I often read comments along the lines of “I am ensnared by a narcissist and he knows exactly what he is doing, he is calculating it all and is determined to destroy me.” I have no doubt that such belief is honestly held, but it is usually incorrectly held. Why is that? It is only Greater […]

  Another session with Dr E. As I sat down in his consulting room I wondered how much had been spent so far with regards to this supposed treatment. A few thousand pounds no doubt and I imagined that both Dr E and Dr O would be more than content to continue these consultations given […]

  Dr E explained that he wanted to discuss with me the issue of regret. “Have you ever regretted anything?” he asked. “No,” I answered promptly. “I see. What do you understand by regret?” “It is a feeling of sadness or perhaps disappointment over something that you have done or failed to do.” “When have […]

  The dropping of the bomb is a common tactic of our kind. It is something that happens with regularity. It is an act of manipulation and one which you will recognise. Do any of these scenarios seem familiar? The day before you are due to travel to the wedding of one of your childhood […]

  Think back to that glorious time when you were courted by the narcissist who ensnared you. Amidst the delight and excitement of that powerful and dizzying seduction there is a good chance that mention was made of his or her ex. That person was the devil incarnate weren’t they? They were an abuser, a […]