What the Hell Just Happened?
– One minute I was serving lunch and everyone was talking away, the next he flung the plate at the wall and called me a fucking selfish bitch –
– I only asked how his day was and he just turned around and walked back out; that was yesterday evening and I haven’t heard from him since –
– I mentioned I was going away with my friends for the weekend and before I know it he is accusing me of having an affair and telling me I have to cancel the trip and stay at home –
– All I said was that the blue shirt suited him better, he tore both of them in half and pushed me over –
– How did I end up looking like this; I said that maybe he had had enough to drink –
– I was sat watching television and she came in full of hell and laid into me, I had no idea what I was supposed to have done –
The overriding response to such scenarios and others is what the hell just happened? At the time these instances happen, the recipient of the behaviour does not know that they have become entangled with one of our kind. The recipient expects the other person to operate by their standards of behaviour, their own mature and reasonable responses and their own healthy reactions. Not only do they find that the response is anything but like how they would respond, they struggle to discern any logic in or reason in how we have behaved. Common reactions to such instances as the above along with asking what the hell just happened would include
– She blew it up out of all proportion –
– I don’t know what got in to him, there was nothing the matter –
– It was such an extreme reaction I am at a loss to understand why she did as she did –
– Everything was going really well and then wham; I’ve no idea what set that off-
Indeed, you would have no idea at all what is going on and why would you? At the time you did not know that you had become entangled with a narcissist and this is an entirely typical and standard response. Even when you ascertain, most likely sometime after the relationship has been brought to an end through a callous discard, that you had become involved with a narcissist, these eruptions, disruptions and volcanic responses still mystify and bewilder. In order to comprehend what on earth has just happened in such instances it is necessary to adopt the narcissist’s perspective. Despite the boldness, the grandiosity and the confidence, we are suspicious of the world. The world has treated us badly. It is a treacherous place which has sought, from the very beginning, to destroy us and this remains our mind set. As we move through life, climbing higher and higher, driving forward and conquering, we remain vigilant, wary and indeed often paranoid. There are those traitors, those betrayers and those plotters who would love nothing more than to do us down, dethrone us and topple us. Hence we often strike first before those who conspire to harm us can do so. Our view of the world means that we see criticism, which we despise and hate more than anything else, lurking around every corner, in the words of those who speak to us and most of all through the actions and gestures of the shadowy snakes who infest the world.
Oh we are not stupid, we know only too well that you prefer to criticise us through actions and gestures, that way you are able to diminish the impact by suggesting that we are over-reacting, reading too much into it and seeing things that are not there. Of course we often accuse you of doing this but we are never guilty of behaving in this manner. We are always right when we see a criticism arising from something. We are finely tuned to pick up on these criticisms and therefore we spot them straight away.
Notwithstanding our ability to spot these criticisms, we are unable to evade them and instead like a serrated dagger they wound us and make us feel weak, vulnerable and pathetic. They are an unwanted and horrendous reminder of the very thing we seek not to be. In order to cope with this unwarranted wounding of us, we have an excellent self-defence mechanism. Fury. Our fury is always there, churning away beneath the surface and when we are wounded by criticism, this fury ignites and manifests either as heated fury or cold fury. This means that we lash out at you and others, smash things up, assault people, stand and glare, dole out silent treatments and so forth. This will nearly always cause the recipient of this manifestation of ignited fury to respond in an emotional manner – fear, hurt, anger, surprise, annoyance, upset and so forth – which of course equates to fuel.
The provision of fuel as a direct consequence of the manifestation of this ignited fury means that the wound caused by the criticism is healed and eventually the ignited fury will dissipate as it has served its function. A Mid-Range narcissist has some control over the ignition of his fury and if he deems that exploding in a certain situation would be detrimental to how he is viewed he may switch to cold fury or even withdraw and seek fuel elsewhere to quell the ignited fury and heal the wound. A Greater Narcissist has substantial control and for instance if he deems it necessary to preserve the façade he will keep the fury under control until there is an appropriate moment to unleash the fury and gain the fuel. Thus in some instances the ‘what the hell moment’ may not happen at the time the criticism occurred but be a time afterwards. You can see now just how bewildering and disorientating it is.
Be aware that a criticism which is allied with emotion is fuel and will not wound us. Thus shouting at us and calling us all the names under the sun only provides us with fuel. Crying and telling us that we are a complete bastard and useless in bed is fuel. That is why the criticism often arises from perception and from actions and gestures as they tend to be fuel free.
Returning to the instances at the outset of this article, let’s examine how the perception of criticism manifested in my kind’s mind.
– One minute I was serving lunch and everyone was talking away, the next he flung the plate at the wall and called me a fucking selfish bitch –
The criticism arose because the narcissist was served with his food behind everybody else thus insinuating that other people were more important than him.
– I only asked how his day was and he just turned around and walked back out; that was yesterday evening and I haven’t heard from him since –
The criticism arose because the speaker failed to smile and look delighted at the return of the narcissist, thus implying that he was not worth shining for.
– I mentioned I was going away with my friends for the weekend and before I know it he is accusing me of having an affair and telling me I have to cancel the trip and stay at home –
The criticism was spending time with other people and therefore suggesting that the narcissist was not interesting enough to spend the weekend with.
– All I said was that the blue shirt suited him better, he tore both of them in half and pushed me over –
The criticism was to suggest that the shirt he preferred was not the one he looked best in. This not only criticised his choice but also how he looked.
– How did I end up looking like this; I said that maybe he had had enough to drink –
The criticism is to suggest that the narcissist has a drink problem and that his activities ought to be curtailed, by you, somebody who is inferior to him.
– I was sat watching television and she came in full of hell and laid into me, I had no idea what I was supposed to have done –
This may be an example of delayed fury arising from an earlier criticism and/or it might be the fact that the person was watching television and not providing attention to the narcissist.
You will have no doubt deduced from this that occurrence of a what the hell just happened moment can happen at any time, can come out of nowhere and is not based on anything significant, from your perspective. From our perspective there is the potential for criticism on a repeated and frequent basis. This is what leads to the second-guessing, hypervigilance, anxiety and treading on egg-shells that is so often associated with our kind.
In terms of dealing with it, it is nigh on impossible to predict. You will at least know what it is and why it has happened. In certain circumstances it can be used to your advantage to cause a wound and then not to provide fuel when the ignition of fury takes place. This will weaken us and cause us to go elsewhere, but care should be exercised in doing this as it may escalate the reaction initially with severe consequences. The most appropriate way to deal with this is to be able to know what it is, understand why it has happened, that it will blow over and that you may be best providing positive fuel, rather than becoming scared, bewildered or upset, since you know what is behind it. You can then manage it in that way until such time as you can escape the effect and influence of the narcissist as a whole.
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Hey Rebecca:
It’s funny with the exception of Dolly who I have long been a fan and knew something’s about her, I didn’t know about the personal lives of the others like Bale. But HG’s analysis has helped me understand the schools more. For example, Bales tantrum was awful on terminator two. He doesn’t suffer fools. Super. Dolly refuses to engage. Super. Two ways of drawing lines in the sand. Contagian appears in art as knowing emotions of others to reflect them accurately and nature and spirituality. Although an artist, I have never made much money on it. I think the CBS movie in my 20s and a couple of commercials. My books (2) and mixed media have made none. I have done expos. I have interest in some music but I need a creative outlet, nature and spirituality to function in life. I get it. It’s been interesting to see that others in contagion are drawn to the same. I mix up savior and carrier and Bale and Dolly are both. Carriers “ pull up their sleeves and carry others”. Saviors seek to save. The empath series has been great and I definitely get the empaths before the others. I think Hardy is an empath because of his brilliance as an actor, his long term relations, his professionalism and dedication and his ability of understanding emotions ( contagion) and that’s too far reaching for a normal but he struggles with alcohol and drug addiction. No human is immune to that gene. My best to you always!
Hi Contagion,
I’ve known Dolly through her movies and shows, not so much her music. I’m not a fan of Country music, but I do like her ‘JOLENE’ song. I got half of her School and Cadre right, but I did guess Empath right.
Which School and Cadre of Dolly’s shocked you the most? For me, it was CoDependent and not having Geyser. I thought she had some Geyser in her make up and her being so strong…I was surprised she had CoDependent at all.
Her high Contagion % was a shocker for me too. Hope you’re doing well. Xx
Hi HG:
We haven’t had a heavy metal analysis. How about Ozzie? Wouldn’t it be funny if he was “ normal.” RIP
Sharrrroonnn!
Watch him chasing a cat around the garden.
That is a funny image, HG! Xx
One of a kind and very loved by his fans:)
Hi Contagious,
I think Sharon is an Empath and Ozzy is a Midrange narcissist. I see their behaviors in clips that come up on my online fed and a couple of interviews that popped up too. She stuck with him through it all, while others would have left him and took half his money. Xx
Not so.
Please do an analysis on them. I think there would be a lot of interest in seeing them under the tudorscope. Xx
Sharon was still in his life, which maybe an indicator of a narcissist who can’t let go of an appliance, or it could be the obligation of an empath….? Xx
Ohhh do tell. Take a “ Shot in n the Dark” 🎶
Hi HG and Dani,
I’m sorry I had to put this reply here to Dani’s questions to me further down the chat. Xx
Dani,
Yes, the stories that HG shares about himself do top all other series, 100% agree. Xx
You asked about the empath analysis and what stood out to me about them, I would say the unwavering behaviors, the unchanging opinions, them standing for something they believe in, working to help others without media announcements, their treatment of others….the lack of abusing people and animals…a whole list of things that HG brings up about them.
With Dolly, I knew her from when I was a kid and seeing the shows she appeared on, her interviews and she treated people and it was brought up whenever people talked about her. She was genuinely kind and she likes to help people. I guessed she was an empath because of how she treats people and it doesn’t waver or stop from one person to the next. She doesn’t lie to get her way, she doesn’t respond to media provocations. She’s a warm person. Xx
Hi Rebecca,
For me, it has been the huge lack of fractious relationships. I’m super on the fence about Tom Hardy. I really can’t tell. His analysis reminds me of Depp right now. the drug addiction and showing up late to movie sets and contradictory statements to the media with such blunt language. But the staying away from alcohol for his children. The love of dogs. His charity work also has shades of Depp to some of it, just how I am curry viewing it. I think his perspective is valuable, as someone with such a long history of both usage and now in recovery. Not everyone would be willing to share that…the question is the driver behind it…I can’t decide if he wants to help those addicted to drugs or talk about himself or a combination of the two. I knew nothing about him prior to the analysis other than that he’s a good actor. So it’s been interesting. Looking forward to how Mr. Tudor stiches these traits and actions together.
Hi Dani,
I’m looking forward to the conclusion to Tom Hardy’s analysis too! The video had me leaning towards Narcissistic for Tom Hardy. They are tough, it’s easier when it’s a one on one basis for me….though some people make it easy on media platforms to see their behaviors. More private people, like Bale and Hardy are harder to see clearly. Xx
Oh nööö Ozzy empath. Sharon an upper mid-range…
(Tom Hardy — a Greater? Fingers crossed)
Hopefully HG will put them under the turdorscope and we can all find out what they are. Xx
I’m still mostly on the fence with Tom Hardy. I enjoy his movies, he’s a great actor, but I don’t know much about the man, but I’m learning through HG’s analysis of him. I really enjoy the tudorscopes more than the TOW series. It’s difficult to tell the difference between narc and empath fot me because they show similiar behaviors, but the drive behind them is different. It’s seeing the drives that is hard for me. Usually for me, it’s their vibe I pick up on, after being around them.
I’m seeing the midrange behaviors easier, I think it’s because I was raised by one, easier to notice the patterns because they are so familiar to me. Xx
Hi Jordy:
I see Hardy as a normal. He has alcohol and drug issues which caused him to act badly but substance abuse is across the line and he didn’t blame others. He blamed himself and got sober which is highly commendable and has been sober many years. Sure he has had a few women but not a lot given his star status. He has good relations with his parents, co-workers, family. Not much that I know outside of them. NOW what interests me is his brilliance at acting. He is very intuitive so he might be an empath if so standard/contagion and magnet but so far I think normal but I am hung up on his incredible ability to slip into another’s skin…
I agree, Rebecca. Tudor Scopes are about the best…(I find any stories featuring Mr. Tudor to top them.) What were you picking up on throughout the different empath Tudorscopes? What was your Dolly Parton instinct? Or were you guessing till the reveal? I’m like you, regarding Hardy. He’s been a bit trickier, but I am waiting on Mr. Tudor to present more evidence. I am getting a picture, I think.
Hi Contagious! With Hardy I got an impression of restlessness… a boredom he fights against… and a stoic presence… There is something about psychopathy in him.
Hi Rebecca,
I think it was narc on narc action. They remind me of my parents a little. My dad being the one who sat back and checked out, my mom being a ball buster but “under his authority” as a good Christian wife. Instead she just undermined him secretly all the time. And it was easy, because he was checked out. That aspect of the relationship between Sharon and Ozzy reminds me of them. But I think Sharon is higher functioning than my mom.
Hi AV,
I can see what you mean with them both being narcs. Sharon did seem to run the household on their show. Ozzy was hard to read due to him kinda fumbling around on the show, doing goofy stuff, like he was on drugs, meds or the effects of years on drugs…I don’t know which it was, or if it was an act . I didn’t know him well enough to know what to make of his bizarre behaviors. It seemed like an act for the show.
Sharon seemed mad at him half the time on the clips I’ve seen of the show. It was all kinda funny, kinda sad. A bit dysfunctional and I can see why you said they were like your parents in some ways….my narc mother ruled the house, much like Sharon seemed to do on the show.
It’ll be interesting to see HG’s insight on the two of them. Can we hope HG does an analysis on these two, next?? HG? Xx
I would find that interesting also Rebecca, if HG decides to do it.
Hey Rebecca:
I always found Ozzie to be a Teddy Bear, the hero to the teenage boy outcasts, working on their hot rods blaring Ozzie. I know he was unfaithful but I would say “ normal” oddly enough or it could be the other way around. I wasn’t a follower really but my son is playing him every morning. I knew he was talented. And the evil bat could have been a cliff fight back moment lol.
You know I take it back. Sharon might be narcissistic as she does seem to care about her children and Ozzie. Ozzie strikes me as a normal but maybe I don’t know enough. Good pick HG?
Hi Contagious,
It’s hard to figure out celebrities when I don’t see their interviews. I’ve seen clips of the Osbournes show and Sharon seemed to care about her family and Ozzy was difficult to understand with his mumbles. I wonder if his mumbles and flighty behaviors were done for comedy, or if it was his illness showing and medication side effects?
Some people think Ozzy was a sweetheart, but I’ve known narcs where some people thought they were the nicest person, while others thought they were creeps. It’s all in what each person sees for themselves.
My guess is Midrange narc for Ozzy and Sharon could be a narc too.
Hope HG does an analysis on them both. It would be great to find out! Xx
Contagious we had Alice Cooper (empath) so far. Check him out:
What the hell just happened with regard to the Sean ‘Diddy’ Combs trial? He was acquitted of the most serious charges, including racketeering conspiracy and sex trafficking.
His deception and abuse of minors; the drugging, coercion and entrapment of women at his white parties; the physical and mental abuse of his then girlfriend Cassie Ventura; the suspicion surrounding him about the death of his first wife; and more … so many repeated criminal behaviours. And now, he walks out of court pumping his fist in the air, thanking God and his mother?
This is craziness. Absolute mindless craziness.
This is how Sean Combs’ behaviour was reduced down to the so-called bare ‘evidence’ and provable ‘facts’ by very wealthy lawyers paid huge sums to manipulate a jury of 12 people. The jury is held to ransom in a regimented courtroom. These shameless immoral lawyers lying while slicing and dicing ‘morality’ by using dry and disjointed legislative terms and clauses.
The 12 carefully selected jurors were told – not asked but told – to rely on so-called ‘facts’ served up and manipulated by highly paid lawyers. What a farce – an absolute farce.
This is a direct example of the effects of relying too heavily on the left hemisphere of the human brain.
The right hemisphere of the human brain inherently *knows* that Sean Combs’ actions were disgusting, inhuman, immoral and debased. The right hemisphere of the brain inherently *knows* that what he did to minors and how he treated women was wrong. The right brain hemisphere *knows* that ruthless lawyers carefully select jurors in order to further manipulate the likely outcome of a trial.
The right brain hemisphere doesn’t need a “me too” protest to understand this. It doesn’t need to read the bible or pray to a god.
This is how money and litigation degrades human behaviour and morals. It is how narcissism becomes normalised and even celebrated. It is how a culture degrades itself and keeps spiralling downward into squalor.
Dearest WiserNow,
I’m just as gobsmacked as you are WN and share your very justified sentiments. Diddy is a piece of work and should be jailed and the key tossed away. The whole legal system is a farce, we all know it ! The majority of politicians are lawyers … what a joke !
Hollywood is a culture of narcissism unfortunately, you scratch my Botox and I’ll scratch yours haha
Speaking of “what the hell just happened”…….. to poor Lucy Connolly. Judge Melbourne Donald Inman KC has apparently just retired (of course he did due to the backlash of his ridiculous insane sentence). If he were my father, I would’ve disowned him on the spot. What a piece of proverbial he is and a coward to boot. How much did he get paid to silence her (and to make an example of her) by sentencing Lucy, who, (like the rest of us) are supposed to have “freedom of speech” in our so called “democratic countries” . She should’ve claimed “mental issues” as they ALWAYS get let off. What about all the “vitriol” comments I see EVERY single day about the Jews ? Double standards much, if she had different coloured skin, it wouldn’t have been an issue. What a waste of time, money and resources. I report comments (especially spam) and they never do anything about them…another joke!
She has been abused, bruised and treated abominably in prison, it’s like she’s a child murderer of the highest order and the legal system have gone back on their word to release her early, all because she asked why they were moving her to a different (worse) prison. All the prison guards have been told to treat her badly and she has been warned to zip it or else (even when she’s released).
The rise in crime by our imports are so disregarded here in Australia that they just get a slap on the wrist and walk free to rape and pillage all over again. Horrific !
The “civil wars” have already begun and sadly, things are only going to get worse, as we have the corrupt elite and politicians all conspiring together because it’s always about the money, as I keep saying. White people are being silenced !
Don’t even get me started on Bob Vylan 🤦♀️
Mr Bubbles and I are now off to paint our placards in readiness to Make Australia Great Again haha
Always a pleasure WN 💕
Here here!
Thank you, NarcNoob.
If it helps, the two felonies he was convicted on equal 20 years and I think the judge will give him the maximum time.
I hope he gets the maximum time, Contagious.
Also, I think his publicist who claims he knew nothing should be locked up in the same cell for at least half the sentence.
Ohhhhh agreed!
Hi Contagious,
I hope he gets the max on time and I hope he gets treated like his many victims. I also hope he’s very “popular” in prison.
lol totally agree. In the USA , I think we lock up more people than the entire world and AGREED.
Hi Contagious,
Most celebrities I don’t have interest in their personal lives, I enjoy their movies and leave their personal lives to themselves to live. I know some Americans are the opposite in that regard and get into stories of celebrities’ lives.
I do enjoy HG’s analysis on famous people and I do get into those analysis because they help me learn, HG makes them interesting and I get excited to see if I guessed right on the conclusions of their personality group; narc, narcissitic, empath or normal…and now something else…psychopath/ psychopathic. I find them interesting and educational…and a bit of fun thrown in there too! Xx
Hi Rebecca:
Yes, we don’t have a monarchy. No royals just celebs. And good for you! I know some personal stuff as it’s hard to avoid but I don’t actively seek it out. Now I do sometimes read bios. I loved May Musk bio. I bought Dollys books. I love her attitude! My best to you!
Hi Contagious,
I found out more about celebrities through HG’s videos than anywhere else. Sometimes I get short videos on my online fed and I’ll share them with HG, if I think he’d be interested to know about them.
I know people who get into the personal lives of celebrities, reading the articles on scandals etc….there are a small few I like to know more about, like Lady Gaga….and I did get and read one bio book, about a musician I had a crush on as teenager.
There are a few I would love HG to do an analysis on, would love to see what HG thinks of them. I make suggestions and hope I get lucky enough to see them through the tudorscope!
I’m really excited over Tom Hardy because he was one of the few I was wondering about..I love his movies, but don’t know much about the man. Xx