Crossing the Emotional Sea (Post Disengagement/Escape Battle – Part Two)

    The first battle that takes places post disengagement or escape is the battle of the Emotional Sea. That is a battle that you are always destined to lose. You will always fight at least one Emotional Sea Battle because you do not know any other way. In all likelihood, you will face several […]

Has the Narcissist Disengaged Or Is It A Silent Treatment?

I am often asked how somebody is able to distinguish between being subjected to a silent treatment or whether they have been disengaged from (discarded in old money) ?  There are clear similarities between the two and of course, they are both instances which are common in respect of the narcissistic dynamic between our kind […]

Why Does The Narcissist Get Rid Of You?

      The discard. Treated like refuse. Cast aside. Thrown away. Jettisoned. Abandoned. As you know, the word Dis-Enagement is more accurate but for the sake of familiarity I will continue with the use of discard in this article, but do understand there is no finality associated with this act. You may actually be […]

The Final Discard

“He told me he never wanted to see me again so long as he was alive. That is it. This time it  really is over.” “She told me I was useless, pathetic, that she hated me and she would call the police if I came near her again. I don’t understand what is going on, […]

The Post Discard Battle – Pt 1

Everything we do is regarding as a battle. It is a zero sum game. What you lose, we gain. There may appear to be a “win/win” scenario during seduction but it is not the case. Believe me, we are getting what we want, positive fuel in huge quantities and the repeated binding as we draw […]