We never act alone. All through your entanglement with us we will utilise the services and dedication of those who are loyal to us. Before we have even spoken to you we will be compiling a dossier of information about you by contacting those who know you. We will utilise our lieutenants to approach you and gather intelligence which will all be passed back to us for the purpose of analysis and subsequent application. Once our seduction of you has begun you will be taken in by my butterflies. The butterflies are those who do my bidding and they always do, who always appear and please you. Like a beautiful butterfly he or she will flutter around you, making you smile with his or her pleasantries, charm and general goodness. Like a butterfly with striking colours and that delicate movement they have been sent to enchant you on my behalf and alongside my own endeavours. My butterflies will only ever say pleasant things to you, repeating and consolidating the charming words which I have sent your way. They will flutter around you complimenting the things that you, how you look and who you are. They will remark what a wonderful couple we are together and how they can see it lasting forever. Primed with all the speeches, sentences and rhetoric that we use, these butterflies will remind you of all our magnificent attributes and thus reinforce how fortunate you are to be with someone like us. They will point out how happy you are and confirm that you make us happy too, far happier than that other harpy that came before you. You must watch out for her by the way, she is a trouble maker and will want to split you and us up. These butterflies will primarily be friends of ours but over time we will want to recruit your own friends and family to be our butterflies as well. Not only is such a recruitment a massive boost to our egos, it also means that there will be added credibility when they fly around you issuing their compliments about us both. When you are told time and time again how wonderful you are, how sensational we are and how magnificent we are together, any doubts that you may have had,any degree of modesty about such over compliments will soon melt away as the array of fluttering butterflies transfixes you.
Real butterflies only live for somewhere between one and five weeks and like their real-life counterparts my butterflies have a limited shelf life as well. This of course is down to you because as usual you always end up spoiling everything. If you maintained my interest and ensured that the high-grade, positive fuel you have supplied for the last year or so was maintained then my butterflies would have continued but your fuel diminishes, it turns stale and is not at the required level we demand. Accordingly, the selfishness you exhibit in behaving in this manner causes those beautiful and mesmerising butterflies to fade away. Your lack of loyalty and treachery means that these beautiful creatures become replaced by my crows.
Noisy, dark and petulant my crows will descend on you as I commence my devaluation of you. Remember you have brought this on yourself so you cannot expect any sympathy from my dark minions who have been recruited, brainwashed and controlled in order to further my own malevolent ambitions. My crows act at my command as they, like you, relish any opportunity to gain my favour and attention. Like some medieval king I will grant them access to me and allowing the crow to bask in my radiant brilliance secures their loyalty. Like the butterflies my crows come from my ranks of friends and family but once again I shall seek to corrupt those from your support networks so that they might first appear as a butterfly before transforming into a squawking and mocking crow. It is even the case that some of my cast-offs, desperate to remain around me and be subjected to my wonderful largesse are recruited as my minions. Thinking that they will win my favour and more importantly keep you from it, they readily agree to carry out my will. Some of my minions do not realise that they have been manipulated into doing what I want. Instead they carry out my instructions in an oblivious fashion. Others are well aware that they act as my agents of destruction but they revel in this role. Their loyalty is without question. I have flattered and charmed them as I did with you. They recognise you as the enemy who has sort to usurp their king and therefore you must be destroyed. No wonder the collective noun for a crows is a murder.
My crows are unleashed to perpetuate the devaluation against you. My dark minions come forth in order to do my bidding. The crows flap around you, their dark wings making it difficult for you to see clearly. Their incessant squawking fills your ears as they scold you for your treason. My crows move quickly, announcing to your support network the terrible way you have behaved and before they can be struck down they fly away to flap around you once more, their cacophony of insults swirling about you. This near constant noise of insult and vitriol has all been fed to them by me. Like dark messengers they repeatedly assail you with their name calling and lies, making you anxious as you are under sustained attack. You try and swipe them to one side but they merely dodge your attempts and continue to mock you. As you grow weaker from these repeated assaults they fly closer and then begin to peck at you. Just as we control you through our notorious salami-slicing techniques this pecking from my crows steadily erodes your confidence, your self-esteem, your self-worth and your identity. The crows land on your shoulder and with vicious beaks peck away something more of you as you try to fight them off but the weakness that has gripped you makes this difficult. More crows come, ordered by me to continue this campaign against you. The deployment of my dark minions saves me energy and allows me to create my butterflies for my new target whilst you lie there curled up in a ball, the dark crows hopping over you, twisted beaks pecking at you, weakening you further. Those in my coterie, my lieutenants, my agents of darkness provide a fundamental role in both my seduction and devaluation of you. I cannot succeed without them and will always ensure that I have both a box of butterflies to open for you and a tree full of black crows waiting to attack you. Perhaps you need to find a scarecrow?
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FYI The reason I ask is because I want to know if it is possible to have two narcs going head to head in a relationship. Or if it is possible to turn the empath into a narc because of the abuse etc? Again Gone Girl will illustrate this. Watch it and respond. Your response would be interesting to me. ?
1. See the articles When Narcissists Collide.
3. As explained, I am not interested in watching it.
Have you ever met your match HG??? Ever seen the movie Gone Girl?
No I have not. No I have not see the film, doesn’t interest me.
Why doesn’t it interest you?
I really do not like Ben Affleck.
So funny. I see my N CLEAR AS DAY now. I have NO PROBLEM with contact with him. I feel power over HIM now when he tries to HOOVER. I am actually entertained by it. God bless you HG. YOU have empowered me! Xo 🙂
You are welcome.
this is the best information I have ever read and I’ve read ALOT.
Thank you Rhonda.
Lol I don’t know nikitalondon . She certainly seems to have some of his traits. Either way they’re well matched . It’s a recipe for disaster on a massive scale , I Just wish I could be there to see it 🙂 x
Thanks again HG !!! . Very reassuring . I think after reading your last comment I can finally relax a little . Phewwwww.. After more than a year it comes as a huge relief though I’m baffled why she needs fuel from me too .
I’ve lost count of the times I’ve had to literally walk away from my KB rather than be provoked into responding to either of them ..BUT it won’t happen now . Thanks to the responses I can see them both for what they are & happy to leave them to it . I would like to say I feel sorry her as she’s obviously being manipulated & controlled, but her comments spout venom , hatred & threats. I’ve been called a whore & a liar by her and she appears to be taking great pleasure at the thought of trying to destroy me . For that I can only feel indifference towards her . She has no idea whats ahead of her .. it’s already started.
Sorry you get a hard time, but we all know you like it 🙂
Ha ha but of course I do.
So sad maybe she is also a narc and your X thinks he has fishes the wonderful empath …
So, in my case there is no triangularion. He did try to hoover me, almost happened while he was lining up the new supply and suddently descard. That is not what I am concerned about though. What is really strange is that this time he really is different. It is almost like the world has stopped for him and only she exists. That is also not my concern. What is really strange and I cant find answers on it, even in NO CONTACT(which I just red) is that he was hiding her from me and intead of triangulation, he is protecting her from me. Why? I am not the kind of person to go talk to her, he knows it, I dont want him, he knows it, he is not carrying about our kid and I am perfectly fine with that, and he knows it. So, why the hiding and not telling me and keeping her away?
He will be triangulating you with her. He will have made you out to be the crazy ex and therefore to show how wonderful he is he is protecting her by keeping her away. He will be doing this to gain fuel from her by warning her about you but telling her, “She is crazy but don’t worry I won’t let her get near to you, I will keep you safe, aren’t I wonderful?”
Yeah, that makes sense. For an instant I taught that he was planning a grand finale by suddently rubbing her in my face. Unfortunatelly for him i know his patterns very well, so the surprise meant to destroy me didnt work out. Thank you! As always, very helpful
You are welcome.
Whomever had a relationship with a Narc will find his or her sexual life in those lines.. Sometimes so exact its disturbing.
By the way HG i always wanted to ask you and forget, those 4 categories you of narc ( men) that you describe in sex, do they apply the same to women? Also somatic, elite etc?
They do Nikita.
P.s What is ” chaos mode” ?
You will have to read No Contact to learn about that.
Already reading it HG Ty .:)
He didn’t go into ” chaos mode ” I know that now , because he left me for his new source of fuel at the same time putting me through hell with the escalating violence .
My question remains, am I in danger from them both please ? It’s obvious that he’s controlling her already .
Every night I go to bed with lights blazing outside and a panic alarm over a year on ..
You are in danger of being used for fuel by way of this triangulation. Whether you are in any danger beyond that, in terms of your physical safety is unlikely. It most likely would have happened by now and such an escalation would play into your hands by involvement of the authorities. They are using triangulation and intimidation to draw fuel. Keep reading and seek further advices from here, the other posters are an astute group even if they give me a hard time !
Thank you Karaa & HG I appreciate your comments . So the selfish …. … d isn’t just happy with one supply he want’s two ? Is it because he’s lost his supply from me because I’ve gone NC ? he still wants to control me ? So the best way to continue to protect myself is through NC right ? OR will that not push their boundaries offline & into real life ? I worry constantly about it , that he’s so controlling over over her that she’ll do anything he asks ..
It scares me …
Wow .. what a breakthrough, I finally got an answer to the question I’ve been asking for so long ..
Thank you both sooo much !! Love this blog. xxx
You are welcome So Sad. When you went NC you cut off his primary source of fuel. He needs this. Dependent on how close he was to extracting fuel from a new primary source he had waiting in the wings he will Hoover you and if that works turn to the new source(or go into Chaos Mode if one has not been set up). He wants to use you to gain fuel from the new source through triangulation and also to Hoover you through triangulation as Hoover fuel is strong fuel. In essence, he wants you battling over him. Glad you like the blog. Have a read of No Contact as it will certainly help you understand his motivations by using her.
Thank you HG for giving me such a wonderful insight , you really have made my day . I have asked the ” professionals” the same question so many times & never been given the answer .
I certainly will read no contact.
Your complicated beings HG :)I’ll give you that . Thanks again for this blog it’s helping me understand more than any councilor or Psychiatrist , in fact they should all be made to read it x
Thank you for that endorsement So Sad, I appreciate it.
Hugs so sad, resolution and peace of mind is essential to healing. xxx HG is brilliant in his imparting of wisdom and giving resolution to others. We should all drink of his cup, well, probably not his, as that wouldn’t be permitted. But maybe more like a punch bowl, where we each have our own cup to dip into and drink of his knowledge.
Oh you are always welcome to drink from my chalice Kara.
“My cup runneth over” with joy. Was this a line from sex and the Narcsisist btw…..it screams euphuism 😏 I suppose you will now tell me to read the book.
Read the book. See how I never disappoint.
That’s one I don’t need to read 😊
Yes you do. I say so.
What’s in that book I need to read?
Read it and you will find out ! Most likely much of your own behaviour I should imagine.
No doubt as you think we all respond as carbon copies of each other from the woman Xerox 😏
That book is no longer on Amazon btw, I checked.
Here it is
It gets caught by filters as it is sexual in nature. Bit like you I guess.
Euphemisms are subtle and tame, I never thought about the filters.
They are a pain actually. That is why I ran the post for this book again last night as I suspect many people cannot see it when they look across the portfolio and it is an important work.
Yes Karaa in Amazon.com. I just went to see and I reached it.
What Is Love?: A Guide for the Perplexed to Matters of the Heart (English Edition)
Thomas G. Fiffer
And if not look for the author in facebook and he has posted in his wall.
Let me know.
Yes, I bought that book other day, Nikita, I have so many books On the go, still on my to read list.
Me too. From HG
No the one you recommended 😊
Ahhh you meant sex. Karaa this you also have to read. Its great. HG’s masterpiece.
Thank you Karaa . Today has certainly opened my eyes . Both your comments have helped me more than I can ever explain .
nikitalondon you too x
Do you only use men in a work environment though or do you men to triangulate women as well….I don’t use anyone, I am a good girl 😇
You’re spot on karaa34! It never ceases to amaze me how weak minded and willfully ignorant the narc followers can be. What usually happens after the narc uses them for their purposes? The narc eventually turns on them and makes them the target.
I just don’t understand how these weaklings/dummies become so devoted to the narc knowing that the narc has a track record of abhorrent behavior…and yet still believe that the narc isn’t going to do them in. I’ve always been the type who didn’t care who accepted me or not as long as Jehovah God Almighty and Jesus Christ accepts me. I thank God that he fights my battle against them and gives me strength to wage war against these people who have tried to do me in. Since I’m an introvert my mind is always thinking and going and going and staying steps ahead.
Also, Thank you HG for the useful information. Your information has confirmed to me about all these years I have had to wage war against different narcs and that the strategies that I’ve used/currently using are accurate and precise.
You are welcome Lowprofile. What you describe above is testament to the truly spectacular manipulative power that we are able to wield over certain people.
Hi lowprofile, I just find it all the more distressing that women do this against each other at the advisement of a man…who doesn’t even love them or consider them anymore then a tool of destruction. I love men. But, I despise manipulation and backstabbing tactics.
It is good you keep your faith through all your struggles. Don’t hold onto anger for the narcs or their minions, their path is darkened. Keep them In Your prayers instead if you can. And wish them light.
Yes, HG has opened my eyes as well to the wily ways of the wayward. He is an excellent tutor/ Tudor on all things Narcissistic.
I would rather a lone wolf, the interference of others made it all the more disturbing. Why must women tear each other down? Bad enough they do it because of their own jealousy, but to do it on the command of a man they are smitten with and also being used by…..double tsk. How often do you use men as minions, HG ?
I use men frequently as well.
Hi Karaa . Ex narcs new supply has tried to do this with this with me , she’s willingly posting things online with his knowledge & no doubt his encouragement. It appears that they both will be happy to aid me in my self destruction in fact they want to see it happen . She despises me or so she implies , whereas I think she sees me as a threat to her relationship with him , not a good start for two people who are supposed to be so happy & in love . If they are so happy , I have to ask why am I the center of their attention .. ? !! HG ????
In a word – triangulation. He is manipulating both of you. He makes you appear a threat to her, hence her complicity in attacking you. This in turn is done to provoke a response from you. He gets fuel from two srouces.
HG you are a healer 😃😃. I bet this reasponse gives Sosad a relief…
Sending you lots of forces so sad…💝.
She does see you as threat, because he has made her see you that way, he planted those seeds to his own advantage. A perfect example of what I stated the mindless cult following that occurs with such people, that this woman or any woman, would attack another under the tutelage of their ” beloved” it apalls me to no end. I had three of those types and they never saw he was using them to do his dirty work for him, as they were so devoted blinded by his ” love”…let us be thankful that our moral standing and conscience would never stoop so low to intentionally harm another at the whim or will of another’s request or devotion.
I never ha the butterflies or crows. Maybe my ex isn’t a fully fledged narc ?
Excellent article as always but in 3 relationships with N’s I have never noticed nor butterflies nor crows.. So either I never had them or I did not understand the posting. I feel excluded 😂.
HG i just love how you write!!!
Perhaps you had a rare lone wolf Nikita or perhaps they were so subtle you just never saw them.
HG its been 3 wolves…. The second one in fact had tons of friends and family around and a super active social life but I never had that impression of butterflies and crows. At the end he did make a smear campaign against me and won to his side my family.. It could have been crows then… I forgot. So many yeard now and I did delete all this from my head.
My last ex did have some friends but nobody became a butterfly nor a crow.
Crows would have been impossible as he only had a s friends very sweet and nice people. At least the ones he introduced me too.
Thanks HG. As always great article and really helps to keep me in check and remind me it’s not not ever worth trying to play games with the MN. I have gained my sense f self more than I had pre MN and that’s enough for me.
He has too many minions (idiots) including the N.
You are welcome Alexis.
The only problem is I can see your butterflies, you have painted their wings neon. I have My net waiting for them, I see them in the distance as they approach. Although, I do not let you know I see them. As they are very pretty and lovely, I agree. I think they would make a wonderful addition to my Collection. You know. The ones I collected before when you sent them and continued to send them, thinking I was unaware of their presence . That such ways and words and entities just float in with the wind to my direction and land upon me unintentionally. Why must you always under estimate my ability to know..it will be your downfall. As I will not share my knowledge with you. Send your pretty visions my way, I am awaiting their arrival.
Along with your crows, how they fixate about shiny objects. So, in that I must still shine for you in some ways. Let your birds unleash their will upon me, they will show themselves for that they are to the others. By their very slight and insult at me, provocation that is unprovoked will spotlight their will and your hand In it. I will stand strong knowing I am not at fault, I have not destroyed you or deceived you and I will watch them retreat on the horizon, having failed to do your successful bidding. I may even feed them before they ascend.
I wonder, am I too strong for you to defeat alone. That you require the others to hide behind and do your bidding. This makes me smile, that you think me strong. Remember, I loved you.
And what would a scarecrow be?
No Contact, naturally.
And if no contact is ignored, phone doesn’t stop ringing, emails keep coming, more forceful everyday demanding contact, what must be done? It seems the more I go grey rock and remain mute the more it fuels? Instead of the opposite? So now the game is reversed the more I go no contact the more fuel it gives? What happens next? Authorities notified? Would that not be a very juicy fuel line?
When you write “if no contact is ignored” do you mean you are not implementing it or do you mean the narcissist is not backing off and seems to be ingoignoring No Contact?
I mean the narc, I don’t answer the calls, emails, blocked the texting, give bland responses to the required contact of having to have belongings picked up. And yet now it’s full on badgering to gain access to a child he has no rights to, messages of missing, caring and loving me. Of him being so sad and alone, even though the truth is he has a fantastic new young lover and wonderful trips and money galore. Why can I not be tossed to the wayside and ignored and forgotten? Is it because he knows that’s what I want?
He wants your Fuel. He will keep on with this Hoovering until you give in or he is forced, by his need for fuel to go elsewhere. A hoover is not a one off act. Read No Contact and you will understand precisely what to do.
No contact definitely works. I have deployed this method on family members and a former bestfriend. I have blocked all forms of communication from them and will not allow them to slip in through any crack and crevice. One minion family (Who is working on behalf of my sociopathic and narcissistic family members) member tried to send a Christmas card because he couldn’t get through by phone or email and I never acknowledged the card or sent them one back. If they were to come to my door I would not answer it. If they insist on getting in I will take the nuclear option and call my local Public safety on them. In my world these people are dead to me and I will never speak with them again, which I’m pretty sure they’re fuming in a narcissistic rage.
I have always been the type to deploy no contact because I do not tolerate with being manipulated or mistreated. Once a person crosses the fine line with me, they become dead to me and I act as if they never existed…There is no going back with me.
An experienced practitioner with an apt name.