How To Make the Narcissist Love You

How to make the Narcissist love you. You’ve seen the title, and you want to cause the narcissist to love you. You love the Narcissist. That’s understandable. In all likelihood, you’re an empath and within that, that means that you have the love devotee trait, meaning that you’re a believer in love. Love is important to you. Love is something that matters to you. You see love as a panacea to all of the ills, that love will find a way through, that love will show the way. And therefore, as an individual, likely imbued with emotional empathy, and certainly the case if you are an empath, this causes you to love. You love the narcissist because you were presented with all of the things that matter to you, because the narcissist mirrored yourself back at you. Your interests, your characteristics, various traits, a whole variety of things were portrayed by the narcissist which, by and large, resulted in them being mirrored back. at you, and thus, in effect, you fell in love with the things that mattered to you the most, because you, in effect, fell in love with yourself and that is what we do, cause you to fall in love with yourself.

Your love for us is genuine, there is no doubt about it, on the basis that you are an empath, and you love. because you have it founded on emotional empathy, you do love the narcissist. And therefore, you were also led to believe, by the behavior of the narcissist, and, moreover, the words of the narcissist, that the narcissist loved you too. Indeed, the narcissist probably said it to you first. Not always, but this is usually the case, that the flowery language of love was rained down upon you, that there was the confetti of affection, these ribbons of tantalizing delight wrapped around you as we drew you in and held you close and tied you to us. All of this appertains to the issue of love, the ability of us to fake it, because the ability of us to fake it, because that is what we must do to bring you under our control. Lesser and mid -range narcissists, of course, fake this instinctively. They believe that they love you. The greater and the ultra know that they don’t. But we do it anyway, because it is such an effective way of getting what we want, namely the prime aims of fuel, control, character traits, and residual benefits. And therefore, we give you the appearance of love, so that you feel loved, and this in turn causes you to love us, and that you feel that you’ve found that special person. But then it goes wrong, because where you are involved with the narcissist on an intimate basis, you either become the intimate partner primary source, which means you will be devalued in the way that the sun always rises in the east and that we’re all going to die. You will be devalued. Or, if you’re the intimate partner or secondary source of the shelf variety, or the dirty little secret, then in those circumstances, what you will have is that you will get corrective devaluations, which you may well find particularly hurtful, but you’ll also be on the outside, the mistress, the side piece, the friend with benefits, an afterthought, always coming second best, never getting the fullness of the relationship that you quite rightly deserve. but of course not with a narcissist. And therefore, that is the outcome for you. Because the love that you were shown by us isn’t genuine.

It felt real to you, you didn’t imagine it but it is because we are so effective at the portrayal of love, the narcissistic narrative being controlled by us, to cause you to believe that you were loved. And now, you want that love to return. you want to make the narcissist love you, you want to get that golden period back, you want that wonderful time again, you want the pain and the misery and the hurt to go away, and you want that wonderful person to return, the exciting person, the interesting person, the person that gave you that fantastic sex that was so attentive and supportive and fun and interesting, that whirlwind of delight and love, and you want that back. And that’s entirely understandable, and therefore, I am going to tell you how to make the narcissist love you. You cannot make a narcissist love you. There are two fundamental reasons why that is. The first is the narcissist cannot love you because we have no emotional empathy, we have no empathic traits, and therefore that means we cannot love. And you need to understand that. You need to understand that what you were shown was merely a representation of love. All the glittery, showy stuff that forms part of Hollywood movies, that forms part of literature, Hallmark cards. It’s the wrapping, the glitter, the shiny stuff.

There is no substance to it. because we cannot provide the substance, because we do not have the capability to love. All we can do is create a facsimile of it, an appearance of loving you, through saying certain things, adopting certain facial expressions, adopting certain tones, committing certain gestures. But there is no love there. What you were shown was merely a false love. It is fundamental that you grasp that the narcissist never loved you, will never love you, and is incapable of loving you. If anybody tells you to the contrary, they don’t understand narcissism. Of course, it becomes difficult for you to grasp this, not because you’re stupid, but because there is the disconnect between what you experienced and what I’m telling you. But he said all of these things to me, HG. He was kind and tender and fun. He seemed loving. Seemed. He bought me things, he took me places. It looked like he was completely in love with me. Looked like. Apparent. Gave the appearance of. That’s what it’s all about. And it’s all done to con you. Either instinctively we’re the lesser or mid -range narcissist, or, with conscious calculation by the greater or the ultra.

Your emotional thinking, which is caused by interactions with the narcissist, will invariably be high. And the problem with that is it stops you using logic. It’s like the devil sitting on your shoulder whispering, but he did love you. He did all of those wonderful things for you. That must be love, surely. And you find yourself torn between Logically, I understand that this was not love, yet why do I feel that it did? You do not listen to those feelings. You listen to the logic. I am a narcissistic psychopath. I know what I am. I also know my kind inside out, and we do not love. Our behavior demonstrates that we do not love. And, no matter how difficult it is for you to accept this point, no matter how much your emotional thinking is screaming in your head to suggest otherwise, You must reject that and grasp that there was no love. It was fakery. And therefore, you can’t make a narcissist love you because we are incapable of it. Moreover, you need to understand that you can’t make us do anything. Because by you attempting to cause us to do something, you have no guarantee of success, because what you’re doing is challenging our control, and our narcissism is desired, hardwired, fabricated, manufactured, conditioned to reject and nullify any threats to our control. You try and make a narcissist do something, the narcissist sees it through the lens of control, and in the unconscious where lesser or mid -range, or the conscious where greater or ultra, the response is this.

This person is attempting to control us. We must nullify that threat. And therefore, even if we were capable of love, your attempts to cause us to love you would meet with rejection, because it would feel to us, either consciously or unconsciously, that you’re trying to control us. And our narcissism as a self -defense mechanism would kick in to nullify that threat. You should not be attempting to make the narcissist love you. It is futile. And moreover, all you will do is give us fuel, which means we win and you lose. You will expose yourself to further harm. You’ll become upset. You might be the victim of an assault. You may be cheated further. You’ll have your hopes dashed. You will be frustrated, hurt, angry, irritated, and upset. You suffer adverse consequences. And you will, because you’ll be continuing to interact with us, You will heighten your emotional thinking further, which means it will hurt you all the more. You’ll become all the more confused, and it will be harder for you to stop doing what you’re doing. When you are dealing with a narcissist, you must understand we did not love you, we cannot love you, and you cannot make us love you. You must understand that when you realize that you’re dealing with a narcissist, you must obey the first golden rule of freedom, which is once you know, you go. You get out and stay out. You actually can’t make anybody love you. let alone a narcissist, and you shouldn’t be trying. If you’re trying to make somebody love you, there’s something seriously wrong in the relationship, and you shouldn’t be in it. And anybody that suggests to you that you should somehow take steps to make somebody love you is giving you bad advice. In fact, when it comes to the narcissist, they’re giving you dangerous advice. And they are a fool, a moron, and they don’t know what they’re talking about. Never attempt to make the narcissist love you. You are doomed to failure.