleague without experiencing these emotions genuinely.
With emotional detachment comes a heightened ability to manipulate those around us. As individuals lacking emotional empathy we view emotions as vulnerabilities to exploit. We can effortlessly analyze the emotional responses of others, identifying weaknesses and using them to our advantage. Many individuals with complete emotional detachment find themselves in professions like law, management, or politics due to their ability to dispassionately manipulate individuals and systems for our personal gain.
While moral values are part of social structures, we perceive morality as a futile concept. Without any emotional mechanisms to process moral dilemmas, ethical considerations become intellectual constructs rather than deeply ingrained feelings. Our kind often, albeit not always adhere to societal norms and moral codes to avoid social consequences rather than from a genuine concern for others.
Some of our kind with a lower cognitive function may struggle to understand the concept of affection, experiencing it as an abstraction or social obligation. Feelings of love, care, and compassion are foreign concepts however to us all, making it impossible for us to establish genuine connections. We might mimic affection based on external cues, using socially acceptable behaviors to fulfill societal expectations while never truly experiencing the underlying sentiments.
Living a life devoid of emotional empathy may in the mind of others create an inherent sense of isolation. As they cannot comprehend or share the joys, sorrows, and intimate connections that emotions facilitate, those that look on us believe that the world can seem hollow and distant, but that is the projection of those who are not us. Their own feelings in relation to such a scenario becomes how they believe we are, even though it is not the case. Often our victims wish that this is what we experience, a form of revenge for dragging them into our world in the first instance.
Our kind who experience this lack of empathy may face challenges in understanding and relating to others. To navigate through these challenges, we often employ coping mechanisms such as rationalizing emotions as illogical or obscure constructs. By reframing feelings as unnecessary elements of human existence, we create a cognitive buffer that can help us adapt and manage our relationships with minimal personal intensity. The degree of success by which this is done very much depends on the relative executive function of the individual concerned.
All of this enables us to move through the world unaffected by its emotions and the hindering impact of feelings. We are detached and this is where its beauty works for us. Not for you, but you are not of us. It is clean, straight forward, minimal and beautiful in its simplicity. Whilst I understand those of you who regard such a way of being as abhorrent and frightening, it is what we are and it provides us with the means of being. To us, this detachment is a beautiful thing.
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After so much abuse from others I am becoming detached myself. I had been the type who would be head over heels for someone. Not anymore. I got a dog and I am much happier now.
Detachment IS a beautiful thing. Empaths, should they choose, are able to live from a detached state. It may not come naturally at first. It is a practice. A Zen-like state might be the simplest way to describe it. Perhaps it is the best of both worlds because we are also able to experience a range of human emotions.
Well said mu
I used to cling like s*** to on a shoe to people.
After many many years, 2 decades to be precise, I finally let go
The shoe was scraped on a curb, or maybe grass, releasing me
I am completly detached. I prefer solitary,
Actually being around people hurts me greatly and annoys me.
I can tolerate it and behave with manners, and with respect.
But I prefer being alone. I do not miss people anymore.
I have become the hermit.
Anna,
Your words hit me like a ton of bricks. Even though I feel exactly the same way as you do right now, it made me incredibly sad to read it. Every single word you said resonated profoundly with me. Don’t we deserve better? I think so.
Here is a link to the YouTube video of the still face experiment
Anna:
We’ll have seen videos saying society is going in that direction. I wonder if it’s due to the rise in narcissism? Both individually and society at large. ???
Leigh and Contagious. I have been reading alot lately. I have come to the conclusion that this is the saying in the bible
“When the dead walk the earth”
I am not religious, but I do believe that the bible tells many truths, in a way that is similar to that of a riddle.
What this means is when there is a high amount of narcissistic psychopathy, a whole world of pathocracy then the “dead are walking the earth”
What make us human?
Compassion, empathy…
The majority of people walking around who are devoid of this, are dead inside indead. Apathy Kills after all.
As for psychopathy, my personal belief is that it is an extreme defence mechanism. The highest of them all. Sure, there maybe a genetic element to it, but it has to be triggered.
Animals die if they do not recieve love. They cannot survive
Humans do not. Instead they turn into psychopaths.
A newborn child unlike an animal is completly defenceless. An animal maybe able to stand, their brains are more developed. Our human brains are so advanced, the ages between 0-3 are integral to this development. Mirror neurons.
Google, the still face experiment they tried with babies. It is interesting to see how the infants react.
If a child does not recieve love, it will not learn to love. We our born with a great capacity to learn things, to absorb like a sponge, to mirror…. A narcissist longs for love and validation. A psychopath does not. They have developed an even more potent defence mechanism from a trauma very early on.
This is of course just my opinion based on some reading I have done. However, it does seem to be logical.
Hi Anna,
I’m a cynic and trust very few people. I do agree that the world is filled with people that are devoid of empathy and compassion. Apathy is widespread. I prefer isolation too. But with all of that said, we need human connection. Isolation can cause depression. I know the world is filled with narcs and psychopaths. But I still have some hope that’s there’s some empathetic people out there. Do you have anyone in your life that’s empathetic?
I agree that psychopathy is a severe defense mechanism.
I’ll look into that still face experiment and let you know my thoughts.
Hi Anna,
I Googled the Still Face experiment. I have some thoughts.
I was neglected by my mother as a child and somehow I developed empathy. One of my daughters is a confirmed narcissist and I don’t believe I neglected her. If anything I over indulged her. While I know connection is very important, it’s not the only factor.
What I did find interesting though is the need to connect on a very basic and primitive level.
I agree, the world is filled with people that don’t give a rats ass about anyone but themselves.
But their are good people out there too and we do need to connect. I do hope you find a true, empathetic connection with someone.
Hi Leigh
This is just all my own opinion based on what I have read and understood.
That is great you developed empathy despite the neglect from your mother.
If a developing infant gets attention from another source, maybe father, sibling, other family member etc. This may counteract the effects. Of course we are all individuals as well.
Thank you for asking. I have a few people I know at work who have empathy. They are very kind people indeed. I have learned to be grateful for those who are kind.
Also thanks to HG’s work I have learned how to cope with the narcissists I am surrounded by in every day life. Also how to improve myself. Self reflection.
I am grateful for every day I am given on this planet and have learned to appreciate the goodness, also to learn from the bad.
Hi Anna,
Thank you for your response. I think I’m just questioning the whole nature vs nurture debate. For years I thought nurture/love had a far greater impact then nature/environment. Now I’m not sure anymore. Now I think both play a very significant part in how we develop in life.
It’s amazing how much Mr. Tudor has broadened my perspective. He’s given us an incredible gift. He’s given us enlightenment. I’m very grateful to him as well. His teachings have taught me how to cope with narcs in every day life as well.
I’m glad you have someone kind in your life. Even if its only one or two people, I find it still helps me.
Hi Leigh,
“For years I thought nurture/love had a far greater impact then nature/environment. Now I’m not sure anymore. Now I think both play a very significant part in how we develop in life.”
I always subscribed to the fact it was nurture over nature, that your upbringing was soley responsible for your personality.
But having undertaken DNA tests where you can also look at personality traits, it was starkly accurate. including the bits I like aout myself as well as those which I don’t.
I was angry at my mother for many years believing alot of my ‘issues’ were her fault. She’s not a narcissist but it took me years of reading to confirm. I did temporarily beleive she was, fairly quickly realised she wasn’t but didn’t know what exactly she was. Now I understand her, myself and others far more accurately. She did the absolute best she could within the confines of her own personality and emotional responses. I think I failed to look at the whole picture and instead focused very much on the things I wanted to focus on and amplified them,
Absolutely I agree people’s personality’s are impacted by the environment and different stressors/exciters bring out different aspects of our personality at different times.
I definitely had a very elongated reduction in my empathy and I’ve been looking at all the causes, my responses to those, how that’s impacted on me and others and how I can manage myself going forward. It’s still work in progress
I couldn’t have done this at all without HG’s work, not even close.
Hi Alexis,
Its good to see you!
I was just thinking about my own situation and how I was neglected by both parents and yet I developed empathy. Then there’s my daughter who was nurtured and she didn’t develop empathy. Environment had to be a factor.
I agree. I wouldn’t have been able to work any of this out without Mr. Tudor’s work.
Thank you for your input! I really appreciate it. Hope you’re well.
Hello Mu. All what HG describes here is a beautiful thing to my understanding as well. I wish I could achieve it to a degree. Mu, may I ask how do you detach? How do you do it? And how do you choose?? In my experience it is easily done if you retreat to a mountain top i.e. remove yourself from emotionally draining or challenging circumstances/people, but when you are amidst the circus and can’t remove yourself and also partly don’t wish to remove yourself? The further on the contagious scale or/and higher on the narcissistic traits and/or empathic beliefs/traits – the more impossible it becomes and you end up in the same loop of fading into magnetism of emotional wheels…
Thank you.