Every Victim Is Lying
I must adopt the standpoint that every one of my victims is lying. There is no hope for me to be any different. You level accusations at me and I know you are lying because the comments make no sense to me. I gave you a fabulous and perfect love and you accepted that. You willingly entered into a union with me and with that you received my largesse and favour. You did not demur or hesitate. Instead, you embraced everything wonderful about what I gave you. Be it the expensive gifts, eloquent expressions of my love or the seemingly never-ending array of glamorous occasions to attend, you took them all. Do you have any idea how much energy I channelled into doing this for you? The repeated text messages, the “sudden appearances” which were in fact carefully crafted and organised, the many telephone calls that I made to you at all different times? All of that took a considerable effort on my part. Yet now, when I am tired and I lose my temper you accuse me of not caring. How can I not care? I am with you am I not? Have you forgotten everything that I ever did for you? It seems to me that you have. What was that vow you said with such enthusiasm, for better and for worse? You have had the better (in fact you received the best) and now it is time for some of the worse, yet you will not tolerate that will you? No, it is clear that you lied. You lied when we got married because now you are reneging on that vow. How do you think that makes me feel? Is it any surprise that I am angry with you when you question me since you have no standing to do so?
You accuse me of not listening. That is another lie. What is there for me to hear? You trot out the same old allegations which are unfounded. At times I cannot discern what you are actually saying because you are so hysterical. How on earth can I listen to you when you behave like that? It is downright unreasonable. You go off and complain about me to your friends and family. That is charming. You are denigrating me in their eyes and that is uncalled for. Yes, I may do it about you, but that is with some justification I might add. You also said you would forsake all others, yet how many times have I caught you flirting with other men from your workplace? What about those pictures of you and your friends with those men you met in a bar which were posted on Facebook. You thought I would not see them didn’t you? Yes, I keep a careful eye on what your friends’ post as they are not to be trusted, leading you astray when you promised that you would do not. Is it any wonder I feel compelled to spend time with other people when you treat me like this?
You accepted everything wonderful that I gave you and now when it is time to give back and add some balance to the equation you seek to escape your responsibilities by accusing me of all manner of misdemeanours and malevolent behaviour. Your hypocrisy sticks in my craw. I know your game, I have you in my eye. You are seeking to deflect attention from your own wrongdoing by telling lies about me. Ha! I have you worked out missy, I always have and you are not as smart as me. You deliberately misunderstand what I say. You imply and insinuate when I have made myself clear. I will not be beaten by your mendacity, no I will not. I will stand strong and ensure that I reflect back on to you the lies you have told. I must do this to avoid your desire to crush and destroy my fragile self with your perfidious ways. I never knew you could be so evil.
14 thoughts on “Every Victim Is Lying”
Is there any possibility that there is no red flags before getting married?
Can a narcissist remain polite and good before getting married and show his or her dark side after wedding? Or if I learn hard about narcissism and psychopathy I will recognize a danger?
1. There are always red flags. Sometimes they are few in number, but they are there. Other times there are many.
2. Often you do not know about the red flags – read Red Flag and Black Flag to learn more.
3. Even more often you see some of the red flags (maybe all) but you do not heed them – this is the impact of emotional thinking.
Classic textbook projection…..party of one….your tables ready.
Ha ha very good.
The shame of this is that you really believe we did you wrong!! It was my fault when I found out on face book you were seeing someone else! Just because you were to dumb to know how to block things from me seeing them! It was my fault that I just said have a good life instead of fighting with you about it! It was my fault that I finally said keep the money I don’t want it , use it for something the two of you want! Because I knew I would never see it again!! It was my fault I kept trying to get hold of you for weeks because I didn’t know if you were alive or dead! I said I would never hate you or join that club of exs that do , but God forgive me I do I hate you for all this hurt and betrayal and lies and for making me feel I just don’t want to go on living anymore!!!!!
What a strong statement. But to that feeling, when it happened to me, I said ” I will choose a better cause to surrender my life to. You, dear idiot, are not worth it!” It is possible.
Like I say: if you think I’m a goddamned bitch, chances are it’s because of you 🙂
There is truth in one again. At least you and your kind are able to see through other people’s lies and weaknesses, which eventually helps them to grow (a strange way Karma plays out).
Yes, I was a victim…. And yes, I lied to him ALL the time. Intentionally… I wanted him to confront me about why I was lieing to him so that I could slam him with the TRUTHFUL answer……. He never confronted me, but the answer was this…..( I’m lieing to you, because you stood on my Fathers Grave before I married u, and you kneeled down at his headstone and promised him that I was in good hands and would have a good, safe life with you )……… That was bullshit… His true intentions came out the day after I married him……. And then it was game on. 11 months of HELL…. Glad it’s over.
Do narcopaths shed actual tears when they cry?????
I know my husband says I am the cause of his feelings.
It is hard to squeeze them out but we can do it. We just summon up all the injustices, pain and sleights that this cruel world has heaped on us and the tears flow.
Wow. Nailed it….