Chained: The Narcissist’s Co-Dependent
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A very good complementary term for breaking the chains is self love. Because its true that umderstanding how a narcissist operates ( your books and blogs are the best source ever for this ) is part of breaking free, the other part is increasing self love. At least this was what worked for me. The two things.
I look forward to the book about sex with your type.
I would not add anything about codependance because I dont know much about it. I just heard from Ross R for the firsr time and then I could confirm with your book. What I do notice is that if I compare myself with the girl you had in your life then I am pretty different … So this is the scale I suppose….
Very good book! Like fuel that Im reading now and the best is how you explain fuel with this matrix and values! I just love it! I makes it so much easier to understand.. At least for me as Im pretty numerical 😃.
Ill come back with my comment when Im finished. And by the way I enjoy your tweets very much. I cant comment back though.
Reading you so much has started to somehow change my mind towards the relationship I have now..
Thanks Nikita, yes I think the matrix really helps people understand how they fit into our way of approaching and gathering fuel. I look forward to your further thoughts.
The book as I said above is good in terms to understand not so much what codependancy is in its roots but it illustrates very well how a codependant and a Narc interact and moreover the best use I had from this book was to confirm that yes I am a codependant. It would also be very uselful for someone who is looking for answers if they belong on this classification. Its very well described really into details that being the click as to yes I am or no I am not.
There were two things that I would have liked to read about but not mentioned by you. These are: the role that sexual attraction plays in being chained to a Narc because that is also part of that strange force of attracion. I dont know if its relevant only to the codependant and not to the empath but codependants also make strong sexual chains.
The other point that I missed was to have given space to mention that codependants also have kind of a spectrum, or maybe I could use your expression leser narc to explain my self. Leser codependants would be codependanst that prefer to feel the creature of loneliness rather than to take any kind of abuse. I would be then a leser codependant as I would not stand many of the things Tabitha did. Even if it would be like putting a sword in my heart I would hace left.
Please continue the good writting! I look forward to all the new books you mentioned on in the blog. I have bought already some of the older ones and look also forward to read them. Im now in the middle of fuel 😃.
Thank you Nikita, I a pleased you found it of use. The additional two areas you refer to are valid points. With regard to the question of sex, I did not include it as I am writing a book separately about the sexual element of doing the dance with our kind. With regard to the spectrum, I agree one exists. I did not address this as I am writing from our perspective and not from the perspective of the co-dependent. Of course if you would like to write something along those lines for circulation I would be interested to read it.
5.0 von 5 Stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ EXCELLENT BOOK, 6. Dezember 2015
Rezension bezieht sich auf: Chained : The Narcissist’s Co-Dependent (English Edition) (Kindle Edition)
For somebody who wants to understand what codependecy is and what consequences it has in the life of a codepedant, how it takes place in the life of those who suffer from it and a very general description on how to recover from it, then this is your book. Highly recommended. Read this if you want to find out or confirm if you are a codependant
Im on my iphone and it seems it works from a PC as you describe it. Thanks for the comments on my english 😃. I could finally comment directly from my kindle app last page of the book. It says that within 48 hours it will appear. I will check if it does not appear in Amazon.com and .de and if it doesnt I will do it from my PC.
Nice sunday ☀️
Hi. I found out now how to do it. Rating and comments are in 😃😃
I finished Chained. Impressive for those of my kind. I do have my comments and thoughts which I will put into words this week. Just wanted to tell you I cant comment in Amazon.de nor in the kindle store. It tells me that I already bought the book but i find no space for comments sorry.. 😔. I clicked all over but did not find.
Hi Nikita, I look forward to your thoughts. To leave a review go to the book’s page on Amazon. Underneath the book title and my name you will see “Geben sie die erste…” click there and it will take you to the review page where you can leave your thoughts. You can do the same on Amazon.com which since you are able to speak English so well, it would be worthwhile posting your review there also to help other prospective readers. Thank you.
So I finally was succesfull and just bought this book 👍🏻. Ill let you know what I tjink about… Unfortunately I suffer from codependency 😰 having being my dads princess… I suppose it started there..
I look forward to your observations in due course Nikita. Ah, Daddy’s princess. Prime material for my kind I fear.
Do u discuss female narcissists or just male ones?
I tend to use the male POV but the behaviours are equally applicable to female narcissists. The main difference is that female narcissists are able to use looks and sexuality to a greater degree during seduction and devaluation(as a general rule) than men. Men (again as a general rule) have a greater propensity to use physical violence during devaluation, although in both instances there are exceptions. If you want to read about a female POV then Narcissist:Seduction and Narcissist:Ensnared are all about a female narcissist. You can read them on Amazon. You will no doubt find them fascinating. Do you want articles from the female POV also and/or discussions appertaining to female narcissists? I can apply my mind to that if it is of interest although it may not be quite as visceral.
I agree with you there. Using looks and just the lure of hot sex has kept some weak foolish men trapped for years. Sure articles from female POV are definitely not as prevalent but necessary.
Duly noted. I may need to obtain some input from Kat.
A recent poster who is one of my kind.